Mental Health - March 2007

Brain meaning mentally. Being that your brain tells your body to feel pain, etc....

2007-03-28 09:24:32 · 12 answers · asked by Sumo & Kathy 2

so basically i went to the mental health clinic thinking i had social anxiety disorder because i get really nervous in social situations, and the social worker i'm working with said the perhaps my low self-esteem is a big issue in my insecurity. then she told me to write down 50 things that i like about myself for the next time i see her. i can't even think of more than two things, perhaps, that i like about myself. can anyone give me any suggestions on what to write? i hate myself so much...

2007-03-28 09:12:53 · 8 answers · asked by Jellystar 2

2007-03-28 09:04:28 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

If so, does anyone know of any videos that could hypnotize me? I'm dying to try it! Don't worry about me, I'll be safe. I have someone to wake me if it does work.

2007-03-28 09:03:07 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Obsessive-compulsive_personality_disorder

Here is some info from that website, and my explanation of things... I really think he needs

to be diagnosed!!!

The DSM-IV-TR, a widely used manual for diagnosing mental disorders, defines that for a

patient to be diagnosed with obsessive-compulsive personality disorder, they must exhibit at

least four of the following traits:

1) Preoccupation with details, rules, lists, order, organization, bodily functions, or

schedules to the extent that the major point of the activity is lost
2) Showing perfectionism that interferes with task completion (e.g., is unable to complete a

project because his or her own overly strict standards are not met)
3)Excessive devotion to work and productivity to the exclusion of leisure activities and

friendships (not accounted for by obvious economic necessity)
4)Being overconscientious, scrupulous, and inflexible about matters of morality, ethics, or

values (not accounted for by cultural or religious identification)
5)Inability to discard worn-out or worthless objects even when they have no sentimental

value
6)Reluctance to delegate tasks or to work with others unless they submit to exactly his or

her way of doing things
7)Adopting a miserly spending style toward both self and others; money is viewed as

something to be hoarded for future catastrophes
8)Showing rigidity and stubbornness
9)Urge to perfect every little thing

It is important to note that while a person may exhibit any or all of the characteristics of

a personality disorder, it is not diagnosed as a disorder unless the person has trouble

leading a normal life due to these issues.

As for my boyfriend, and the things that make me think he has OCPD, numbers coinciding with

the numbers above for the traits......

#1 Preoccupation... If you try to change any chain of events that he has scheduled for

himself... durring any part of the day, or are going somewhere with him, he will start a

fight being pushy about your timing, or be stubborn to changes others want to make in the

schedule ,even if it's me staying up an extra 10 minutes to spend time with him! It effects

his own personal schedule that he makes for himself down to the minute. He would rather

fight for an hour instead of enjoying the extra 10 minutes! As for rules, they have to be

his. As for details, he explained to me the way he likes to salt his food at least 3 times,

before I had to tell him I don't care how you salt your food, it's your food, I just don't

want to hear about it. I've heard it enough! He hates it when he can't seem to poop at the

same time every day! He will complain about it to me while he's on the toilet, every time it

happens! Well, there are lots of examples for #1, but I don't need to list them all. He just

looses the point of any thing! How can we go out to have a good time when he starts bitching

at me at half day to get all the things done around the house? Then he decides to complain

that I'm not moving, or getting around fast enough when we're about to go out. He rather

argue about it, than be patient for me to finish getting around. I've even tried being

totally on time, even early with my getting around, and he can't seem to stop himself! I

thought the point to going out together was to enjoy eachother, not put eachother in a bad

mood from unnecessary complaining!

#2 Perfectionism... He won't finish things he doesn't think he can meet his own standards

on! Ex... putting away freezer items, organizing cabinets, fixing the waterfall he broke,

the IQ test he quit on, tuning his own drums... He has me do those things he can't meet his

own standards on because he thinks I can!

#3 Excessive devotion to work.... He believes that all things you need to get done around

the house need to be done before you can go have fun with friends, or even hang out with

your sister! As far as I'm concerned, things around the house will be there tomorrow! Today,

if the opportunity presents itself, you should be able to LIVE, and stop the doing, so that

you can actually take advantage of this opportunity you have today which won't be there

tomorrow! This is particularly a problem when there are several days to finish things around

the house, but today, your sister asked you to come over, and have a game night with the

kids! Tate thinks I need to come home & finish everything when I have NEVER had a game night

with my sister & the kids! He might even be at home doing nothing, but he still thinks you

need to be there finishing "your" work around the house!

#4 Being overconscientious... He has a tendancy to be overbearing in his own opinions of

whether something is right or wrong. What he thinks is right, is usually NOT right, but yet

he seems to think so, calls them morals, and values, and tries to force me to HIS way only,

even if it's me who is right! He still seems to validate everything to himself even if his

reasoning makes no sense at all! Tate is so inflexible that it's painful to me, because it's

so unfair of him! You know of all of his double standards! None of it really makes sense at

all!

#5 Inability to discard.... He shows no visable sign of this at all.

#6 Reluctance.... Well, when he delegates tasks to others, he gets specific, and if he does

not, he's always angry that you didn't meet his standards, or if you do not bend over

backwards to do it his way, he gets angry. Ex... Even though I was supposed to get to design

all the landscaping, and it was supposed to be my thing, He couldn't let me just do it. He

decided he needed to be in control of what went into the landscaping, how it was planted,

and arranged. I thought this was supposed to be mine! I didn't get to plant alot of my

favorite things in my own yard because he didn't like them!!!!! BTW, every party that we

have had has been a struggle because I used to plan all the parties in my house, but after I

moved in with the boyfriend... Every time we are going to have a party, even if I am

supposed to be planning it, somehow, he decides he needs to take over the whole thing! He

won't let me decide what's for dinner, or what we're going to do durring the party. I

planned a Halloween party, and was so upset because he wouldn't let me do it my way! I

wanted to cook... he decided we should have it catered. I wanted to decorate the inside &

outside of the house... he decided the outside of the house was enough. I decided to serve a

punch for the kids... he wanted to serve pop. I wanted to buy a pumpkin for each kid to

carve... he said NO! I wanted to get treats for all the kids... he said NO! I wanted to make

or buy some cupcakes for the kids... he said NO! This whole project was supposed to be mine,

as was my Birthday party, and he seemed to either take over EVERYTHING, or complain, and

accuse me of being some kind of liar when he didn't get his way, or I thought I was plain &

clear about something(even though I knew with him it was all a catch 22!) and he decided I

didn't mean what I said, even though he just wasn't listening, or he wasn't clear himself.

It's really rediculous how either he has to do it, or I get rung through the ringer if I do

something my way, or the way I said I was going to if it wasn't his way!

#7 Money... He doesn't want me to spend any, and thinks I have a spending problem, even

though I'm only making sure the house is stocked with groceries! He thinks he can just go

buy himself and others tickets to a whole bunch of Sox games, but if I want to buy myself a

record player and some vintage vinyl albums, it's not okay! If he's planning the party,

there's no spending limit if it's his idea, but for my Birthday party, he wanted to be

frugal, and not allow me to do a wine tasting, and spend $200 on wine because he wanted to

stock the bar that he hadn't since the Halloween party, even though my guests were coming

for a wine tasting party! They weren't drinking hard liquor, and that was going to be $100

to restock! I told him what I was going to get wine wise, and he told me to restock the

liquor. I went, bought it all, then he complained at me for spending too much, even though I

know he would have spent the same if he went! Like... it's okay for him to do it, but not

okay for me to! The same thing happened on the same day with the groceries, and party foods!

Then he said that since I spent $600 on my birthday (which was really $200 on groceries,

$100 party snacks & food for 2 parties, $100 for hard liquor, and $200 for wine), that when

he got his tax return, he was going to spend it all on what ever he wanted, and I couldn't

spend a dime of it! That's kind of like him telling me all year that he was bringing in more

money to the house, even though he wasn't, plus, he refused to include the monthly child

support in my amount!

#8 Rigidity and stubborness... Gosh, I could go on forever on this one, but I won't. This

applys to everything in our life together. My way is never bent toward, or a consideration.

Everything has to be his way, even if it's not the best thing, or right or fair in any way

shape or form.

#9 Urge to perfect every little thing... Mostly, he wants to perfect me! This perfection,

however, is what he, himself has made of it, whether it is normal, or not!

2007-03-28 08:55:31 · 12 answers · asked by lisalikes70scheese 3

i feel sad and depressed cuz one of my so called friends siblings said "stop talking to my brother". when i dont know why. what went wrong, what could have i done? i cant talk to him now, what do i do?!

2007-03-28 08:54:50 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

I mean... shouldn't that be considered some kind of mental illness?

2007-03-28 08:53:55 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

Try walking into a psychiatrists office and have him NOT diagnose you with BPD or Bipolar.
It's pretty much impossible. They want to medicate every man woman and child.

2007-03-28 08:52:56 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

i have a very bad memory... what can i do about it... i try wrighting the things that are said to me then i forget it... its very bad and embarrassing thanks

2007-03-28 08:47:35 · 5 answers · asked by hasan05842 3

I really dont know how to describe this , but this is really swful and i think I am pretty unfortunate to go through this trauma .
Let me explan the problem :
1) I have always been anti social person in the sense I never socalise . Infact I dont know why , but humour doesnt come naturally to me and more or less I am a serious person but somewhat sarcastic
2) I cannot look into anyones eyes and speak - I feel there is a sense of grave look in my eyes which often causes displeasure to ppl who I interact with . Frankly I dont feel that I spread an aura of warmth to people . I could scare the hell outta otherswith my piercing eyes . This is a hard fact which I am living with .
3) There is little motivation in me to be friendy with people - to put in different words I dont like to have any emotional attachments with people as much as possible , coz the more I know of someone I sympathize with them !
4)I am extremely conscious about people and feel unfortable with them
Please advise

2007-03-28 08:45:16 · 4 answers · asked by WaterGuy 3

2007-03-28 08:06:05 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

currently, there is only one program with a 6mth waiting list all the way in vancouver. no support discussion groups or hot lines exsist. i dont believe that i am the only one who desires help on those rough days.

2007-03-28 07:59:23 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous

I suffer from a severe anxiety disorder, and recently my doctor has prescribed me Klonopin, 1mg tablets 4 times a day. It seems to really be helping with my anxiety disorder, but, I just wanted to know if anyone else has taken this medication, and if it has caused them to gain weight. I would really like firsthand advice, or from a professional. Any feedback is greatly appreciated. Thanks:)

2007-03-28 07:48:51 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

I wonder if you can all help me with this. I'm hearing more people tell me I'm paraniod. I'm starting to think I am. But I don't know how I can find out. If I am, I don't know how I can decifer from what is happening in reality, or what is just a paranoid dillusion caused by a mental disorder that I'm not aware of.

It happens specifically when something unjust happens to me. Like for example, a boss coming to my desk & blaming me for something I clearly didn't do. & even after I prove to them with evidence that I am not guilty, after they see they were wrong, they pretend like nothing happened & then blame me for making a big deal about it, when it was they who brought up the issue.

When I ask people for advice on how to handle those kinds of problems by in addition, letting them know what worries me because of the nature of the problem, they call me paranoid.

If I suffer from this, how do I even live my life & make logical judgements if it can always be polluted by paranoia?

2007-03-28 07:45:25 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

I've been like this for a really really long time.. I have no energy, I avoid doing anything that could be difficult.. I constantly feel sad, down, and just plain empty inside.. I feel like I have no self esteem whatsoever. People tell me I'm pretty but I don't believe them at all.. I hardly feel like going anywhere or doing anything anymore.. And most days at work, I just sit there putting on a smile when I feel like I'm crying on the inside... And even friends are starting to get concerned about me. I've been to therapists before for depression, but it didn't help.. If any of you have any ideas, please let me know.....

2007-03-28 07:42:27 · 14 answers · asked by Amanda 1

I RECENTLY STARTED TAKING CYMBALTA AND HAD VERY WEIRD SIDE EFFECTS FROM IT . I DISCONTINUED USING BECAUSE IT WAS SO SEVERE.....

2007-03-28 07:21:46 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

and you just cant stop it?

2007-03-28 07:16:10 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have this sort of problem that is bugging me.It is like this if my friend says i don't like milk it is disgusting i begin to hate milk it is not much in me but it is a bit I would like a solution pls pls ? of how to gett rid of this thing and strat making my own descions????????

2007-03-28 07:10:31 · 8 answers · asked by marylovefaires 1

Are there any bad effects of marijuana when taken with a daily regime of seroquel, lamictal, or buspar? Off the cuff answers will be tolerated, but answers backed by research will always catch my eye.

2007-03-28 07:08:12 · 10 answers · asked by terryleecheeseman48 1

He was diagnosed with ADD as a child. He took medication up until his teenage years. Now at age 24, he seems to forget a lot of things, unable to focus, can't comprehend reading materials without an explanation, he can't sit still, talks before he thinks, and just plain unorganized. It has affected my relationship with my family, as we are living with my parents. When he is asked to do something, he almost always forgets, and needs to be reminded several times. My parents are getting fed up with his behavior. My husband is clueless. He does not feel that he has a problem. I don't know what to do. I am torn between my husband and my parents, all the time. I have to defend my husbands actions or non-actions to my parents. It is frustrating. Please Help!

2007-03-28 06:45:38 · 2 answers · asked by Jessica 2

2007-03-28 06:37:03 · 3 answers · asked by Princess Penguin 3

My brother (age 44) has had a miserable marriage for years and is now in the middle of a divorce. He and his young son moved in with my mom. Every time I call there, he's "sick and asleep". He sleeps and sleeps and sleeps in a dark bedroom, stumbles to the kitchen to eat whatever he can grab, then falls back into his bed for hours and hours. He holds down a job with crazy hours, so he uses his job as his excuse to be sleeping ALL THE TIME. It's like he crawls out of bed, goes to work, and crawls back to bed.

If anyone tries to talk to him, he gets basically hysterical- he'll literally cry out of control, yell, and run to his room "sick" again, saying to leave him alone, because talking to him is "adding more stress" and he can't take it.

He refuses to see a doctor, yet says he's been "throwing up" for days. He refuses to seek counseling (he doesn't need it he says) and refuses to even come out of his room to be a parent to his child.

How can the family intervene?

2007-03-28 06:31:26 · 8 answers · asked by Sabine É 6

they say that the first step to getting to know ourselves is to first identify with our name. my name means 'freedom'....what does your mean?

2007-03-28 06:28:15 · 22 answers · asked by moon 2

2007-03-28 06:19:45 · 2 answers · asked by TrueWOW 3

Chest feels so tight, like a pressure that wont go away.
Now i suffer from panic attacks but it's been months now my chest hurting and no attacks come yet. And the pressure and pain wont go away...what could it be.....

2007-03-28 06:15:52 · 7 answers · asked by K11 3

2007-03-28 06:00:47 · 5 answers · asked by almostready 2

2007-03-28 05:46:41 · 7 answers · asked by Appel 2

My general anxiety triggered off when I was 11, I'm 26 now, I've tried everything under the sun, seen various mental health care professionals, tried various meds, read various books, Claire Weeks, Linden Method etc the list goes on but I still have it.

I lead a normal life,I have a wife and child, I go to work and all the rest but the GA makes me totally fed up with life.

Is there a complete cure, I thinking I'm the best I'm gonna be, it peaked at its worse when I was 18 since the it has fluctuated up and down but its always there, from I open my eyes til I go to bed

2007-03-28 05:42:50 · 19 answers · asked by danny d 1

Is there such a phobia where you have a fear of tall people? If so what is it called?

2007-03-28 05:42:32 · 9 answers · asked by Julie M 1

Hi. I feel extremely tired ALL the time. My blood has been checked and it's normal.

I also take prozac some times. Basically I'm lost and disoriented. I'm unemployed and have to find work- yet at the same time cleaning offices may not make me feel happier.

Lost, confused , disorientated, lonely, scared of others, edging on a breakdown. Also angry and feeling like a failure. Feeling untreatable.

And basically very very tired all the time. So tired that I'm wondering what the point is of being?

2007-03-28 05:32:55 · 3 answers · asked by Appel 2