I am a 32 year old woman, I have been seeing my girlfriend for almost ten months. For the past two months, she has been fighting a depression, and most recently losing that battle. She reports sleeplessness, lack of apetite, slow reactions, disappointment with her life's accomplishments (she just turned 40), and I notice her perseverating on negative ideas.
She pulls away from me when I kiss her, can hardly leave her house, says mean things to me, even snaps at me. When I point this out to her, she asks why I "take it." I ask her if she wants to take a break from me and she panics.
What we used to have in common was creativity, work ethic, humor, comitment to community, and other, optomistic attributes. I love her, but I am uncertain as to whether she can love me (right now or ever). I need intimacy now: How long should I stick this out?
I seek answers from those who have survived depression and have been able to maintain intimate relationships.
2006-10-02
13:15:53
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