I have been with a man for over 4yrs, he two years older than me and has begun his career. I am still in school and we have lived together for the past 3 years. The problem is not whether we love each other, but rather when we disagree the argument often escalates into a very mean screaming match, where we both do anything in our power to hurt one another (it is never physically violent, more like psychological warefare). We both acknowledge that it is a problem that needs to be fixed, and have tried different strategies such as using cool off periods before we talk about an issue but nothing seems to work. My partner usually instigates the fight but I am the one who "flips out", we both say mean things but he is usually the first to back down but often does it with the feeling he is a victim and that the whole problem lies with me. I am aware that I play a large role in this problem (otherwise I would not be posting this) but I feel he plays a role in this too. How do I stop it?
2006-06-18
04:37:10
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