2006-06-18 04:45:51 · 38 answers · asked by nicki00fleck 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You should go, life is too short.
2006-06-19 01:46:40 · answer #1 · answered by NJAS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although I think people are right to say that you wouldn't be able to change anything by staying home, I can't imagine that you'll be able to enjoy your holiday that much if you go. Firstly because of grief, and secondly because you will torment yourself with (albeit undeserved) guilt.
My grandfather died at the end of April and there was SO much to do. We are quite a large family but even still we were all kept busy with the practicalities of funeral arranging and paperwork. It often falls to the grandchildren to deal with these things as other family members are emotionally distraught.
You know better than anyone whether your family needs you right now or not. If he died today, and you're only away for a week, then you would be probably back in time for the funeral, which is the most important thing as it helps you to gain closure and shows respect to your family. Talk to your family, and if you do decide to go away, be sure to keep in touch with them.
Although money is not the most important thing in times like these, you should contact your travel agent and find out if you would get a refund for cancelling. Often, extreme circumstances like bereavement entitle you to a full or partial refund, and you might be able to reschedule the holiday for a time when you will be able to properly enjoy it.
You have my sympathy.
2006-06-18 05:01:58 · answer #2 · answered by Alex should be working 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry to hear about your grandad. Do the family need you to be there and presumably the funeral won't be for about a week or so you could go even if you decided to come home early. Would you enjoy yourself if you went or would you feel guilty? Personally I wouldn't want to go because i know i wouldn't enjoy myself and I could always go on holiday anytime, but that's just me.
You must decide what is right for you. No one else can make that decision for you.
Good luck with whatever you decide and my thoughts are with you and your family.
2006-06-18 05:02:16 · answer #3 · answered by Sheila 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, my condolences on losing your grandfather.
How do you feel about it? Do you feel the need to stay to support your family or to be consoled by them? How do they feel about it? If they need you or you need them, stay. You really can't do anything for your grandfather now, but perhaps you can do something for those left behind, including you. But if everyone feels okay about it, and you think you'll be all right missing the rites, then go on your trip and enjoy it as much as possible.
By the way, you may or may not have the insurance coverage needed for rescheduling your trip. It's not necessarily automatic. If you bought your ticket through a travel agency, check with the agency. If not, check with the airline and find out what the damage will be.
And Giza... it's LOSING.
to lose (in this case): To be left alone or desolate because of the death of ______: lost his wife.
to loose: To let _______ loose; release _______: loosed the dogs
2006-06-18 05:19:38 · answer #4 · answered by Muddy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was me i know my grandad would not want me to sit at home getting upset, life goes on he would say enjoy it while you can. The funeral probably won't be until after you're due back anyway, and as long as you have other family members to organise it then you go. If it doesn't feel right whilst your there then you can get on the next plane home.
Sorry for your loss. xx
2006-06-18 09:15:01 · answer #5 · answered by kl1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear your sad news.
Would you regret not staying, giving/getting support and also miss the funeral?
You will have loads of holidays but if you miss the above, you won't have a second chance.
Holidays come and go.
And would you really enjoy your holiday right now anyway?
Do waht your/heart and conscience tell you.
Again, sorry. You may sytill be very shook-up......?
2006-06-18 04:51:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you think is the best thing to do, providing that you were not close, and or hardly knew your Grandfather, then it would be understandable if you decided to stay home, however, if you were close, and or had a caring relationship with you Grandfather, then out of respect you should go.
2006-06-18 04:54:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your grandad would have wanted you to go dont worry about what people say life goes on i know its very soon after but what can you do if you stay here go and have a good time he will be in your thoughts
2006-06-18 04:51:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on how close you were to him and if your family needs you desperately there and what your grandad would want you to do if you have any idea. And last but not least it is totally up to you
2006-06-18 04:47:58 · answer #9 · answered by dmxdragon2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends when the funeral is because if theyre at the same time its one or the other and its entirely up to you im sorry. but if you can do both i think you should go because if you stay all youll do is mope around feeling sorry for yourself and if thats what you want to do than be my guest but if it were me id go and have some fun, thats probably what he would have wanted. sorry for your loss
2006-06-18 05:26:09 · answer #10 · answered by Faith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should cancel the holiday and stay for the funeral. You can always take another holiday but you'll never have the chance to pay your respects to your GD again. Good luck.
2006-06-18 04:48:41 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋