We are no longer friends!?

Question

I have a friend,well an ex-friend,shes been really mean to me for years.Well we are both in middle school now and she haas become a very bad attitude person. She stole my boyfriend and she was talking about me behind my back.Calling me ugly and stupid for ever going out with my b/f.Well I heard she was talking crap about me and I asked her why she did it??? She told me I was getting mad at something stupid!! She said I always get mad at something stupid!!!!
She says all her other friends are awesome,cause they never get mad her!!! WELL HER FRIENDS AREN'T IN ANY OF HER CLASSES!!! One of the friends she said was awesome was someone she just met!! Give it some time I thought,that girl will get mad at her!!!! I am so hurt!! I couldn't stop crying after I got off the phone!!!!!!Being friends with that girl is living nightmare!!!! She always calls me stupid!! WELL SHE DOESN"T KNOW THE CRAP I DEAL WITH IN MY LIFE!! Is it something stupid to get mad at her for????

Answer 1

Cut you loses, she's a kid...

Answer 2

Of course, it isn't something stupid to get mad over. You said that she doesn't know the crap you have to deal with in your life but have you ever thought about what she has been through before. I had a problem with my bestest friend a while ago. I got so annoyed at her and told her that I have dealt with so much in my life and she has no idea. It turned out that she did have an idea as we had both been in a car accident sometime in our lives. It hit me then, that instead of feeling sorry for myself I should think about how she was feeling and what she was going through. Her calling you ugly and stupid is either because you are the complete opposite or because it makes herself feel better when she puts you down. People do say that opposite attract but you can be TOO opposite or TOO much of the same person. It is good to have a mix. Ask yourself, do you still want her to be your friend? If you dont then just give up on her cause it seems to me like she is over you and just getting on with her life. If she is going to be gay to you then you shouldn't have to put up with that so DONT hit her just ignore her, go find a different group to hang around with & forget everything that happened between you both. If you give her enough space she might realise what a fool she has been for letting a great friend go or she will come to her senses and realise that she calling you ugly and stupid doesn't bother you because you know that it isn't true, so she might stop and either tease someone else or just stop altogether. But if you do, however, still want to be her friend then tell her how you feel. Dont leave it any longer just sit down and have a deep conversation with her. One-on-one is better because then she is away from distractions and her so-called friends. Tell her that you still respect her, you still want to be friends with her and that you would like her to explain what went wrong. Ask her how she feels about it all. Try to make sure that you both stay calm so there isn't as much hostility.
If none of my advice helps then I am sorry. It is just, usually I give great advice and it helps so I was hoping that it might help you.
Bye bye. xx romance_is_dead
P.S. Remember what I said about understanding what she has to deal with in her life. You never know she might be going through the same as you and then you guys can relate.

Answer 3

Ofcourse not, why would it be stupid. Obviously ur friend is quite a snob and just telling her about all the CRAP u deal with wouldnt work. So if u think this is stupid jst tell me, I think u should send her a letter or smthing, its the most easiest way to say how you feel without needing to confront all of it

Answer 4

just a guess but is she an only child??? I had a friend like that she even claimed she invited me to her wedding but never did. Sometimes we're better off just cutting the ties to that person and getting on with life. You did the right thing you sure don't need her dragging you down with her, don't feel bad about it by the way in time you'll see it was the right thing for you :)

Answer 5

Yes! Hi im Morgan im in 8th grade and i sorta went thorugh the same thing but these girls WERNT my friends and they called me REALLY bad bad names! I know it hurts and it seems like there is nothing u can do....but if u just power though it'll get better! OK when they call you a name just say w/e, i dont care, so, ya i know!, or like ya you are ugly im sry you have to tell others that they are just cause of your low self confidence! i read your Question is anyones life like mine? and it wouldnt let me awnsewr it but dont look on all the bad things in life look at the good things dont bring yourself down!! ( i wear 8 1/2 to lol!)If u ever need to talk u can tallk to me k? e-mail or IM Good luck!!

Answer 6

Ugh!! Let her go. If I were you, I would get pissed too. There are lots of other people out there that deserves to be your friend. Don't let her affect you too much. Live it with it honey, this world is full of insecure wanna-bes and good-for-nothing jerks. =)

Learn to be tough as well. If you know that she has totally crossed the line, step up and defend yourself. Don't be scared to talk back. As cheerleaders say, be aggressive. Be, be aggressive. Lol. =)

Answer 7

Your friend/ex-friend has some serious issues. She behaves this way because she feels insecure. Yes! Insecure.

A person who is secure with themselves does not have to lash out, gossip, or torment others in order to feel complete. On the other hand, a person who lashes out, gossips, and torments others do it in order to feel that they are in control and in thier strange world, feel complete.

Do not ever let a controlling, and mean spirited person control your feelings. This does not mean that I encourage you to take her to task and argue with her, or return her behavior in kind. It means that you are the better person for simply smiling and not engaging in conversations with her. Do not call her, do not let her think that she is on your mind what-so-ever.

If you focus on yourself, on how you treat others and stop focusing on a person that is mean spirited and you cannot and will not ever be able to control; you will become a much happier person. And trust me! You're not the only one that see's this person for who she is; The others are simply afraid of her.

I actually feel kind of sorry for people who have to bully around others in order to pack a herd of "friends." Make yourself the exception, not her rule. You will gain much respect for ignoring her comments, and her gossip and DO NOT fall into defending yourself to anyone regarding her comments or gossip. People are not blind, you will come out the victor (winner) through showing class and holding your head high.

Answer 8

no its not stupid. just rememebr she isnt really your friend if she does all that. just try to ignore her and if she says somethign tou you just really calmly say do you have a problem with me. this will probably throw her off gaurd. also just rememeber she is proabably doing all this for the attention. its sad if you think about it. just dont pay any attention to her but dont be mean if you have the chance to be nice to her do it. she might be nice back. find some new friends that are nice and treat you right.

Answer 9

you are young,, you will find out in life that some people change and some are jerks all their life,, you need to sort out who is a friend and who is not, life is way to short at any age to not be happy every day, if someone makes you sad or mad, get away from that influence,

Answer 10

No,It's not nothing stupid to get mad over and if it was me we would've been fighting because I don't let people take over my life anymore I stand up for myself.I'm not telling you to fight her I'm just telling what I would've did you should go to the principals office and tell him you are getting tired of her and she needs to back off before it ends to a fight.

Answer 11

She isn't worth your time.
But just let it go if you still want to be friends.
Call her and apologize for getting up her back (even though you dont mean it, it's just so she will be friends with you) and tell her you still want to be friends.

I hope it works.
This is a sticky situation.