we hve been going out almost 2 years ,it was on his bureau .i asked hinn to take it down .he did to put it on his desk face down but it has been there for a year now. it relly bothers me and he knows it . what do I do? we live together
2006-11-18 00:43:46 · 11 answers · asked by akasha 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
This is different than a picture of his ex. He apparently has/had a connection with this child. This connection may or may not have kept him in the relationship longer than he may have wanted. This connection may have been much more pure than the relationship with the ex. A clean break with an ex is different than disappearing from a child's life. It is so hard knowing that you were contributing to a child's life, possibly counteracting a negative influence from somewhere, and now you're gone. Maybe this picture is his form of prayer for the health and well-being of the child. He is not cheating on you, not doing this to piss you off. He's expressing love for a child. No harm, no foul.
2006-11-18 00:48:49 · answer #1 · answered by stargazergirl1 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Ok.....I just recently split up with my ex like 10 months ago.....I have three kids that don't belong to him and he has a daughter that doesn't belong to me.........BUT.....it is a thing called security baby......
My two daughters are at his house right now because it is his weekend to have his daughter and tomorrow she will come spend the day at my house.......and he is at every sport function that my children have.....because he loves THEM.....just like I love his daughter......the last comment you made in your question...."we live together" he is with you girl, what is the problem? You need to talk to your man about this and find out why he keeps it and if the man tells you that he loves that baby.....the best thing you could do to make your relationship stronger....instead of being jealous and reading into something...take notice that you have a caring man that feels love for a child that he bonded with.....some REAL fathers can't and don't do that.....
so.....I suggest you TALK to your man(not in anger) and see what he has to say and be confident in the fact that he is with you baby....ask yourself why are you with him? I bet the answer is because you wanna be, right? He is with you because he wants to be.....don't ruin it by driving him crazy with your own insecurities......try sitting the picture face up and talking to him......ask about the child.....show him that the girl he loves is a caring, confident woman and go from there......
I will always be a part of my ex's daughter's life....I even talk to her mother.....and same goes with him with my children....I can tell that you are not a mother and I don't mean that in a bad way....but from someone that became a mother at 18.....and now I am 31....I have learned that the love you feel for a child..your own or not is something you don't let go of......think about it and I hope that you can look at this..not that he is trying to hold on to the ex......but for the love he felt for that child.......good luck!!!
Angel
2006-11-18 01:29:58 · answer #2 · answered by Angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-22 07:26:15 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, it is just a kid, that may not have been his, but one that he grew to love as if it was his own. YOU have a responsibility to understand that the child is the innocent one, and your boyfriend loves this child. Grow up, stop being so jealous of an innocent little child, and get over it.
2006-11-18 00:54:16 · answer #4 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the ex's kids may represent his longing for the mother and the relationship, you need 2 probe alittle on the subject with him. can you stand 2 hear the truth about his feeling for his lost relationship, it may be that you should move on. good luck. but you need to know.
2006-11-18 00:58:30 · answer #5 · answered by silkieladyinthecity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him how u feel about it cusz if he knows maybe he'll take it down, and if he doesnt take it down put an even bigger picture of you on his desk. That way your happy cusz your picture catchesz his eye ((and maybe everyone elses))
Or just dont worry about it, maybe its nothing.
2006-11-20 01:45:35 · answer #6 · answered by L00KiN F0R MR. RiGHT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u do not make an issue of the situation, it will mould the way u want. Be patient. Give him a child of his own thru u.
2006-11-18 00:48:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The picture goes or you go! It is totally disrespectful to you. To get over it, you move on. It is not your problem, it is his and I don't know any woman that would put up with that.
2006-11-18 00:52:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would take the pictures and throw them out and when he asks..."What they are gone?? "
2006-11-18 02:20:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him if he doesn't remove it,that your going to start sending XXX pics to all the men on yahoo answers
2006-11-18 00:47:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋