what are the reasons for easily getting furious & angry?

Question

plz ,tell me how 2 b calm& patient ,coz my bad-temper & very rare self-restraint really affects my life terribly.

does it has anything to do with being a virgin?

Answer 1

Seriously, this could be several things. It could be anything from hypoglocemia to bipolar or anything in between. Go to the doc and have it checked out. And no, it doesnt have anything to do with being a virgin. Good for you, btw! :) You might want to keep a journal to see when these episodes are at their worst. In the meantime, when you feel your chest get tight and you know you're about to go off, take a deep breath and close your eyes. Count to 100 while deep-breathing. It will help- promise. :) Good luck!

Answer 2

You didn't mention your age but since you mentioned being a virgin, I would assume you are still young. When you are a teenager, your body experiences a lot of different emotions which would/could make you feel like you are on a roller coaster ride. This is part of growing up. One thing that you can do is take long deep breathes & do something you really like to do: read, play with you pets. What I did when I was a teenager & I do it from time to time now, is to go to a quite place & write down my frustrations then try to figure out what was the cause of the frustration and/or anger.
It has nothing to do with you being a virgin, unless your partner is nagging the heck out of you to give in to his lusty desires. One of the best things you can do for that is ask him if you can drive his vehicle if he says yes, get in the driver seat & take off leaving him standing in the middle of no where. Leave him there for about 10 minutes or so then go back to get but do not get out of the car because he might leave you then.

Answer 3

Being a virgin has nothing to do with it. If anything be proud that you have maintained your virginity for somebody special.
I am going to assume that you are between 14 - 20 yrs old, possibly still at home. I would start with your mother. Does she have patience? Do you come from a broken home? Do you have good friends to hang with? Is your problem Anger or Self Pity? - To many possibility's. Try keeping a tantrum diary - write when, why, who, because you felt etc.... that way when your calm you can look back at those pages and see if there is a pattern.

Answer 4

of course it has nothing to do with being a virgin.
sometimes people need time to express how they feel. the problem is: how to deliver it. you can lose control if you think that you are the 'victim' of the situation and this can drive you out of rationality. let me help you with simple logic.

think about the people you are angry at:
is he/she suffering in this situation? (if the answer is no, continue)
does he/she mean to do this? (if the answer is yes, continue)
is he/she taking advantage of this situation?
if the answer of the last question is yes, say what you think can change the situation so they can't manipulate you, such as: i disagree..., i dont like your way..., i think it's better if you..., just say what you want from the opposite side. you will find that it is very easy..

but be careful: when you lose control, they can easily take over the situation and keep going as they wish because you already can't think with your rational mind.
it worked with me, and i'm virgin :)

Answer 5

does it happen any particular time of the month? could be PMS (for real).... or what they call PMDD - premenstrual Mood Disorder. Some girls (like me) get REAL (extremely so) irritable and agitated a few days before their period. Sounds like it could be hormonal.

Also, might be attention deficit disorder, which can manifest itself this way in girls. Before I got on meds for ADD, I was so irritable all the time (annoyed and distracted by every little noise - the guy on the elevator jingling the change in his pocket, my co-worker smacking her gum, somebody down the hall clicking his pen, cell phones, cell phones, cell phones!) I was enraged all the time! It was the ADD. Now I'm still aware of all the tiny little noises that nobody else is even aware of but they don't get me so mad. Something to think about.

Answer 6

Frustration with life situation, bipolar disorder is a possibility. If the latter medication and psychotherapy would help. In the former case, anger management classes and therapy are indicated. In some cases, I have seen no clear answer.

Answer 7

It could very well be caused from childhood. Look back was there someone in your life very easily angered, do you think your frusrated over an issue in your childhood. It is very possible Here's a good book to try, overcoming hurts and anger by Dwight L. Carlson, M.D

Answer 8

well i have bursts of anger and bittterness but im going through a seperation. i used to have a really bad temper when i was young, but I got better when i became a christian............i rarely ever got mad outside but I did on the inside.......over the 19 years i went to chuch I kept all this in and now I think its finally coming out........we just need to learn to walk away ...kick something real hard and stay away from whats causing the anger...........

Answer 9

Low blood suger- just eat to fix that. And imagine being calm. Do it often and within a month you'll be really calm. Don't allow angry thoghts in.

Answer 10

Most of the ups and downs of the mood are related with an over consumption of sugar and refined products in your meals - white rice, pasta and bread etc.

This products make your sugars go up and down very fast in your blood and also your mood.

Kathleen DesMaisons (Ph.D.) was the first one to show that in her Ph.D

I advise you to take a look at

http://www.radiantrecovery.com/bloodsugar.htm

good luck on your quest!