My friend is 31 and living with his parents ..is that ok?

Question

He has a Girlfreind and job and is about to get married..i got out of home at 32 also because i got married..is this bad?

Answer 1

um...YEAH. however, in this day and age with the prices so astronomically high, i guess it can be forgiven as long as he contributes to the household and isn't just being a 31-yr old slacker!

Answer 2

I don't think this is the issue on whether it is "ok" or not, it's more of will other people think less of him or is that normal. Usually parents are only required to support their children up to 18 or 19 after which they become legal adults, some parents even have their children earn their own money for tuition and the sorts. I think if your parents don't mind it (which they probably might once in a while) then it's not too much of a big deal. I think by 31 some people already have their own homes in which they are already supporting their own kids so you guys might a little late. It's good he has a job, it reallly depends on how much money he has, if they're caring for him just until he can get a house and a car or something then it's no biggie. The fact that he is getting married and moving out is a good thing so doesn't really matter how he got there as long as he is there.
Some people are later than others, but think of all the money that was saved. I'd say that when you raise your own kids you would want them to be out of the house sooner.

Answer 3

I've got a friend that is getting ready to turn 33 and still lives at home.

He doesn't have a job.

He has a 'girlfriend' on second life.

He's gone through several girlfriends over the years, most dump him because all he wants to do is lay around in his parents basement.

He's had a few jobs, but most of them never lasted more than a few weeks - months at the most.

He has moved out at least once or twice, but always ended up right back within a short period of time.

His dad recently commited suicide, and he is now living off of the money his mom got from insurance or his job or something.

He's always been a good friend - and he's a really good bass player/guitarist, I don't know what the deal is. Of course now he's hooked on second life, so much for him having a first one.

I moved out of my parents house at 19.

Answer 4

I dont think so. I mean depends on how the man is at this age and living with parents. If he is a total mama's boy then its bad. If he doesnt pick up after himself, cook or do his own laundry its bad.

BUT if he stayed home to pay off his student loans, save and invest money for long term purposes and is ready to get married and buy a house and settle down then its a very good thing and I respect a man who thinks this way as it is wise.

Coz the ones that choose to move out at a young age financially struggle for years to come.

Answer 5

I guess it depends on the culture. My opinion is that people need to get out of their house as soon as they can.... even if it means going through the poor stage of cinderblocks for a coffeetable and a sleeping bag for your bed. I think lately people have been afflicted with "Adultescence". I think unless you are in university you should not live at home. There could be a year out of high school where you work and stay at home but your parents should charge you some kind of rent.

Answer 6

I would not want to marry a guy who had lived at home that long! He never got out on his on, and never will, because he moves out only when he gets married. .so he'll expect his wife to take all the responsibility that he doesn't know how to handle.
It might be different in some cases, but I would think it would be hard to marry a guy (or girl) that had lived with their parents that long because they would have never learned to be truly independent.

Answer 7

some people dont have a problem with staying with their parents when they dont have a job or they cant stand to be away from their parents but i know someone who is 53 and lived with their parnets until they died but at some point you need to leave the house and that is around when graduate from college in case your parents are sick or need your check to pay the bills but besides that their is no other reason to still be in your parents house that long that is kind of sad and your frind better not get married and expect to still live at home with their parents i think a person is still living with their parents at that age is a shame no offense

Answer 8

Well im other cultures like in India it is normal for the children to stay in the home until they are married...but in the US its look down upon. We like to see our offspring off as soon as possible. I'm 22yr female still living at home and my dad has wanted me out of the house since I was 18yrs....but being 32 is still a bit old in my opinion but since he is working and has a relationship it seems he just hasnt been living at home leeching off his parents..so I dont see a problem with it..

Answer 9

I personally think it is bad because I have been supporting myself since I was 18...living on my own...when did the worlds and ideals of men and women change so drastically? I WISH I had been able to live with my parents until marriage, but apparently in my hometown this doesn't work that way...of course in my town they not only haven't moved out ....they have not grown up, gotten a job more (and I don't mean delivering pizza)....(and NO, there is no perk to dating a pizza guy...lol)
What is the hold up about moving on to the "grown up" part of life?

Answer 10

I know that most people will say that this is bad, but not me. It has to do with the cultural background that they come from. In American/Western culture, it is looked down upon when you live with your parents at that age. But in my culture...Persian...it is completly acceptable and kinda expected that you live with your parents, until you're married....unless you move away for school or work, which is always understandable. My sister is 34 and single and she lives at home with me and my parents. My brother is 28, but lives away from home, because of his work. If someone left home, "just because"...its actually kinda looked down upon. Family is veryyyyyy important to us, so we stay close, unless there's an important reason not to.

So, I personally see no problem in your friend living with his parents.

Answer 11

It's not usual. Some people wait until they can save enough money to buy a home. Some are going to college, and their parents opted for free rent. Others are just riding the ship until it sinks. The last would make you a freeloader. Enjoy the freedom.