2007-11-26 11:03:13 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
well ask yourself this..
do you want to stay in all the time while your friends are hanging out being 15?
maybe one day you will want to go out and bring your baby but oops cant its going to be to cold that day..or maybe you will be dying to do that one thing you been wanting to and nope not this time no babysitter..and maybe all your friends will go without you..or you will be so tired because you haven't slept a full night in days because you were up all night with a teething baby or a baby with a fever or ear ache
your going to have to get a job how would you support this baby? that means you have to hire a babysitter and pay them as well..and then comes Christmas and birthdays all cost money its hard job enjoy being 15 don't rush your life
2007-11-26 12:53:38 · answer #1 · answered by bellababi44 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is actually not uncommon for young people to really want a baby. I know I spent a lot of time imagining the day when I could become a mom. However, the idea of having a baby is vastly different than what it is really like to have one. It is not the right thing to have a baby at 15 on purpose. You have no way to support a baby. I am now 49 years old and my kids are 28, 26, 23, and 10. I can assure you that once you become a mom, you will always be a mom no matter how old your kids get to be. Your life is intricately connected to your children especially when your children are babies. It seems as though it is fun and would be wonderful to have another human being in your life who loves you unconditionally. But, babies are pretty selfish. They don't care if you need some sleep or you are sick or your friends are going out. A baby needs you 24/7 for all of it's needs. When it's 3 AM and your baby is up for the 10th time in the night, it's not all that wonderful. At 15, your life is just beginning. Spend some time getting your education so you can get a good job so you can support yourself and a baby when the time is right. It is easy to resent a child when you have not had an opportunity to find out what you want from life. At first you'll think it's great because everyone makes a big fuss over a baby and it makes you feel pretty special, but once the admiring crowd is gone, you will be changing diapers, giving 2 AM feedings, tending to sickness, and dealing with a lifetime of worry. Babies are great and wonderful gifts but having one is a lifetime commitment and you have to be willing to change or compromise on your own desires. Deciding to have a baby should not be made with the thinking of what can this baby do for me, but you need to focus on what you will be able to do for this baby.
2007-11-26 11:21:52 · answer #2 · answered by sevenofus 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Why do you feel the need to have a baby? Do you feel as though something is missing in your life? Having a baby is a huge responsibility. Once you have a baby, it's all them. Their needs come first before yours. Talk to a trusted adult or counselor and tell them how you feel. Is it because you are lonely?? It is not a doll that you can put down whenever you are tired of playing with it. You are so young and have so many experiences waiting for you, things that you would not be able to do if you had a baby.
Think about how you would support this baby? What about school and college? Please talk to someone to help you find out why you think this way. It is not a good idea. Good luck hun.
2007-11-26 11:11:58 · answer #3 · answered by Piluli 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Having a baby is a huge decision. You should really wait until you are old enough to fully understand how much work it really is to have a baby. At 15 you are still growing up and figuring out who you are so how can you be capable of bringing a child into this world. Finish school, get a job, then decide if you are ready for a baby. Whatever you decide good luck to you.
2007-11-26 11:31:59 · answer #4 · answered by Gail 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honestly live out your childhood.I had my first baby at 15 and it was not easy.I had to give up friends.Like a dumbass i dropped out of school to raise and support my baby.And i thought her father would stick around but that was just a dream.Forget about going out with friends all the time,sleepovers and just having time to yourself.And think about staying up all night with a crying sick baby that wont stop or go to sleep.It's hard enough being 15 dont add having a baby to it.Im 19 now and just had my second baby and its still hard.Wait until you are in a stable relationship for years before having a child.20 + in age range at least,and be able to support yourself and a child without any help.
2007-11-26 11:14:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't already pregnant, then I would tell you to at least wait till you are 18. If you are 15 you are unable to seek many forms of employment and are likely still living with your parents. You may think you want a baby, but it's way harder than you think it's going to be.
However, if you are already pregnant then this requires a little more thought. If you want to make it work, then more power to you. It won't be easy but it is a very admirable decision. Remember adoption's always an option if you don't think you can provide for a child.
Either way, good luck!
2007-11-26 11:09:47 · answer #6 · answered by justpeachee22 5 · 6⤊ 0⤋
For some women, such as you and I both, maternal instincts start early. I remember wanting a baby when I was young, but I realized that there was no way I would be able to care for a baby that young.
My suggestion is to find a family with a small child that needs a babysitter. Start there. That's what I did. Now I'm 22 years old, married, and trying for my first child.
2007-11-26 11:17:00 · answer #7 · answered by TwinMommy 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It's natural to be excited to be a mom, but doing so right now wouldn't be fair to yourself or the baby. You should take the time you have now to have fun and be a kid. There is plenty of time to have a baby when you're older. Plus then it will be more fun because you won't have to worry about money and how to support yourself and your child. If you really love babies, then maybe you could work at a day care or as a babysitter. Good luck with everything!
2007-11-26 11:08:33 · answer #8 · answered by CharChar 5 · 8⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not the right thing to do.
Are you financially able to have a baby? Emotionally? Living in a loving, mother/father health environment for the baby? Experienced life past your 21st birthday? If no for any of these then the answer is definitely NO. You are NOT ready.
2007-11-26 19:27:00 · answer #9 · answered by LC 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. I was pregnant when I was 19 and had my son when I was 20. He was a month early and in the NICU for two weeks! It was very difficult to be that young - emotionally, socially and financially - my husband and I have struggled and while we wouldn't trade our boy for anything, there are many times we have discussed how different life would be if we had waited. Enjoy your youth! A baby is not the answer to any problem. You have your entire life in front of you.
2007-11-26 12:45:24 · answer #10 · answered by blackdagger♥381 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋