If you have items that you no longer need, should you be compelled to give them to "family" instead of someone else with a greater need?
I gave my 5 year old digital camera to my father in law's housekeeper. She had wanted advice to buy one, but I though that this lady is so good to my wife's dad, I gladly give it to her as a gift.
Now my wife's [college educated, high salaried] brother and wife are upset, saying "family should come first".
My wife is waffling, but I'd rather give according to need. The cleaning woman was interested in buying a camera to take pictures of her kids, etc, and has an income far beneath the brother in law and his wife....who have showed no interest in photography, and could easily buy this same camera on eBay for $60. To me, their only interest seemed to be getting something for "free",
Anyone else in this position? A friend calls it the "family comes first tax".
PS father in law is very happy with my decision, which is all that mattered!!
2007-12-31
10:30:27
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PaoloPH
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