I'm a 43 year-old black, gay, unpartnered male. I started my coming-out process around age 30. I had a rather poor relationship with an emotionally volatile mother and a father who was more "businesslike". I was a pretty sensitive adolescent - wouldn't wish being a Pisces on anyone. Most of my 20's were spent working in the suburbs and going to church, hoping the gay thing would just evaporate. In my 30's I did a 180, figuring it was real, and starting a coming-out process at age 30, hoping to find dating partners and ... "experiences". I rarely got the latter; none of the former. At 43, I face the prospect - and I'm not unique, of course, I realize that - that I may wind up "flying solo" for life. No cutie to call a partner, no one to hold hands with, no intimate fantasies fulfilled. (Too much information? Sorry. I'm taking a chance posting this here.) Maybe I didn't take enough chances. Maybe I should have moved elsewhere. Ideas, anyone?
2006-10-30
18:08:52
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