I have a wonderful husband, and he tells me I don't have to work if I don't want to (we are financially stable enough that I don't need to work). I would love to be a housewife, or 'lady of leisure.' Do the house work, and cook for him, do my craft and look after our dogs. But I feel a lot of pressure from his family to get out into the workforce, so much so that I am going to college and getting a degree. It's fun, and I love learning, but, it's just not what I really want to do. Has anyone else been in this situation? What are your thoughts on the subject?
2007-08-31 03:01:48 · 13 answers · asked by A derka der 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think its great if you can stay at home, then stay at home. You can't let what others (including in laws) decide what makes you and your husband happy. And even if you wanted to you could finish your degree and still stay at home. At least that way you would always have a degree if there was a day that you decided you wanted to work. I guess the bottom line is....don't let others decide for you. If its going to make you and your husband happy then go for it, no matter what others say. :) Good luck ! :)
2007-08-31 03:10:51 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I say go for it if you can. I'm not even married and I do it just because I can. Just make sure you stay busy. It can be easy to lose your sense of purpose without leaving the house a lot. I work a bit from home, but most of the time I do the same as you. I clean, cook, work-out, do yoga, volunteer, take the dog swimming, go to the park, go shopping, etc.
I often feel like I have to defend it since we haven't got married yet and don't have kids. But, hey, if you two are okay with it, that's all that matters. We're so lucky to be able to be in that situation. You sound like you can stay busy so I say- enjoy it!
2007-08-31 03:13:49 · answer #2 · answered by *coral* 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do whatt You want to do.
It Does work in a lot of relationships that have enough money for one of a couple to do the "practical" home things, and will mean you actually get more leisure time together.
Suggest you finish your degree and maybe get a nice part time job doing something once or twice a week that will get you out of the house - maybe some voluntary work. You have a real advantage in that you don't have to work to earn money, so just do something you love doing.
Oh, and by the way - you married him not his familty.
2007-08-31 03:08:06 · answer #3 · answered by Paul M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is smart that you are getting your degree. I would suggest getting at least a part time job. You never know what life is going to bring you. One day you might think that your husband's job is stable but then out of no where his company could go out of business or make job cuts. You never know. Take the money that you make and put it in a savings account that you won't touch. This way there will be some money for a rainy day.
2007-08-31 03:14:14 · answer #4 · answered by LadyD1019 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you plan on having any children someday? Either way, be true to your heart. Continue in college to earn your degree. One day you may need or want to use your education. Also, have you considered volunteering a few days a week? You mentioned you have dogs. What about at a shelter, or even learning to do pet therapy?
I was a stay-at-home mom as well. Circumstances changed and I had to go to work and miss my time at home so much. Enjoy it while you can but also use your time wisely.
2007-08-31 03:08:07 · answer #5 · answered by deedlesme 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I say go for it! If you don't have to work, why not stay at home and be june cleaver. But I would get your degree first. I know you love your husband, and you think you will be together forever, but you never know what is going to happen. You may end up getting a divorve, or he my pass away before you do, or something might happen and he could lose his job. And if you don't have a drgree you are not going to find a job that makes much more than minimum wage.
2007-08-31 03:21:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
his family is pressuring you b/c they think you're spending his money. weird how times have changed. it used to be thought of as a bad thing if a woman worked after being married. anyway, let me tell you, being a homemaker is not a life of leisure and it can get pretty boring after a while. once you have kids, if that's in the plan, it can get pretty stressful as well. the choice is your really, not theres. do what is right for you and your husband. in the end, that's what matters.
2007-08-31 03:09:53 · answer #7 · answered by racer 51 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
getting a degree would be a great "back up" you never know what may happen later in life...husband loses job etc....that way you will always have that to lean on...but if i were in your situation i would gladly stay at home! i have been in both situations--my 1st marriage, my husband worked and made great money and i was able to stay at home and take care of the kids and what have you..now that we have divorced..i have been working a full time position for the past 4 yrs..dont get me wrong--i love it!! but i miss staying at home...but now i do know that if i ever get the chance to be at home again...it will be a lot easier for me to be able to take on the work force...as far as in-laws go--who are they to say you need to work? that is between you and your husband to decide what to do with your lives and your household..
good luck
2007-08-31 03:10:41 · answer #8 · answered by Mindy S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get your degree and then make a decision. No rush. You sound young. I was happy to stay at home with my kids until they started school. Then, I got bored. I am back in the work force and really happy earning my own money.
2007-08-31 03:06:46 · answer #9 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im soory 2 tell u that i cant be a house wife,i better take my love trow it inside the tooilet,2 be a house is like 2 be a slave,no 1 will work 4 u and at the end of the month come 2 u and give a salary or half of salary, so is better 2 do it by ur self .
2007-08-31 03:12:01 · answer #10 · answered by kidio2 3 · 0⤊ 4⤋