Hi,
I am new to this community and am seeking sound feedback. I have been attempting to resolve some family conflict for a long time but always seem to come up short.
I have been faced with a difficult family situation for many years. My father who is a wonderful and accomplished man remarried after my mother died in an automobile accident. My stepmother tends to be a controlling and strong willed person. She has some wonderful qualities but when it comes to me, sometimes I truly wonder whether she wants my happiness.
I was adopted by her when my parents got married. She was given a dominant role in my upbringing. But the games that are palyed, have over the years taken their toll. If I succeed, its because of her, if I fail its because of me (I did not obey her every command). Big occasions in my life always become all about her and really, anti-climactic moments.
Despite turbulence and discord, I have managed to become a medical doctor in a foreign country. I have just returned to the US to sit my licensing exams here. More discord seems immenent despite my efforts. I know many people have these sorts of problems so it seems that I should not feel alone with this sort of thing. There are many convoluted aspect to this relationship that I won't go into, but what I have provided here are the surface details.
Finally, I will say that I adore my dad, but he does have his flaws. He has made it clear that a relationship with me is what he wants. However, I see that it will always be dictated to some extent it seems by my step mother.
I continue on my journey towards becoming a doctor here in my home country with hope and optimism despite setbacks. I truly want to help those in distress and need but find it difficult being my best at this when I cannot seem to over come my own difficulies.
Any and all feedback welcomed. Best wishes.
2007-10-04
04:55:36
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brave.heart
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