2006-08-02 14:44:50 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Give him a three way!
That way everyones happy
2006-08-02 14:50:07 · answer #1 · answered by Whodaman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing-
If she really is your best friend then you should keep your hands off and your mind as well.
If anything if you have all been hanging out together, it could be that being around a nice person who is also nice to your friend makes you want your own boyfriend...
but if the situation was reversed how would you feel?
Deal with, get over it, it is something that should pass.
Ask if he has a brother or a cousin or a single friend.
Stop thinking about him.
2006-08-02 21:56:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree that you MUST get over your girlfriend’s bf. I think you know this or you wouldn’t have posted your question.
The problem here is that you have feelings. The solution is reprogramming yourself to have different feelings. Here’s how.
1.Write down everything about your girlfriend’s bf that you find unattractive. Does he sometimes smell bad? His breath? His body odor, his cologne? Have you ever seen him poorly groomed – waxy ears, greasy hair, toe jam, yuckies hanging out of his nose? Have you seen pimples, on his face, his neck, his back? Does he ever dress poorly? Does he ever act stupid or mean? You get the idea.
2.Circle the things that are most unattractive to you.
3.Now set aside a few minutes a few times a day when you will deliberately start to fantasize about him then interrupt the fantasy by remembering one of the things that you find unattractive. Remember it as vividly as you can. Continue to remember it until you feel turned off for at least 5 seconds.
You will have to do this a few minutes a day for a week or two. How long it takes depends on how grossed out you are able to make yourself.
I used this technique to reprogram myself when I was working every day with a hot married man. I knew I did not want to feel attracted to him so I remembered that one day he had bad breath. I made a habit of thinking of him whenever I flossed my teeth. I’d start to think warmly of him then sniff the disgusting, dirty floss. I did this again and again until I succeeded in associating him with the disgusting smell of dirty dental floss. It worked. I continued to get along with him, but I no longer felt attracted to him.
Don’t be afraid to be too gross. Be afraid of not being gross enough. Continue doing this every day until you automatically think of the unattractive thing about him that you selected whenever you think of him or see him. The unattractive thought will prevent you from feeling attracted to him.
It all starts with fantasy. You must be your own thought police. Not that you should punish yourself or feel bad or guilty but that you should be very, very realistic about the fact that fantasizing about your best friend’s boyfriend is asking for trouble.
“But what if we are really meant for each other?” you ask. Then after your best friend is completely over him and happily involved with another guy – like a year after they break up – then if you are interested in him and he is interested in you - good luck.
In the mean time, fight fantasy with reprogramming so you can be the loyal friend you want to be.
Note: If you can't be trusted to be loyal to your best friend then you can't be trusted to be faithful to a bf, so smart guys who want a girlfriend won't want you.
2006-08-02 23:28:04 · answer #3 · answered by TheWiseOne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Back off N Leave Them Alone..If You A True Friend..
2006-08-02 21:50:31 · answer #4 · answered by ❀Mother Of 2❀ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget him and find a different guy and go out with him to keep your mind away from your best friends b/f.
2006-08-02 21:50:22 · answer #5 · answered by ~Redneck*Woman~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok well if is really your best friends bf then you really should stay away from him or something. i would never ever date or flirt with my bestfriends ex's or boyfriends that just shows how messed up u would be. just find someone else and dont think about him anymore.
2006-08-02 21:49:19 · answer #6 · answered by Summer P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not act on your impulses. guys come and go bust best friends stay forever. at least wait until they break up, but not even then. it will hurt her feelings so much that she may not want to be your best friend or even a friend after that
2006-08-02 21:48:29 · answer #7 · answered by chapped lips 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOTHING...no flirting, no phone calls to "talk about bf"...stay away and don't even think of it. if he's meant for you he and your bf will not last...but you don't want to be ANY part of that or you will look and feel guilty when they break up. keep busy and don't get involved in their relationship at all; don't let your bf drag you in with confidences, just do NOT go there. you will be proud of yourself in the end. trust me...
cryllie
2006-08-02 21:52:16 · answer #8 · answered by cryllie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, to give you a non-biased but evil answer umm...wait for them to break up. :p to be honest this happend to me. I fell for my best friend's ex-girl friend. But as time passed...i guess i just couldnt do that to my bestfriend. I guess its up to you to see which would make you happy.
2006-08-02 21:53:10 · answer #9 · answered by qustionablyquestionable 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U try very hard and ask urself , is this guy worth me losing a bestfriend, do her friendship means more to me then a guy ?
2006-08-02 21:48:57 · answer #10 · answered by itspink22@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋