All people say "let it go" but what thats mean.Is that mean to stop talking to the person,to delete his/ her numbers,pictures,memories?And how to" let it go "if that person keep contacting with you and pursue you,and whats from you to be a friends and to see you, and you feel so hurt by what he is done to you?It is sounds so easy when you say it but when it is come to realise it then its hard.
2007-12-28 02:20:57 · 16 answers · asked by Natalie B 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
When someone tells you to "let it go", it means that you should get over whatever has happened before your friends or family start getting tired of dealing with your "problems".
Life goes on, ok?
Of course letting something go is hard, but you have your life to live, and you really don't want to spend it being depressed.
2007-12-28 02:25:16 · answer #1 · answered by cuccorullo 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you cannot deal with being friends with the person, tell them. Make it clear you wish to have no contact. Then file a restraining order if they continue to call or come in conatct with you.
As far as letting it go, it is a heck of a lot easier than turning into a bitter person over anger or pain from a situation with another person. Once you grow up and realize that you can not make a person unhurt you, you cannot force them to apologize or make it right, you are left with two choices, be bitter and hold a grudge or forgive them in your heart and move on. That is not saying you have tobe around them but that y ou have let go of the pain and moved on.
2007-12-28 02:31:29 · answer #2 · answered by James Watkin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
letting it go means that you move on with your life, whatever or whoever it is that is causing you this pain stop talking to them or stop going to places you know he will be, if you have caller id USE it, my grandmother told me one time that we as a sociaty have gotten things confused. We think that if the phone rings that we have to answer it no matter what. In her day the phone was for convience, if someone called and she had time she would pick it up, if she was busy they would call back. I think she has it right. If this person has hurt you you are only allowing it to happen if you keep in contact. And for the record in my opinion, 99.9% of the time if you have been intimate with someone it is not possible to be "just friends" I believe that 100% of the time if it is a fresh break up. There are too many feelings of love and hurt and disappointment mingled together for you to be able to be friendly toward someone in that instance.
2007-12-28 02:28:01 · answer #3 · answered by dreamsofanangel00 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with you. my ex of 3 years comes back over the xmas holiday, claiming he loves me and asking if id ever marry him and even move 2 hours away with him for a job transfer and then after 4 days togehter again, he tells me that he cant get over the past pain and hurt. the saying ' let it go is just that . let it go. dont contact at all. i wouldnt delete pics and such but i would make sure that he makes the first move again. if he text or instanst mess. you, then be nice, say hi and talk but let him do the talking first. good luck.
2007-12-28 02:26:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you want to really do is let go of the feelings associated with a change in a social situation. It can also mean to let go of the causes that brought that social situation to such a conclusion that you need to let go of it or continue to suffer the consequences of not letting go of it.
Eventually the natural evolution of this type of thing is that sooner or later you let go of it and move on anyways. It is what others usually say to you when they too must ride the wave your on with you and kind of dont want to. They would just as soon move on but must and will wait for you to get over it and rejoin them in life.
2007-12-28 02:33:15 · answer #5 · answered by JORGE N 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think letting go means ---stop talking to the person,to delete his/ her numbers,pictures,memories... we know letting go is never easy (easier said than done) but if you really need to move on, then go ahead rather than being hurt still. do the usual things that you'd like doing before you've met that person. learn to love yourself for you to be whole again. maybe you can still be friends but it takes time though especially that he/she broke your heart. have fun! life is beautiful still and its not the end of your world, still the beginning...
goodluck ;)
2007-12-28 03:23:49 · answer #6 · answered by gOtHiC pRiNcEsS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's someone who is not responding to your efforts to get their attention, letting go means to stop trying to get their attention, to detach yourself from that person and from the importance you give to that person. Letting go means that you are going to live your life without that person.
In this case, if it's not you, but the other person who is chasing you, you may not need to let go. You may need to stand for yourself and let this person know you are ready to take action if they don't let you alone, such as calling the police or getting a restrain order, but you have to be ready to do it if you are going to say it, and you have to let go of your attachments and considerations for this person and understand they are going over the limit. That way you will be able to proceed and get a restrain order without remorse.
2007-12-28 02:29:50 · answer #7 · answered by Lourdes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let it go & let God is another way people say that.Yes,indeed sometimes easier said than done.You will be able to "Let IT Go" when you have the complete realization that you have no control over others.If you want to remain friends after that is up to you.
2007-12-28 02:29:51 · answer #8 · answered by smartone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
St Paul said"These things no longer bother me".
You have to put things in perspective." Let it go" means putting it behind you. It´s hard to forget things but time will dull the memory.
2007-12-28 02:42:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means to quit holding on to all of the pain and accept the fact that it is time to let go.
2007-12-28 02:24:54 · answer #10 · answered by replexgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋