Psychology - December 2007

If there is anyone in this forum who has gone thru therapy to overcome childhood abuse, please tell me what methods you have learned. I have good health ins. which will pay for 80 %, but at this time can't afford to pay the other 20 %. I was terribly abused verbally by my mother, who criticized me everyday, would give me the silent treatment for days at a time, would sit and glare at me for hours, ridicule me to relatives and friends, who would in turn add to the insults. My brother tells me that when I was 3 and he was 6, she would scream at us to get out of bed on Saturday mornings and tell us to iron the clothes and clean the house because we were lazy no good children, then she would storm out of the house to shop at the thrift stores. If I accidently broke something of hers while cooking or cleaning, I would beg my brother to kill me so that I wouldn't have to face her rage. I have grown up to be a terrified, depressed adult, but now want to have a good life.

2007-12-28 07:58:43 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

Why can't I find any online materials on reverse psychology???? I need to do a research on reverse psychology vs. confronting ( as far as which one is more effective in changing a negative behavior in a person into a positive behavior). Does anyone know any sites on reverse psychology?

2007-12-28 07:08:42 · 3 answers · asked by Megan C 1

I find life very boring, and I would like to know what others find purposeful in life

2007-12-28 07:05:22 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous

so im a freshman in high school and it seems that my life right now isnt getting any better. what i once consider to be a highlight in life is now a big disappointment~~high school is horrible! i have a few close friends and i have a great family and life but i still dont know what the problem is. maybe i reminisce about life as a kid and i now reliaze that now my childhood is over and im now ready for adulthood. i just wish I could either turn back time and stay a kid for the rest of my life or fast forward time and live life as an adult in my 20s or 30s. are there any people here that have gone through what im going through and if so...does life get any better after high school?

2007-12-28 06:41:27 · 75 answers · asked by brandon 1

I cant explain it.I feel as if there is something wrong. I feel sick when i think about my feelings towards the oppisite sex, somewhat embaressed,
I've lost intrest in life. I used to be genuinly happy but now its a basic show i'm putting on and noone is any the wizer.Which is good becuase i dont want anyone to think i'm sad or depressed becuase noone wants to spend time with someone like that,Do they.
I just keeping going over and over the reasons of why were alive and How soo piontless this all is.
=)
I mean I'm going to die for sure at the end and i just keep imagining myself as that thing in a coffin and it makes me feel sick to think that i wont be breathing or my hear will stop, Since i'm clostaphobic it all seems a bit upsetting to me.
I know i shouldn't and i try to stop myself by placing myself in a fantasy world, but then i quickly come back to earth and look at the reality of things, and if its not that i'm 15 and doing my gcses and my head seems like its going to explode

2007-12-28 05:37:51 · 15 answers · asked by Huggles [mozzafan] 4

My husband and I have been married for 6 years. We have 3 children. I found out that my husband and a mutual friend of ours were playing cell phone tag at all hours of the day/night. This girl has never called our house before and from what I knew of her, I didn't think they talked outside of get togethers. I asked him what they talked about and he said she was complaining about "her relationship". Weeks went by and he let it slip that they had slept together before he and I hooked up. He carries his cell phone on him day/night. He doesn't do anything with out. I've told him how frustrating that is, but he's never changed his ways. He has always denied cheating on me.. I just need to know how to find out if there was something going on.. I've dealt with depression since all of this started.

How can you gain trust in your husband when he keeps hiding secrets from you?

2007-12-28 05:21:40 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

When I was five, before my mother tucked me into bed, I would hide under the covers. As I lay there hidden, I used to wonder what I looked like hidden and could you tell that I was hidden underneath simply by looking at the covers. One night, no sooner did I have that thought, I was floating over my bed, looking down at myself. I couldn't tell if I waas hidden so I moved up to the ceiling and to the side of the bed and I remember thinking, "Well, yeah, you can see the whole outline of my body. I'm not really hidden." Through the doorway I could see the living room and my mother getting up from the couch to come tuck me in. The next thing I see is my mother removing the covers from my head and tucking me in.

Has anyone had a similar experience? I've never been able to repeat it.
Did it change you? Any information about this would be welcome.

2007-12-28 04:44:39 · 2 answers · asked by Robert O 7

2007-12-28 04:24:51 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

Best Answer = 10 points

2007-12-28 04:18:24 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am a woman..who cannot understand this guy I met recently in my job. We've often flirted before and had a connection..he even told me he was falling for me one day when we chatted..then one day you know kisses etc but not sex (he tried, but Im the type that waits a bit) . Seems like the usual start of something but he didn't contact me next day, or next day, or next day!! I contacted him and suggested meeting up...and he replied...a few days later & its too late as I had left to go back to the state I live in. then he contacted me on and off but never talk about his feelings. now he is calling me to say he will come to see me (I live in another state) and I hear feelings in his voice. WHAT'S GOING ON IN THIS MAN'S HEAD? Is he a bit unstable? It seems strange to me. Mutual colleagues really like him. Did he feel rejected when I didnt move as quickly as him physically?

2007-12-28 04:02:39 · 11 answers · asked by trying it 1

2007-12-28 03:48:45 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

...a suicide killer elimnates any possiblity of closure?

2007-12-28 03:43:24 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

If I imagine something small like a certain episode of a tv show I want to watch and just completely forget about it, it usually comes on tv within the next couple of days to a couple weeks maximum.
However, when I am constantly imagining something I really want through visualization 10-20 mins a day, nothing happens... why? Is it because I am too attached and if so how do I just become detached from it?
Is visualization stopping me from getting what I want?
Thanks

2007-12-28 03:32:34 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

here's the situation.Im try my best to make a long story short.
Im 23 and my girl is 20.we been together for a year and 3 months.She has my name tatooed on her back.She had a hard life,mom died when she was young and her father was abusive.She has a godmother though that she considers her mother and her family.
here's the problem.me and my girl had broke up for 2 weeks about 3 months ago but got back together.My mom claimed her older sister had called and made threats saying she was gon kill me or hurt me next time I hurt her sister or something like that.My girl said my mom is lying and that her sister would never say anything like that.Make a long story short my girl and mom got into a big argument over this because my mom dont want me to go over there.I know Im grown and make my own decisons but I dont wanna worry my mom to death.My girl is real pissed off and said I got my mom to thank for ruining the relationship.
What should I do

2007-12-28 03:31:45 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

when I told her this she says if he is she doesnt want to know about it. What do you call her behavior/attitude?

2007-12-28 03:30:45 · 9 answers · asked by WhatTheHay? 1

Is it common for a woman to describe her boyfreind as a significant other or is the woman describing a girl friend as a significant other,

2007-12-28 03:28:11 · 2 answers · asked by Rogernyc 1

why are they like this ?

2007-12-28 03:22:13 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

What I mean is, when ever I tell my psychiatrist something, he always seems to sort of repudiate(god what a big word!) what I had tried to say with my own words, but the way he does it, i dont think he does it one purpose.

2007-12-28 03:17:33 · 9 answers · asked by hfdakj 1

i am so bored at work today. what should i do to motivate myself?

2007-12-28 03:14:55 · 8 answers · asked by Duff Man 3

I had a dream i was sitting in this park type thing with my mom, my ex [were still friends so nothing weird about that] and three scottish or irish accented guys. My mom & my ex were off to the side talking which isnt abnormal at all and i was sitting in the center with these three guys. They had just gotten done with a protest and then when we got done talking one is specific after i said bye he said no not bye, see you later. It confuses me because i feel like i've seen him before and it felt sooo real. I woke up and i was tired like i didn't sleep a wink, like i was wide awake the whole time.
Any ideas could be very useful?

2007-12-28 02:59:21 · 3 answers · asked by blank 1

I married one but he is a nice guy who is cleaning up his ways. Read my previous questions.

2007-12-28 02:49:13 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-28 02:35:10 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

i was once a happy go lucky person, giving, empathetic, caring, loving etc.

but ive suffered alot of hardship, misfortune, bullying, unfairness, injustice, victimization. and now as a 30 year old with borderline personality disorder....i struggle with alot of rage...bitterness, resentment, jealousy and anger towards people..
ive been like this way for along time, and deep down, i dont forgive my bullies/ persecutors.......im hostile,aloof towards people....cold..
i can easily lose it and have an aggressive outburst or rage attack....so im constantly battling to stay in control.

deep down i feel extremely angry and unforgiving about what ive had to endure in my life....i feel cheated.

ive never had a girlfriend....never been in a relationship....never had friends...never been employed all due to my problems....i have missed out.
i struggle with clingyness and low self esteem.

i want to know, can i ever be that kind, loving, caring, giving person i was once upon a time ?

2007-12-28 02:34:27 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-28 02:25:48 · 11 answers · asked by Susan 4

All people say "let it go" but what thats mean.Is that mean to stop talking to the person,to delete his/ her numbers,pictures,memories?And how to" let it go "if that person keep contacting with you and pursue you,and whats from you to be a friends and to see you, and you feel so hurt by what he is done to you?It is sounds so easy when you say it but when it is come to realise it then its hard.

2007-12-28 02:20:57 · 16 answers · asked by Natalie B 2

2007-12-28 02:19:56 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-28 02:15:56 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

Not me..........

Everything else will go up except your pay (it may go up, but not enough to catch up the inflation)

2007-12-28 02:09:32 · 18 answers · asked by mystery t 4

2007-12-28 02:01:27 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-28 01:28:53 · 21 answers · asked by MagnusIV 1