I have been married for a year and a half. My parents are divorced and never really had a functional pattern of relating, and I don't feel like I have a baseline of what is "normal." Of course, toward the beginning of our relationship, we were blissfully happy and thought we were different than every other couple - and so lucky to have found true, healthy love. Now, a year and 1/2 later, all of the bad patterns have surfaced. He has a father who is emotionally abusive to his mother, and I sometimes get the same kind of treatment. When I stand up for myself, he says I am being a "*****." We probably have sex about 1x a month- he says he's just lost his sex drive (though I think it's really just that I'm 'old news,' because the women in his porn seem to arouse him.) We have a lot of blaming happening- a lot of "you started it." How much of this is normal?? How disappointed were you in the early years of marriage? How do I work through it and overcome feeling l deserve better?
2007-11-26
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Ramona
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