yeah, ever since i have been cheated on. and broken up with. i cannot keep up with my studies. i just keep thinking about it.
men=do u think if you broke up with a 10 month relationship and was so in love with ur former girlfriend. for another women. would you get jealous if you saw her happy with another man completly changed her look and all of sudden you would get your feelings back for her?
women= have you been through this? if u have tell me how u dealed with it.
2006-09-12 10:48:09 · 29 answers · asked by ily_______&?; 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we all need help - after all we all need...erm...help
2006-09-12 10:49:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I broke up with any woman there would have to be a reason for it. To her, the ship might have been sailing along just fine. But if it was not to me, and I feel I could not change or correct what was going on. Then I would leave(never had that really happen yet). If you have defined open lines of communication, you steer clear of mishaps like that. If I thought I would be jealous seeing her with another guy, I would have fought harder to keep her in the 1st place.
Now, a guy who broke it off, got another gal, and is jealous of the ex. sounds like either a frustrated, impatient person or one with an ego the size of Mt St Helens. I knew guys who after leaving found what they got was not better than the girl they had, and it frustrated them. Others had a complex about it because they thought THEY WERE ALL THAT AND A SACK OF NUTS. And that he leaving her she sould not be able to find a replacement, much less a BETTER one them him.
The best thing you can do is get off it, get over it, get on with it. Not that you would forget it. But thinking about it everyday when that ship has sailed is doing what? Blocking you from being with someone(you have yet to meet)that will look at you as the king does his gold.
Even if she changed her look, and all that. If I left her. I would be secure in my mind to know why, and that I was passed her. And if she found another, I would be relieved. Because I know she had found someone to make her happy and would not be troubling me anymore.
2006-09-12 18:02:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Broken hearts do mend, but you have to be willing to leave the past in the past and move forward. Once you truly love someone, you will always love them;however not all loves are good or healthy for us. You will always love him, but he's not the guy for you, because if he was he would not have cheated on you and broke you heart. The whole idea of dating is finding out what qualities you are looking for in a lifetime partner. There are going to be breakups and broken hearts, until you find the right person for you. Once you find that guy that has all the qualities you are looking for, you aren't willing to risk loosing him by cheating with another guy. Pick yourself up, and realize that he was not the guy for you, nor were you the right girl for him, otherwise he would not have risked cheating on you. Move on and open yourself up to once again finding love, until then take care of you...Do whatever it is that you need to do to make yourself into the best person you can be, so you will be ready when that right guy comes along.
2006-09-12 17:58:18 · answer #3 · answered by Cynthia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being cheated on is devastating and it really makes you doubt yourself as a person both in looks and personality. however the only way to deal with this and get back to your studies is to move on. talk to friends and family and spend some time with them. whenever you think about your ex call a friend. you could change everything about yourself and find a new guy and try and make your ex jealous but what are you really going to achieve. nothing. you will hurt the new guy, will lose your essence, spend all your time and energy trying to make your ex jealous and then if he does want you back what then. you get to have a relationship with a guy you won't trust and who doesn't love or respect you. as hard as it is you need to move on from this relationship and give yourself time to heal. there is a reason why you should never go back. good luck.
2006-09-12 17:54:42 · answer #4 · answered by burn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not a 10 month relationship,,... but i do know where you're coming from.
the problem is, almost every guy i have been snubbed/dumped by, has come back to me sooner or later once i had moved on and found something else. one time i gave in.. big mistake! i realized it wasn't about me, but about these men.
i know that us girls want to make the guy jealous and show them what they are missing... but don't take him back after that. know why? because those are the type of men that want what they can't have...they're chasin after some ideal that doesn't exist and they won't give healthy relationships a chance; they live in Dreamland. think about it... he left you for someone he didn't have! he's searchin for something he can't get from ANY woman.
so strap on those stillettos and strut or do whatever makes you feel sexy and worthwhile, but don't throw yourself at any man for that expense and don't hand yourself over to your ex again. if you begin a relationship to spite this guy, you'll be hurting the next... which means you are no better than your ex. wait until a healthy, sexy smart man who knows what he sees comes along.. and you'll be happy for REAL.
God Bless
2006-09-12 17:55:25 · answer #5 · answered by jami p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't allow your lovelife affect your studies, there are still so many good men out there, and you should have known at first, that not all relationships last a lifetime. Next time around be prepared.
Yes I would be jealous, but I will not delve on it since we have already broke up.
Life has to go on.
Hurt feelings will soon pass away.
Enjoy life while still young, it won't come your way again.
2006-09-12 17:54:49 · answer #6 · answered by yulnores 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Damn, that guy was an idiot, you are way hot. Keep up with your studies, because you'll have a new dude soon, Im real confident of that. I mean, you must have guys ask you out all the time. And just look at it this way, I mean, the old dude had to be a real idiot to dump you, right? And to answer the rest of your question, no, that wouldnt make me jealous.
2006-09-12 18:11:13 · answer #7 · answered by bmwdriver11 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let go sweetie ,this one wasnt for you ,try again ,but please put ur studys before this ,as later you will wish you had ,this person isnt worth the worry,think of yourself ,and where you want to be in the future,when it goes wrong like this it will never be the same as it was the first time anyway ,there are some wounderfull people out there and you deserve better ,you know you do ,look to better yourself ,you dont need this riff raff.
2006-09-12 17:54:51 · answer #8 · answered by whitecloud 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't let your social life or lack thereof effect your school work. Stop dwelling on the "relationship" and move along. Someone else will be around to love you at some point. GOOD LUCK!
2006-09-12 17:50:00 · answer #9 · answered by thebigm57 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first love Cheated on me 7times while we were together and 2 pregnant. I stuck with him. Then his so called fling was burning and he burnt me. It's not so embarrassing anymore because i now know it wasn't my fault. But once i realized that i was fine because my 6lb. 5on. baby was healthy and they had a cure for me. I learned not to ever let a man take over me like that again.
2006-09-12 18:01:25 · answer #10 · answered by Lady T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I have been through this. It is a very difficult time to have. However, you must accept the fact that it is over. You will soon find someone else. You need to find someone to spend time with, guy whom is just a friend and devote your time with him.
2006-09-12 17:50:57 · answer #11 · answered by pits_me1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋