I am a 27 year old guy, I have had plenty of girlfriends but have to this point saved myself for marriage ( something I very much want but still haven't met the right woman) My last gf knew my thoughts on all this long before we began dating but in the end she basically told me I was " out of date" and insane for waiting. And of course broke up with me, Now I admit I am a religious man and this has alot to do with my thoughts on all this. But this isnt the first girl to leave me over this ( and most of my gf's I met in CHURCH mind you) so I am starting to wonder, am I really just fooling myself into thinking its possible in today's society to wait?
2006-08-02 15:01:08 · 36 answers · asked by Snowlion 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is possible. But be prepared for a lot of....judgement. You know, its funny, It used to be the other way around where the people losing their virginity were scorned..But now everything is twisted and if you don't lose your virginity at 14 years of age you're weird. I'm 17 and I still am a proud member of the V-Club (haha)...All of my friends are doing it, everyone at school has.. Its just, I'm waiting. I'm not sure for what because I dont' want to say I'm waiting for marriage and have that never happen. But anyways, good luck to you!! Its nice to know not EVERYONE is sooo easy.
2006-08-02 15:07:35 · answer #1 · answered by mlove1307 6 · 21⤊ 5⤋
Wow you must be a very strong person to wait that long. It is your preference to wait so stick with what you think is right. Usually it is the other way around Men will leave if the women wants to wait. Well if those girls did not respect the way that you feel then they are not worth having. Wow never would of thought there was a man out there that is willing to wait until marriage.
2006-08-02 15:09:31 · answer #2 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. I'm 5 years younger than you and still a virgin. My current gf and I are waiting until we're ready for sex. I long thought I was odd too, but if you ever ask any of their exes of their first time: are they happy that they had it with that person at that time? Did they not hope that that person was going to be with them forever (even if that hope was fleeting)?
The pros of not having sex until you are ready you already know, more or less. No pregnancy scares, fears of sexually transmitted diseases, no money spent on condoms or other birth control, and no feeling of emptiness the next day (or at the end of the relationship).
Be happy for who you are and never give up what you believe in to get the girl (it makes the rewards twice as sweet). And just because the girl goes to church doesn't make her a good person.
2006-08-02 15:17:40 · answer #3 · answered by Nav 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are an excellent idol for young people. So many young men and women lose there virginity at 14-21 years of age. I am an older female teen. My boyfriend, whom is 22, is still a virgin. To be honest I probably wouldn't be dating him if he wasn't. I think that it's wonderful that your waiting to give this 'gift', and it is a gift, to your wife. I wish more people were like this. I don't think your crazy I think your amazing and truly someone that young people should idolize because it's awesome that you've maintained your virginity in today's world for so long. The right woman is going to come to you someday and she will feel that more special to you when you get to tell her that she is your first last and only. There is a woman waiting for you somewhere in this universe however she won't be sent to you until your soul is ready for her. Your head and your heart may THINK your ready but your soul will call out and bring you your one and only. I respect your decision and I hope you choose to stay this way. Good Luck and Thank you.
2006-08-02 15:10:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 27 years old, gave up my virginity at 24 and I regret it with every fibre in my being. Why? because it was the wrong person. I know this is "a bit different" in this day and age but I would suggest you wait until you have found "true love". Where this person is not gonna run away after they have "been your first". Hang in there brother, the right woman will come along. Peace.
2006-08-02 15:06:29 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Mandeville 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally respect that!! I wish I still was... I was raped once ... and then a year or so after that I thought what the hell... I don't have it anymore SO why not have some "fun" ... yea well that "fun" has just recently dealt me a big surprise :) .. yep a baby.. although it's not here yet... I know things are gonna change (and by no means do I regret my unborn baby... but I just wish my baby would be able to have both parents and have the best that we could give him/her :) ... ) and I just wish I would have used my better judgment and saved what I did have for that special someone :) !!! Good for u .. be proud of it not ashamed ... so many girls would love to have a guy who has waited and saved himself just for her :) !!! I respect you for this ... it's not an easy task in today's society!
2006-08-02 15:07:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all, I'm 23 and havent had sex yet and religion has had a lot to do with my decision to wait as well.The key is thinking about the bigger picture...its not worth it now when it could be something you share with the one truly meant for you. Forget the girls that left you (obviously they still need Jesus) and more power to you because guys have it much harder then girls when it comes to pressure. Good luck hanging in there. Oh by the way my number is 555...just kidding.
2006-08-02 15:15:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are crazy, but I have to say I would never do what you have done. Just to offer one perspective, what if you decide to marry and the person you marry turns out to be sexually incompatible with you (and I can tell you, this is very possible). I guess it is true that with no basis for comparison, you might not know what is wrong, but you will definitely be missing a key component to a happy marriage.
Also, I have to say that I, personally, don't think you need to be married to have a meaningful sexual relationship with someone. Given your feelings on the subject, I don't think you would get anything out a purely sexual relationship, but I don't think there is anything wrong with having sex with someone you have strong feelings for. But of course, this is just my opinon. You have to do what is right for you, based on your belief system.
2006-08-02 15:10:50 · answer #8 · answered by mercutio_41 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is certainly out of step with society. At 27 you should be a relatively mature person. Does any of this have to do with possible sexual insecurity? If so, admit it and seek guidance. This is just a stab in the dark.
2006-08-02 15:13:45 · answer #9 · answered by ElOsoBravo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are doing the right thing. It is unusual for a guy to wait, but I think it's awesome! If you want to wait for marriage, don't let anyone get you off track. One of my best friends is 28 and she's waiting because she says that she wants her husband to know that she loved him even before she knew him. Waiting is her way of doing that.
2006-08-02 15:08:27 · answer #10 · answered by sandy m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not crazy. Just do what you think is best. Do not let people tell you what you should and should not be doing. When you meet the right woman you can give her your virginity. I am wonder though.... would you give your virginity to a girl if she was not a virgin?
2006-08-02 15:12:36 · answer #11 · answered by strawberries 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋