Family & Relationships - 18 November 2006

This girl was my secondary school classmate. We used to know each other only barely. But God knows how many times i peeped at her during lesson instead of looking at the board. However, i was a shy boy (though still is) and the fact is that she had boyfriends one after another THROGHT OUT the teen years. and God know how many times i felt sour and my heart sank whenever i saw her with her guy(s).

During the poly years, i had a girlfriend and she was having a relatively more committed relationship. so my heart was with my girl at the time and hence u can only say that i have been a secret admirer "on-and-off" for 10 years.

OFF, is when i have a gf, my heart have no one else. and even when i'm single, i won't fall for a girl who is attached.

ON, is for the times when we were both unattached. it kind of give me hope bcoz she is available. For the past 10 years, i never take any action for these "on" periods.

For the past 2 months, we kind of reconnect our communication. Bcoz i'm studying in uni now and she is working, we have chance to chat for few hours daily on MSN. (mon-fri working hours only though, coz she don't usually use msn at home)

From recent chats,
she told me that she is now single, and she mentioned that she is not a late-queen for dates nowadays.
And after she know that i used to have one painful and hurtful relationship, she said that ppl have to move on and "if there's a good girl whom u like then give it a try"
She also claims that she only regard herself who had only 2 relationships coz sec sch histores are just childish ones.

We talked a lot rubbish, shared a lot of views, joked a lot and "suan" each other a lot and i feel (or maybe only i feel)that we start to have some connection.

So, last week, i managed to find some courage a said..

"you wrote on my sec sch autograph book that i can call u anytime, so.. can i call u tonight??"

but she replied "lol.. i have a dinner appointment tonight."

I was rather disappointed. I thought, if she doesn't mind me calling she would have state a time or sth.

But soon after, she said "next time we catch up with a movie, after your exam?", "when your exam finish?", "talk is cheap, fix a date now"....

so, our tentative date (or sec sch class monitor-monitress re-union if putting it mildly) is 3 dec!! just 2 days aft my exam. But the point is that we only chat on MSN and have not advanced into phone-talk and constant sms-es.

I keep thinking of her recently. and thinking..
Shd i postpone it? coz i just had a bad haircut.
what shd i say? how shd i behave? will i just blush and panic? is that anything in my walldrode that can match her smile and style? shd i pay for everything? where shd we eat?? It's not like i don't have experience.
Although i had gf before. But this time is different. She is a special person to me. (else i won't admire her for a decade
So now i'm like completely anxious and excited at the same time.

She is a very pretty girl to me. i looked at her that way for the past 10 years. so it's not like i'm saying this coz she is grown up now and having her own fashion taste.

But i have a low esteem of myself. coz i don't think i have the look. and that i'm just a poor student who owes the bank loan of $18k.

The tough point here for me is:
IS there another guys who express interest in her?
DOES she already has someone in mind?
when shd i tell her my feelings? the feelings that have been kept inside me for 10 years?
Should i buy her a present (and say it's christmas present) for that day?
Should i just write a love letter and confess everything? (probably not coz she might freak out)
What shd we do after movie?
OR.. after all, she might actually just take it at friendship level and that i am thinking way too much?

I feel that, sooner or later, i have to confess my feelings for her and give it a try. else i'll only keep thinking of her and suffocate myself.

What shd i do?
1) Taking it easy and naturally? (i think she will be taken by another guy if taking it slowly. coz she is just such a nice girl)
2) Show my feelings soon? (what if she got stunned and don't talk to me even on msn)

I'm so paranoid!! How i wish that behind every girl there is a equation and by solving it, you understand her thoughts and have her loving you!
(haha.. i'm engineering student)

Can ppl out there advice me? Especially girls. I would be glad to hear your opinons. Thanks a lot if u manage to read finish this essay.

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i feel he likes me bcause he has a soft corner towards . im not
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really i luv him a lot.

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