self-esteem issues?

Question

so basically i went to the mental health clinic thinking i had social anxiety disorder because i get really nervous in social situations, and the social worker i'm working with said the perhaps my low self-esteem is a big issue in my insecurity. then she told me to write down 50 things that i like about myself for the next time i see her. i can't even think of more than two things, perhaps, that i like about myself. can anyone give me any suggestions on what to write? i hate myself so much...

Answer 1

You thought to come to yahoo! answers to get an answer to your question - that tells me a few things about you:

You identify and remember where to go for information.
You are not afraid to ask for help.
You are smart enough to seek help when you need it (Good job going to the mental health clinic)
You aren't afraid to take steps to change your life.
You understand enough about yourself to know what you want to change.
You aren't afraid to change for the better.
You know how to write.
You know how to bake a delicious cake (I'm assuming you do - and if you do, send one this way)

Those are things that I said. What I think you should do is write down things you like about other people - it's always easier to see good in others than it is yourself - then you can read over them and decide what you like about yourself concerning that same quality. Good luck.

Answer 2

I have been in a similiar place and there are more women than you would ever guess who have low self-esteem. I finally learned to love myself at about age 55 and I am now 60. That is a long time to not believe in yourself. As for your assignment, don't start by trying to think too big and look for significant accomplishments. Begin small, list the things that are obvious like the color of your eyes, your smile, they way you interact with friends or family, you are a good listener, you like to read, you go to church, you belong to a club or group, you do the laundry and don't let it pile up, you keep the kitchen clean etc. Those are all just things that came off the top of my head and might not apply to you but I hope I gave you the idea. I major step is to accept that you aren't don't Love yourself and you are tired of living that way. Believe me I used to shake my hear when I hear you have to love your self first.because I had no idea what that even meant. Once you have accomplished that, which could take quite a while, little by little you will realize how wonderful and special you are.

Answer 3

why do u hate urself? is there any particular reason to do so? are u horrible, bad and cruel person, who likes when others are suffering, or would u just say, u feel insecure and therefore u feel like u r not proper person? u can write many things about urself. u can say how pretty ur hair is, or how u like ur hands, or u have nice eyes, or how u appreciate about urself how u feel with other people, how u feel upset about sad things, which happend to someone u know or u dont, how u like, that u r sensitive and kind.... there are many things, why people should love themselves. it doesnt matter, if u are not as confident as some of ur friends, which u might hate, but it doesnt make u worse than them, does it? u can work on ur confidence with a therapist and he-she might help u to start loving urself and feel much better.
also, u should write, as one of those 50 things, how u like about urself, that u decided to do something with ur problem.
So good luck and dont worry too much.

Answer 4

Okay, if you can't think of things that you like about yourself...what can you change? Read Seven Habits of Highly Effective People. I used to be very insecure, and at the risk of sounding like someone who just read a self-help book; I realized that a lot of the things that I was insecure about (ie my weight, the way I communicate with people, ect.) are all in my "circle of influence." I don't think you understand how much power you have.

Answer 5

I think that's the whole point. The fact that you can't write 50 things you like about yourself shows that you have self-esteem issues

Answer 6

Your the only one who can answer this question. Stop and think about why you hate yourself and when you started hating yourself then do something about changing back to when you liked yourself. The things you were once good at and the strengths you had. Sometimes we just lose sight of our priorities and need to sit back and get them in view again.
Good Luck.

Answer 7

you're perfect !! and that i think of you recognize it b/c you reported you would be fishing for compliments somewhat than insults Aha :) i don't have a lot self belief myself -- so i'm uncertain how large of advice i will provide you, yet perhaps in case you pretend to be helpful you will easily develop into helpful. I study that someplace, you pretend to be something and you develop into it, that's like a recommendations trick. Even extra suitable - get out of your convenience zone, do issues that scare you. in case you're able to do various issues which you think of you won't be in a position to do, and then instruct to your self which you're able to do them. then you definately'll initiate feeling extra helpful in direction of different issues frequently. additionally one extra element, who needs an common existence? My existence completely sucks most of the time, yet that's stable, via fact the extra i bypass by the extra I study. common, 'perfect' lives are no longer extra suitable... and having a lifelike that does no longer make somebody extra suitable. attempt to improve a superb attitude, which will substitute your existence I assure.

Answer 8

I like the way I smell,
the way I smile,
the way I cook,
the way I'm helpful at home,
the way I am grateful for (fill in the blank),
the way I seek help when I need it,
the way I dress,
my hair, my teeth, my hands......
come on buddy, there are SO many things...think, think, think! and good luck.