I have wedding invite for husband & me. Husband will be working. Is it ok for me to just attend the wedding ceremony & not the reception? Can I tell her this on RSVP card? It is a former co-worker-very nice- not close friend. I would like to just go to her wedding & bring a gift, but not attend the reception.
2006-06-23 04:24:39 · 16 answers · asked by Jacey 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
yes its o k but let her know you wont be going to the reception otherwise she will be paying for you're meal
2006-06-23 04:30:23 · answer #1 · answered by frogger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, the ceremony itself is a church service, and theoretically open to any church members who care to attend, to anyone at all if it is one of those "everyone welcome" churches. But that doesn't answer your question.
Yes, it is OK. Enclose a note with the RSVP card, saying that you will NOT be attending the reception, but will be present for the ceremony. Don't give a reason, just regret that you will unable to attend. The bride will be pleased to know that you care enough to want to see her take her vows, even if you can't stay for the party afterwards.
Don't bring the gift to the wedding. This creates problems for the hosts, such as protecting the gifts from thieves and getting them back home, plus keeping track of who gave which package so that appropriate 'thank you' notes can be written. It's OK to send or drop off the gift any time between now and 2 weeks after the wedding, including at the same time you send or deliver that note.
2006-06-23 12:31:32 · answer #2 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's completely OK. In fact, she should really appreciate that you're taking the time to come to the ceremony, and I'm sure she'll understand that you don't want to go to the reception alone. And yes, you can tell her on the RSVP card. I would say that's probably the best way to tell her. Just write her a short little note on the card.
2006-06-24 22:38:02 · answer #3 · answered by KrisD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is a most reasonable explanation for you not attending the reception and it is quite common. It certainly is better than attending the reception and not ceremony, which is WRONG!!! Yes, let her know on the RSVP card so she does not pay for a meal.
2006-06-23 12:05:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is absolutely totally acceptable! On the RSVP just say that you will not be attending. The ceremony location doesnt usually need to know an exact count so if you just show up to the ceremony to support her and congratulate her, that is fine!
2006-06-23 14:45:34 · answer #5 · answered by jenniferaboston 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, that's just fine. Just note that on the RSVP. She may be grateful for your attendance and gift and for not having to pay for you at the reception. That is perfectly acceptable.
2006-06-23 11:37:19 · answer #6 · answered by bubb1e_gir1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course! She shoudl just be glad that you are coming at all! The ceremony is the most important part anyhow! Plus you will be saving her money by not coming to the reception, so she should be fine with it! Your not being rude at all! It's the thought that counts!
2006-06-23 12:25:08 · answer #7 · answered by nalerij 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You bet...by doing this you're saving the bride and groom money!!! They don't have to pay for your dinner at the reception, but still receive a gift. It's the opposite that's a little bit ruder.
2006-06-23 14:00:15 · answer #8 · answered by KL 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it's ok. what would be rude is going to the reception and not the wedding. just let her know that you won't be able to attend so she can take you off the catering list.
2006-06-23 12:53:55 · answer #9 · answered by Brandie C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no problem with doing this.
Just let her know for sure so she doesn't include you in her final count for the food at the reception.
2006-06-23 11:57:10 · answer #10 · answered by hullo? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, it is perfectly fine.
a) You need to let her know that you would not be there for the reception.
b) Also that your husband would not be preset at the ceremony.
If you wish to entertain them later on, you could call them over for dinner at your place and let your husband meet her husband.
2006-06-23 12:40:13 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋