am hurting inside, I feel as if I don’t like my husband at all these are the reasons why…
There is no friendship between us. He won’t hold a conversation with me unless itinvolves his job and his money
He is too serious. He is expressionless and rude. He seems to be acting all the time. Like an actor. He tries to baby talk me and five minutes later be rude.
The last few days have been hard; he hasn’t made love to me in 2 weeks and 2 days. Ever since he has been doing my college algebra. He says he is stressed out. He is doing this for me because he said that he wants me to get it over with. I will have to take it a few times. Math hasn’t been my greatest subject. Even though he is taking the math he is mean to me.
We live alone, I like to talk you no get to know each other on a daily basis, and He won’t talk to me about any thing, Sports, or anything. If I try to just have a conversation with him he yans and rolls his eyes and just stares at me. Often he will smirk at me in a making fun of me manner.
Often in the car I have to have conversations with my friends because he won’t talk to me. I have to find things to amuse myself with.
He laughs at me not with me. Makes fun of me, in a relationship we are supposed to laugh together.
Not at someone.
When we go out dancing, he won’t twirl me around or do anything with me. He just rocks a little. At looks at me no dipping no laughing no having a blast anything
There is no laughter in the marriage, he wont kid he is very uptight, he doesn’t expressing self to me at all. He wont sing, dance in front of me
Very closed in, quiet wont let me know him and then he blames me for it and tells me I don’t know him and if I did I would trust him. I would trust him if he let me in he keeps me locked out. We are together but I feel so far apart. I am not close to him but he is close to me he says... maybe because I let him in and he keeps me out. (I don’t know him because he keeps me out.
When we make love, he has sex with me in the same position all the time. He doesn’t really connect with me and doesn’t exactly really want to.
I am the giver and lover he isn’t. He is the taker.
If I want to talk about my friends or family or anything really he just won’t talk.
If I want to talk to him about problems he refuses to listen an d if he does listen he will just tell me its all in my head and that hear we go again,
He is rude in our house. If I am not ready for bed and he is, he turns off the lights while I am walking around the house. He turns off the TV when I am watching it, if we fight about it he says you said you were going up stairs to sleep. He manipulates me, I said to him. I said I was going up to bed but I was still watching the TV. He always turns the lights off on me when I am walking around the house. I have to walk in the dark.
When I am sick, he won’t take care of me, when he is sick I take care of him. Get is median and things,
He wont use sex toys on me or even make love to my body he rushes threw sex and its over in 10 to 15 minutes if that.
He accuses me of his STD that he caught he tells me I gave it to him and it makes me cry. He gave it to me and didn’t tell me he had it until 2 years later.
He sides with people that are being mean to me; he won’t step up as a man and defend what he is supposed to love.
He expects me to shower him with good sex and attention even though he doesn’t give it to me,
He is horrible in bed; he won’t participate in any sexual games or fantasy things with me so I am always bored. He tells me I lay there and he needs something more but I am the one who comes up with all this cool stuff to do and he refuses to do it.
No matter what I say and do I am wrong about it. If he is wrong he won’t admit to it,
WE cant do anything that’s free like lay in the grass and he together cause he wont talk to me and if he does its about business so every thing we do has to be about money
He agrees with every thing that I say.
I don’t trust him; he just acts like he just doesn’t give a ****,
Takes care of me financially but not emotionally. Gives the wrong things.
We don’t have the same friends. He wont bring his friends around me keeps them far far away. He doesn’t hang with any friends, and he is strange. I feel lonely a lot. Don’t know what to do .what will happen if I let him go. I want things to be different he wont listen to me and change. I tell him we need to have friends hang out with them do things he wont bring his friends around me and he keeps me far away from everyone.
He doesn’t like it if his friends and family pay attention to me he wants all the attention h e is afraid they are going to like me better or something. He thinks that they are going to like me and turn on him it’s like a fight.
He tries to shub me in a sardine can and lower myself esteem by doing all of these things.
If were on a small vacation like going to see family he wont stop so I can smell the flowers and take pictures and things.
He just wants sex when he wants it and that’s it , he will make sure its not worth having with him he makes sure we never have fun together
But yet, he will do some of my math and help me with school. Pay all my bills take care of me and give me money
2007-11-09
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