Family & Relationships - 12 September 2006

I'm married (12 years now) with two children (11 & 6). I met someone two years ago, and have been having a relationship with her for the last year and a half. I am in love with her very, very much.

My question is whether I should grin and bear my marriage (I am a relatively stoical type) or should I follow my heart and leave and live - I would hope - happily after. What would the childrens' reaction be? Could I ever be happy living with the guilt?

I have always been quite honest about the position with everyone concerned. I have spoken about it with my wife since the relationship started. I have exlained to the children that, were I to leave, it is no reflection on them or on my feelings towards them.

Will the guilt ever leave me? Has anyone firsthand experience of this? How should one do it? Just get on with it and jump or try and keep everyone happy? (I have been trying to do the latter and it doesn't seem to be working.) I am very serious about the woman I want to be with.

2006-09-12 10:52:13 · 35 answers · asked by Jake J 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2006-09-12 10:51:41 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2006-09-12 10:51:06 · 14 answers · asked by tithee03 1 in Singles & Dating

If you went through most of your life never with someone, how do you feel that would affect you.....
If you never had a special someone in your life. If you've never heard tell you, "I love you..."
How would you go on?

2006-09-12 10:50:45 · 9 answers · asked by AJAY 2 in Singles & Dating

I want to join myspace but I think my boyfriend will think i'm just trying to talk to guys. But I just want to talk to friends. Any couples out there on my space? How has it worked out for you two seperately and as a couple?

2006-09-12 10:49:58 · 8 answers · asked by Mona217 2 in Singles & Dating

well I just got out of a really bad relationship and need advice on how to get a REALLY hot guy to notice you even if you know he kinda likes you but he mite like you more than you think? PLEASE help!

2006-09-12 10:49:53 · 8 answers · asked by *just me*ur approval isnt needed 2 in Singles & Dating

2006-09-12 10:49:41 · 5 answers · asked by timultypaul 1 in Singles & Dating

live with my mom that dosent want my finac'e there of take my kids to a shelter?

2006-09-12 10:48:59 · 15 answers · asked by Lady T 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

how do i no when a girl likes me we have been macking eye contact and smileling at each other i want to ask her if she likes me but im scared she will say no and i will look stupid so any tips how i could get her to ask me p.s im in the 7th grade thanx dont forget 10 points

2006-09-12 10:48:21 · 9 answers · asked by marajana 2 in Singles & Dating

yeah, ever since i have been cheated on. and broken up with. i cannot keep up with my studies. i just keep thinking about it.


men=do u think if you broke up with a 10 month relationship and was so in love with ur former girlfriend. for another women. would you get jealous if you saw her happy with another man completly changed her look and all of sudden you would get your feelings back for her?


women= have you been through this? if u have tell me how u dealed with it.

2006-09-12 10:48:09 · 29 answers · asked by ily_______&?; 2 in Singles & Dating

my friend is only 13 and (so am i)sheis not exactly prepy....she just took up smoking and last year she talked about suicid but my friends and i talked her out of it she is now carying around a razor(not a phone)and says she cuts herself with it i dont want to abandon her and i dont want so do somting drastic but i have no idea what i can do before she gets really hurt...

2006-09-12 10:47:36 · 7 answers · asked by mimi 1 in Friends

punish her for?

2006-09-12 10:47:11 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I was going out with my girlfriend for almost 2 years when randomly she wanted to stop seeing each other because she wants to be more independent and doesn't want to rely on me to make her happy. She says that she still loves me and doesn't want another boyfriend at all cause she has been in a relationship for the past 4 years. She also says that she thinks the relationship could work later but just not right now. We are still hanging out but not in that kind of relationship. What should i Do?

2006-09-12 10:47:03 · 7 answers · asked by Michael A 1 in Singles & Dating

fact::i dont like to dress like a male, but i like girly womans,
= i like to dress like girly womans, but im 1OO% male,
dressing like a male makes me feel wrong, i cannot continue to do so,

my theory about why i do exist::
i think 5000 years ago or so, there was a civilization of males and females that like to dress a femenine way
and in other side of the world was another civilization of males and females that like to dress a masculine way

masculine civilization its extreme violent, and declared war to femenine civilization, femenine civilization lost war, and became slaves, and femenine males had to camuflage to look like masuline males to avoid being slaves,
black people cannot camuflage as white people,
but girlymales can do camouflage as masculine males
a few generations later, all people forgot about the 2 civilizatons
when people forgot, the sexual confusion started,
i think girly womans attract camuflaged girly males, but feel wrong becouse the camuflage?

2006-09-12 10:46:59 · 24 answers · asked by T♥A♥T♥Y♥A♥N♥A♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥ 2 in Singles & Dating

You see this depicted in sitcoms and movies all the time. But I've never actually heard of anyone doing it. Have you or anyone you know actually started kissing someone they're arguing with mid-sentence? Or have you seen it happen in real life?

2006-09-12 10:46:07 · 4 answers · asked by bethany m 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

2006-09-12 10:45:27 · 13 answers · asked by urbanbutterfly 3 in Singles & Dating

I don't mean for this to come off as perverted; just curious...

Let's say you are drinking at a bar with a few of your girl friends. There is a pretty decent looking guy making eye contact with you from across the room. He is about your age, casually dressed, appears confident and pleasant, mybe a little shy, and is overall pretty attractive. Throughout the past hour, the two of you have made eye contact about half a dozen times, but he has yet to come over and say hello. Finally, you see him approaching you. He politely smiles as he shyly leans in as though he is going to whisper something in your ear. He says to you quietly, "I would like to have se x with you,"

What is your reaction?

2006-09-12 10:45:22 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

See i go to a suburban private school, where there are only a few people and i dont have that many friends at all, which adds to the problem, of me being shy, and never saying anything. But i have one best friend, we are REALLY good friends, i would stay, but it's hard when she's really outgoing and talks to everybody, i kinda get left out i know she doesnt mean to, but i dont wanna lose her as a friend, help please??

2006-09-12 10:45:09 · 5 answers · asked by a 3 in Friends

or do you have to go to Alabama for that?

2006-09-12 10:43:33 · 9 answers · asked by taterhog mung-flower 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2006-09-12 10:43:31 · 22 answers · asked by Pcyeta R 1 in Singles & Dating

DOMINATE or SUBMISSIVE

2006-09-12 10:43:23 · 18 answers · asked by ? 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

We've already got the ring, and he wants to make this special for me by giving me free reign. Trouble is, I don't have a lot of ideas! He wants to use the list I give him to customize his own way of doing this. What do you think would be the most romantic on a moderately cheap budget? Here are some more specs to help your creative juices:
1. Right now, we're attending different colleges, so he'd have to come out here. His brothers have an apartment in town, but he doesn't have one.
2. We're going to Disneyland in the middle of October, for all you guys with great Cali-centered ideas
3. I'm a bit of a romantic, and I'd like for things to be personal. So I don't want like a skywrite or billboard thing going, but a public place is still okay as long as we do something else first
4. Okay, I lied a little on the last spec. I'm REALLY a romantic. As in, some chick flicks make me cry.

Thanks a bunch!!! :)

2006-09-12 10:42:49 · 13 answers · asked by elusiveoptimist 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Me about a day, the most two....
I tend to get all bitchy when i dont get any....
So how about u guys? and whats the crazyes thing u have done to get sex right then and there?

2006-09-12 10:42:02 · 11 answers · asked by Twilight 3 in Singles & Dating

woman are never wrong!!!

why

2006-09-12 10:41:42 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

I'm 5 feet 5inches, 140lbs, asian and taned, firends say I'm funny, love animals ,live in a apt. I've finish college with a masters would I be a good guy?(as in to get married with or go out)

thank you for replys

2006-09-12 10:41:15 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

There is this girl in my class that i have a crush on........ we are friends and i am afraid that telling her i like her will ruin our friendship what do i do!!!!!!!!!!!

2006-09-12 10:41:08 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

I've always been with black girls,and I don't understand why white girls seem to be afraid by gentlemen like me...It's ridiculous...

2006-09-12 10:39:27 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Also, do women get more attracted to a guy, the more e-mail addresses he has? And should a guy always use spam protection?

2006-09-12 10:39:18 · 12 answers · asked by McAtterie 6 in Singles & Dating

I have this Best Friend and ever since she got a boyfriend, she's been ditching me for him even if i ask to do something with her first. It makes me mad and upset. Shouldn't she be hanging out with me just as much if I'm her Best Friend. And to put the cherry on top, she hates my mom because my mom "screamed"(in her words) at her. We're in a fight now and i still want to be her friend even though I hate her for talking smack about my mom! We've been in a billion fights before and they've all passed over, but i don't think this one will. I've tried everything to be her friend again and it's not working. What should I do?

2006-09-12 10:38:12 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

2006-09-12 10:38:10 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce