I'm going through a situation with someone very close to me who is dating someone (and planning to marry), who many years ago was reported for molesting a child. The person close to me believes that the person is a very good man, and wouldn't ever do it again- "It was a one time thing" and he went through counseling. I don't believe that he wouldn't do it again. And more- I'm not going to take that chance- I have 3 children to look out for. What do you think?
2007-08-31 02:26:53 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He was an adult when it happened. He was married, and it was his step-daughter. I don't know any other details.
2007-08-31 04:46:24 · update #1
Oh, and he does admit it- in fact he admitted it very quickly after meeting the person close to me. Too quickly, in my opinion. -Like he was feeling her out to see if she'd be okay with it- which is even more creepy to me...
2007-08-31 04:49:33 · update #2
I think you are right. It's like if you or I had to go through counseling to stop being attracted to men, I would think that's impossible.
If you are worried about your children you can just make sure they are never alone with him, after all it's a "friend" who is dating this person not your babysitter or you yourself.
If you are concerned for your friend and what she may have to go through being with a person like this, I think you have a point. I couldn't even date someone who has that kind of history. Doesn't it make her nauseous to just look at him?
2007-08-31 02:33:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He thought about a child in an indecent way and then acted on it. I dont believe for one second that someone who actually carried through with that would never do it again. Hes got a perversion and I dont think its just going to disappear. Maybe hes managing it by not actually doing it, but could you imagine the thoughts in his head? I wouldnt want my kids around him at ALL. I'm so sorry your friend is being duped, but when someone is in love they wont likely listen to anyone who doesnt approve. I hope she doesnt have to find out the hard way or have children with this person. It may strain your relationship but keep your kids away.
2007-08-31 02:44:58 · answer #2 · answered by ironica7 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure if it's possible or not, but I certainly wouldn't take any chances. People with this kind of past usually do commit this crime again, and I shudder to think how the children they abuse can possibly go on to have normal childhoods. Keep your children far away from him. If she has children, I don't know what to say. I just hope she doesn't!
2007-08-31 02:47:09 · answer #3 · answered by Monika 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right not to take a chance. I'd blast you here if you said anything different.
I don't believe it's possible for it to be a one time thing. Whatever drove them to such deviant and ugly behavior doesn't just go away because of counseling.
Drug addicts may stop taking drugs but it's a day to day struggle not to fall back into the habit.
2007-08-31 02:46:39 · answer #4 · answered by JB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very Complicated but id say it would depend on how old he was when he was accused or was it proven does he admit it? Was he under 12 or was he and adult when this happenend if he was an adult i wouldnt trust him for sure I DONT NO good Luck to you
2007-08-31 02:53:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the temptation would be too strong, especially if ever left alone with the kids.
2007-08-31 02:40:46 · answer #6 · answered by Lola 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he never got CAUGHT again!
he will! he probably has!
keep your kids away from him
2007-08-31 02:34:16 · answer #7 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋