My boyfriend and I have only been dating 9 1/2 months, but we are living together and see each other everyday. We are very much in love, and very much a together-couple - we're still head over heels for one another! But I've recently come to a crossroads in my life and my career, and I may need to make some changes, possibly even geographic ones. If he has plans for us to marry someday, he doesn't say so... he refers to a future together, even a long-term one ("When we retire in 'x' years...") but he also says things like "If I get married..." or "When I get married..." never "we" and never anything that is specifically about us or refers to us. If I am to remain where I am, living in our apartment with him, I need to know if he sees a legitimate future together, with a wedding and children. I don't necessarily need a ring right now, but I would like to know if there will ever be a ring for me from him. Again - no rush - but he is significantly older, so I don't want to drag our feet either.
My question (apologies for the preamble): how do I broach the topic? Bear in mind, I'm not looking for a proposal, but I do need to know if he wants to get married and have children someday, because I definitely do and if he doesn't, then no matter how much we love each other, it would be a dealbreaker. I just need to know what he wants from life, and if there's a timeline, too. How do I ask?
2006-06-23
04:23:19
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Marriage & Divorce