Singles & Dating - 2 August 2006

But I never see them ACTUALLY doing it. Sure a few of them. I'm not talking about 30 year olds, I mean teenagers, girls my age. I was the typical nice guy, I would open doors for girls, complement them, they would talk to me about their boyfriends and their family but I never got a date. Girls say they want a nice guy. I say Bullshit. (most)Girls go for jerks. Girls go for assholes that don't give a sh it about them. I have only had one girl say she wanted to go out with me, and I didn't like her, I couldn't figure out why, I was always sarcastic to her and hardly ever payed attention to what she said. Until I found this, It answered all my questions.

On the matter of nice guys vs jerks I wish I could say that the statement was ridiculous and of course the nice guys in the end will get the girl but it's simply not true.

Women (just as men by the way) want someone who excites them, makes them feel special and gives them a thrill on a regular basis. They want somebody who sends them on an emotional rollacoaster.

I've been a bartender in the center of Amsterdam in one of the more popular places students go to, and before I started there I was a real regular nice guy to women. I'd take my time, always was nice even when they were being a total ***** and would really try to make them feel special. And it never worked. NEVER!!

After starting my, at first part time job there, I started, as a bartender, to get a lot of attention from women. Of course I realize that this was because of my job, had I been standing on the other side of the bar I wouldn't have gotten a second look. Problem was that the place is extremely busy and there are too many girls interested to give them all equal attention. To my amazement I found out that the girls I really didn't give the time of day, were the ones that really started to like me and started to do everything just to get a hello or a kiss out of me. (In Holland you give girls you know three kisses when you say hello.)

Exploiting this my sex life picked up a great deal and it started working to outside of my work too. Having a total disinterested attitude, and being a total sarcastic bastard is for some strange reason a turnon with women. If a girl spent the night at my place and I wouldn't phone them up or react really happy when I saw them the next time the girls would start being really nice to me, and do everything to make me happy, this was a whole new world for me! And yes they would come back to my place again and everything would repeat itself.

Two years later I am now the manager of a club by the same owner and can't be as frivolous as I have been the last couple of years. Instead of the one, or whenever it's desirable, night stands I wouldn't mind something a little more lasting. Problem is that being a jerk works, but I don't want to or enjoy being a jerk to somebody I genuinely have feelings for. The other girls willingly and knowingly went for the bartender and not for me as a person, and everybody knows how the story ends if you hook up with a bartender.

But I don't have a clue what happens when I fall in love. Probably the same way as it did before I invented the jerk in me, I'll get burned badly.

And just as in the movies in the end the nice guy gets the girl, but only because the jerk has had enough of her, she can't stand being treated badly anymore. The kid she's had needs clothes and food and a father and she's now willing to choose just love or at least affection over passion. And when the jerk pops up again, she'll be totally blown away again and full of doubts for a couple of weeks. (have I let go the love of my life?, were the bad times really that bad?, am I happy now?)

Well that's my input and I hope somebody proves me wrong, because when it's sex I'm looking for I have the perfect life, but when it's love I'm just as messed up as the rest of you.

2006-08-02 15:08:09 · 26 answers · asked by Greg 4

turn a girl down straight up to there face. im a girl and just got turned down and all he said waz "No". how can they do that, that hurts their feelings, me and the guy r friends and thats all he did

2006-08-02 15:05:50 · 7 answers · asked by kim w 2

Racheal Robinson
She was into me in school but then she like at the end we went out for a couple days and then she broke up with me, then i talked to her, then i asked if we had a chance and she said yeah so i dont know if i should ask her out or not.

Tiffany Jones
We are good friends and then i told one of me friends that i like her, she called her, told her so now i caled her and she asked and i was to nervous to tell her yes so i dont know how to tell her.

Emma Smith
We went to Leaders Training School and me, my friend nik (i meet there too) and we meet her and then she started to hang out and then she hugged us alot everyday, then there was a dance and her and nik went to the dance and they got in a rough patch so i helped them, they got over it and then Leaders Training School was over so i instant messaged her and we talked every now and then, then i talked to her last night, she said that i was less then a relationship but more than friends and i think we might go out..

2006-08-02 15:05:42 · 5 answers · asked by Sniper1409 2

2006-08-02 15:04:05 · 13 answers · asked by R.W.T.F. 2

I have been talking to a guy for the past two weeks, he told me that i wanted to kiss me on my lips (on the phone) but he didn't actually do it when i saw him the next day. But one day later, he asked me if he can kiss my neck...he begged me....but i got scared and walked away cus i thought this should come naturally.
He was worried that i would take it offensively so he apoloized to me. But at the same time, he asked what's my limit...
Since then, i have wondered why he asked? WHy didn't he wait till it is the right time to kiss? Why did he ask my limit?

2006-08-02 15:03:09 · 29 answers · asked by polinatora 1

girls if you had a boyfriend and this other boy likes you and you said that you would date after you broke up with him girls i am the guy wanting the girl with the boyfriend so what would you do and what would make you break up with a guy to go out with another yes i love her and respect her but i dont want her to stick with him oh we go to seperate schools so plz help

2006-08-02 15:02:14 · 13 answers · asked by hannanabannana01 1

I am a 27 year old guy, I have had plenty of girlfriends but have to this point saved myself for marriage ( something I very much want but still haven't met the right woman) My last gf knew my thoughts on all this long before we began dating but in the end she basically told me I was " out of date" and insane for waiting. And of course broke up with me, Now I admit I am a religious man and this has alot to do with my thoughts on all this. But this isnt the first girl to leave me over this ( and most of my gf's I met in CHURCH mind you) so I am starting to wonder, am I really just fooling myself into thinking its possible in today's society to wait?

2006-08-02 15:01:08 · 36 answers · asked by Snowlion 2

i really really really like her and i think she likes me but should i ask her or should i wait until she asks me and if i ask her how do i ask, i mean i really really really really like her but i don't want to get rejected, what if everyone at church starts gosiping about me, and ya'll know how the bible says there's someone out there for all of us, well, i feel like i found her but i don't want to get rejected, how do i ask her, or should i just wait until she asks me.

2006-08-02 15:00:13 · 14 answers · asked by JesusFreak 2

i had a huge argument with a guy friend 2 years ago and now we don't talk. I sorta missed him last year but not to much. Now I miss him so much and not just as a friend but i like him as more now. every time i see or look at him though i feel a pang of guilt, anger, happiness, nervousness exitement and love which i have NEVER felt towrds a guy before. its driving me crazy!!!

2006-08-02 14:58:35 · 4 answers · asked by Englishchick 2

..I'm having a hard time forgetting about him..our relationship was 1 year and 2 months..please don't make fun...

2006-08-02 14:57:57 · 9 answers · asked by Romaneasca 3

i'm pretty sure that this guy likes me, but he hasn't asked me out. I kinda like him too, but i'm scared to talk to him about it. What do i do??? i'm scared to tell him how i feel...

2006-08-02 14:56:27 · 6 answers · asked by Maria18 2

my boyfriend is 14 i am 15, we have been dating for one week he hasnt held my hand yet, I want him to but dont know if I should make the first move should I or how do I hint to him I want him to grave my hand

2006-08-02 14:56:07 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

I met a girl and we had a great sedond date. Lately I am been trying to set up other days with her and with no lukc, She always thinks of alternative days we could meet thouhg, ands shows interest. It jas been two weeks since I have seen her. And she has this think about being on the phone. She will rarely takl on the phone so she won't pick up the phone. When I email her she replies in a couple hours. She saids she is not phone person. Do you think it is approproate to email her once a day siince she is more comfortable with that or should I lay off because she can't do anything going for me this weekend. My heart wants to write her everyday, but I don't know what is going to win over a shy beautiful interoverted girl.

2006-08-02 14:56:04 · 3 answers · asked by CircusDelux 2

Exactly how important IS how a woman looks? I am about 30 lbs. overweight. I have a pretty face and good hair and look good in my jeans. Bathing suit....not so much. lol Are there any guys who look past all that to who a woman really is, or do they all want Barbie Dolls?

2006-08-02 14:55:38 · 9 answers · asked by tammyb752001 2

I was online looking at some chicks on this dating website and I found this one that was like super hot!!!! later on i found out she was a transexual with a like this mega huge wang! I feel horrible because a grl that i wanted to bang turned out to be a guy! why would doctors confuse guys like this. i feel bad.

2006-08-02 14:54:59 · 18 answers · asked by Harezichi 2

we have been friends for a little over a year and i think she likes me as more than a friend. What are some signs that she does. I want to make sure before i ask her if she does.

2006-08-02 14:54:24 · 3 answers · asked by justdontknow 1

I am a big guy and I was wandering why ladies pass us up when looking for a man to date? I mean I got style and I am a down to earth guy full of fun and I know how to treat a lady. So what am I doing wrong?

2006-08-02 14:54:11 · 6 answers · asked by ? 1

2006-08-02 14:53:57 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-08-02 14:52:54 · 20 answers · asked by lowIQ 4

so if a boy asks you for help on homework.. and then randomly calls your name on the street even if you didn't give it to him (and his friends don't know you) does that mean that he likes you?? what do you think he wants??

2006-08-02 14:51:52 · 8 answers · asked by Maria18 2

We have tried being together once but he broke it off and said he just wanted to be friends. He said we live to far apart to have a relationship but he only lives 45 min. from my house. Should I just let it go and try to find someone else?

2006-08-02 14:51:28 · 8 answers · asked by bubbalybubbles123 1

2006-08-02 14:50:30 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-08-02 14:50:03 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

Would any body help me out with this problem I've been pondering? I've had previous relationships but no success in actually having a girl care for me in the past like I did when I first met one girl here. ANY TIPS?

2006-08-02 14:48:10 · 8 answers · asked by Perry R 2

My ex, or my 1st love we broke up about 4 years ago we hardly ever speak, and i got in contact with her threw myspace now i actully want her back all over again but how?

2006-08-02 14:47:59 · 22 answers · asked by dannyboy1286 1

Forgive me...I know this is a long post. Please bare with me. Thank you. There’s this guy that I am very interested in have been for seven years now. He had just gotten married right before we met. He and I always flirted with each other, but never did anything. Last year he came to me and told me he left his wife. Soon after that when I told him I’d like to see him, he began telling me stuff like, “It doesn't take a brain surgeon to see how much I like you.” Still nothing happened. He said he didn’t want to date anyone incase he went back to his wife. Which he did go back for a short time. During that time he said “If I were single I’d be knocking down your door.” Well, now, he's divorced. Has been since Feb. He told me a month later that he wanted to wait six months so he could heal from the divorce. He'll flirt with me and then say “He doesn't want to ruin our friendship.” Then he'll turn around and flirt with me again, telling me how much he wants to be with me.

2006-08-02 14:46:51 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

Whats the worst or funniest pickup line you heard?


someone said to me...

"do you have a bandaid? I hurt my knee falling for you!"

2006-08-02 14:45:45 · 12 answers · asked by Sully* 2

A couple of days ago I brought a date back to my place. We got a little hot & heavy & after a while I checked to see if the "backdoor was open" . She said she was cool with it if she was allowed to use her toys on me next time we are at her place.

Now I need some excuses for our next few dates cos I am scared that we are gonna end up at her place and I am not ready to hold up my end of the deal (dont know if I'll be ready at all)

2006-08-02 14:44:57 · 27 answers · asked by Whodaman 4

2006-08-02 14:44:50 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

Im young and Im in love for the very first time. Im talking about TRUE love. However, I have to break us off just because of our circumstances. I decided it would be better for the both of us to not be together, but it hurts me. It hurts me so much and since Ive never really loved anyone like this before, I dont know how to cope with this. I am so sad, I miss him so much. I miss his voice, I miss the nice things he says, I miss him. I need help. I ended us because I love him and I knew it would be best for us not to be together. Please help me to cope. Please give me suggestions. And please tell me how much experience youve had so I know. I appreciate it.

2006-08-02 14:41:58 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous