My BF and I have been together for over 2 years and he has always maintained employment until recently. 3 months ago he voluntarily left his job, and has been living with me for about 2 of those months. He does get unemployment, and uses what little he has to help me out with buying groceries, gas for my car, and other little things.
While this does help a little, we both know his unemployment check is not going to cut it. So for the past couple of weeks, I’ve urged him to find employment, but he just simply refuses. He claims that he can get a job at any time and just wants to have a little vacation time. I’ve tried to be understanding since he is helping me out financially despite being unemployed, but after paying all of my bills for this month, I realized the little monies he does give me doesn’t even make up for half the money I spend monthly on the electricity, water, and internet he uses daily. Not to mention I’ve spent the last 2 months paying on a credit card bill (in my name) he promised to have paid off by July; it’s now 1 day away from September.
On top of everything I’ve just mentioned, he doesn’t have his own car (of course he drives mine), was living with family before moving in with me, and even after swearing he would finish college, has yet to even fill out his financial aid paperwork properly.
I want to know if there is any gentle way to smooth out this situation. I’m afraid that if I’m too aggressive about it, our relationship may end, but then on the other end, if I’m too passive, things will continue to be as they are. He’s a great guy, he just hasn’t been making great decisions.
2007-08-31
06:00:53
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Annie
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