live with my mom that dosent want my finac'e there of take my kids to a shelter?
2006-09-12 10:48:59 · 15 answers · asked by Lady T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Take the pros and cons of the situation. As a mom your kids need to be number 1 priority (as I'm sure they are) so do what is best for them and what is best for you?
Do you want this man to be the role model to your children? If so is there a way to go a cheap apartment. A shelter would maybe be okay temporarily. I don't know what this person did to go to jail, but what ever it was should be weighed into your decision, because jail is a bad sign. Is your mom a good judge of character? Why doesn't she want him around? Even if he is a great guy for you someone who ends up in jail usually can't take care of themselves so will he be able to take care of you and your children? Do you want to live in a shelter, when you have other options? There are probably more questions and they all need to be weighed. I am just suggesting that if he is your finance' you probably care about him, but there are a lot of things to consider you, your kids, his ability to take care and provide, your mother, etc.
Also, maybe think about what you would do if he was not getting out of jail. What would your plan be then.
Good luck with everything.
2006-09-12 11:02:47 · answer #1 · answered by Sheilden_64 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to think of your kids first. They are most important. You want them to have stability and your mom would probably be better than a shelter. She also might have a good reason to not want your man around you or the kids (you don't say what he was in jail for).
Good luck, but remember you're responsible to those children, only you can give them a good life.
2006-09-12 17:51:32 · answer #2 · answered by bdgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me it sounds like you need to stop thinking and worrying about some damn jail man. Right now he has nothing so what f**k can he do for you or your children. Go to your mama's with your children, and let him fend for himself. He had to do it in jail, so he is use to it. You need to get your a** off the Internet and get your damn life in order for your kids. You only want him back, cause you miss the sex, but that sex got you kids with a jail bird. This is 2006, when are you trifling women are going to let go of these trifling a** busted jail wanna-b men! Stop thinking about you and think about your kids. You are seriously thinking about going to an overcrowded shelter, cause your mama don't want the loser at her house.Why don't you and the loser take y'all a** to the shelter and leave your kids with your mama. The shelter is for those people who really have no place to go. You have a place to go, and that place is your mama's house. And the so called man can take his a** back to jail. Which he probably will, and then what. You will want to go to your mama then. Stop trying to have your cake and eat it to. Grow the HELL up!
2006-09-12 17:58:56 · answer #3 · answered by Ty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would take my kids to my moms house and live there, dont take your kids to a shelter if you dont have to, your mom Im sure is willing to take you in, just not your fiance. Your fiance just got out of jail so he has alot of catching up to do and proving to YOU that he is worth keeping. Men in jail always have a "everyone owes me" attitude. You dont OWE him nothing. You have kids to think about. If your mom dont want him there then respect her wishes and you and your kids stay there becuase I know your mom does not want to see you stay in a shelter becuase of a man! Key word, MAN, if he is one he wouldn't want to see you in a shelter neither! Im sure he has somewher to go. All jail birds do even if they dont say so. (Trust me, I know from personal experience). He's street smart.
2006-09-12 17:58:31 · answer #4 · answered by Pcyeta R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump the man. A home for your kids is more important than anything or anyone!!!
Or, if you care more about being with your man than having a home for your kids, leave the kids with your mom & ride off into the sunset with your jailbird!
2006-09-12 17:53:00 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious? Your man?
You just lost everything in a fire, you have two babies, and you are worried about where your man will sleep?
Where was he sleeping before you came into his life?
Honey if he was so concerned about you and those babies, he wouldn't have been in jail....You're not his momma...make him stand on his own two feet.
2006-09-12 18:01:24 · answer #6 · answered by Annie R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a real man honey drop the looser jail bird and start takin care of your life and family.
2006-09-12 17:50:39 · answer #7 · answered by david r 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would stay with your mother have him stay close and just see each other until you can get up on your own together time is the healing answer.. and your mother will just have to get over you still seeing that man but 95% of the time the mothers always right you may not see it yet but you will.
2006-09-12 17:53:00 · answer #8 · answered by rocs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to charities. They were helpful when I lost my home to the Cedar fire in 2003.
2006-09-12 17:51:50 · answer #9 · answered by L3-knightw1zard 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump the man...if he was in jail I can see why he's not welcome. You have a bigger obligation to your children than to your misguided taste in men.... Grow up and be a mom... not a groupie to a criminal.
2006-09-12 17:51:39 · answer #10 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋