See i go to a suburban private school, where there are only a few people and i dont have that many friends at all, which adds to the problem, of me being shy, and never saying anything. But i have one best friend, we are REALLY good friends, i would stay, but it's hard when she's really outgoing and talks to everybody, i kinda get left out i know she doesnt mean to, but i dont wanna lose her as a friend, help please??
2006-09-12 10:45:09 · 5 answers · asked by a 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
:) the more u work on urself, the better u will feel. *trust me*.
so having said that, work on:
1) your appearance: work out. exercise. take care of ur body. take care of ur skin. get new haircut. try on new clothes. buy Flattering, stylish clothes, make u feel good and look good.
2) your mind: study. read more. learn more about current events. find a hobby, and excel at it. the more u KNOW, the easier it will be for you to develop your own ways of thinking, as well as be able to TALK w/ others about it.
3) your relationships: as u build ur confidence in urself, and keep in mind to be Open Minded, Non Judgemental to others..... u will be able to speak out more, talk to ur friends, family members, practice talking about anything and everything u are learning, or find out what they are interested in. the more u practice, the easier it will be for u to do that with Strangers, or friends of friends, and not feel as shy...because remember, 1 & 2, u are already working on ur appearance and your brain, so u don't have as much to be "scared" about.
:) good luck...the more Positive attitude u have (remember, u can Always change something if u make a mistake, u can learn from it, u can always grow, and do something different tomorrow), the more opportunity u will have in ur life. confidence will lead to easier job interviews, class discussions, making friends, getting to know teachers, etc etc.... huge impact on ur life. but getting over ur shyness is the first step, and working on ur confidence will help u become less shy.
2006-09-15 10:27:46 · answer #1 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To b honest, changing school is not gonna work. People r always the same everywhere. You should not think about that if she likes you , then she just like you no matter how shy you r and no matter if you're not smart and you're shy. I think you have the feeling that she's gonna live you someday but believe me she's not gonna do that cuz she likes you the way you r. And if you could do, just tell her how you feel, she would b happy that you share your feelings with her. She would help you with that and if she doesn't she not your friend. And things will get harder if you won't talk.
I don't know if your a girl or a boy but if you're a boy, just beat some guys. That will make you famous and popular. I always do that in the beginning cuz I have to change school when we moov on to another town. I don't get too many friends but I mange to make people wave to me and say hello to me and not to bother me the whole year.
I hope it will help you and don't run away. It's just a school, you have a whole life and its way more harder that it. Just start being strong and possitive, no matter if people talk to you or not.
Good Luck, deer.
2006-09-12 18:06:23 · answer #2 · answered by Willie Black 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think I would change schools for that specific reason....
Try to find things in common with the other people that your best friend is always talking to and just join in the conversation.... I know what it is like to be shy... I am a very shy person but, I hide it well.... I cannot just approach a stranger or anything like that.... But I do try to find something in common with my friends' friends and try to join in..... Its not really as hard as it sounds, and you would be amazed at how many more friends you could make that way!!!
2006-09-12 17:50:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first try to open yourself up a little more but if that dont work and the situation is really that bad,change schools but make shure you have a way to keep in touch with your best freind i guess but if you dont talk to anybody and you are still very shy your never going to make any friends anywhere
2006-09-12 17:50:32 · answer #4 · answered by XZELSOR 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your destiny is at the school you're at riht now. Maybe you should change schools and there you'll find your true friends. Think about it. What would you rather do? What if something went wrong? What would happen then? Good luck!
2006-09-12 17:48:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋