I'm 44 & my ex is 31, & I just can't seem to get him out of my head. He still calls me continually & tells me how now he continually partys, drinks, does drugs, even has sex with strangers & some others from his past. It is all very disturbing to me because I still care for him & I feel as I'm watching him self destruct. I always tell him to be safe. I can't even after 1 year take off my Wedding ring from our Wedding day over 7 years ago. I do see a therapist weekly to try and work through this situation. The day my Ex left me he just took his Wedding ring off in front of me & just stormed out the door with no ryme or reason. I will add that I don't like being alone & would like to be happy again. Any sincere advice will be greatly appreciated. Thank You!
2006-06-18 04:44:44 · 11 answers · asked by soulsurvivor 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You handle it the same way a heterosexual does. Do things to get your mind off of him and for goodness sakes, stop taking his calls! All he's doing is messing with your head and your heart which he knows is a a good heart and that's why he continues to call you telling you how irresponsible he's being.
Block him from calling you anymore and start going out with your friends to keep your mind busy on other things besides your ex.
And whatever you do, don't ever allow the guy back into your bed as you know very well he's had unprotected and unsafe sex so whatever he may have now, he will pass it on to you if you allow him back in your life and back in your bed.
Irresponsible queens tick me off.
2006-06-18 04:52:30 · answer #1 · answered by Shep 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-14 06:49:56 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good gay relationship are hard to come by. He's younger than you are and he wants to experience other men. Eight years is a long time and most young gay men will date older guys for security. Enjoy the time away from him start dating other people and never let him see you hurt. If he see that you have moved on and pretend not to care so much for him, or sometimes you have to treat them like ****, believe it or not sometime that works . They will then think about what they had, but don't make it so easy for him to come back, if you make it easy he will take it for granted and won't appreciate what he got. I know being in the life for over13yrs!
2006-06-18 05:08:39 · answer #3 · answered by ann d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not easy. Don't spend so much time alone.If you haven't started dating again, get out there and just be friendly. You don't have to be "looking", but there will always be people who have a friend who have a friend...ya know? Sorry about your ex, and I know it's hard, I had to even change my phone # because my ex kept calling- not to get back together, just to describe what he was doing. As soon as I cut him COMPLETELY out of my life, things took a turn for the better. Good luck, hang in there.
2006-06-18 05:04:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is really mentally abusing you. You need to cut yourself off. As long as you answer those phone calls, your heart is going to stay very emotionally involved with him. You are not letting yourself get over him because the wounds are still fresh. You haven't had any closure. He left you, he needs to stop calling. However, since he's not, then help yourself. A therapist is a great idea, but you've got to make yourself stop being this guy's puppet.
2006-06-18 05:13:40 · answer #5 · answered by pritigrl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not answer his phones calls any more. He is toying with you. Take off your wedding ring.
You are more important. Use this time to do something great for yourself like going somewhere you have always wanted.
You don't want him anymore because he has been plowing through drugs and sex partners.
2006-06-18 05:07:26 · answer #6 · answered by murkglider 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the way to move on is to accept and forgive maybe get a dog or a new boyfriend to get him out of your head and remember maybe he is happier now and that should make you feel better goodluck
2006-06-18 04:50:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wish i could just give you a big cuddle my ex finished with me 6 months ago it does get better bit by bit
2006-06-19 02:22:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
really try to move on i know it isn't easy but if you woller in your misery to long it won't help at all. sorry i sincerely hope things get betta GOD SPEED BRO!
2006-06-18 04:56:53 · answer #9 · answered by bubbacush 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL IF HE LEFT YOU THEN I THINK THERE MUST BE SOMETHING WRONGE AND I THINK MAYBE IF YOU WOULD TRY TO MOVE ON THEN IT WOULD HELP YOU ALOT MORE AND IF YOU TRY TO LIKE DATE OR SOMETHING THEN THAT MIGHT BE GOOD TOO AND I WOULD JUST LIKE TRY TO HELP GOOD LUCK
2006-06-18 04:53:31 · answer #10 · answered by tropical_sweety2587 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋