I am trying to help my older brother who is going through a terrible time. He has been married for 40 years, (has grown children and grandchildren) basically in a very unhappy marriage. However, his wife is the type that would never leave him and my brother is the type who will put up with anything in order to keep the peace. She is very manipulative and vindictive and it will be horrible when and if this divorce comes about. But, my brother has met somebody, and they love each other and have so much in common and so much enjoyment together. He is afraid to take the first step and tell his wife so he has been talking to me. What should he do first, talk to his kids, try a separation, talking to his wife first would be out of the question as she will just go ballistic. His main concern, I believe, is the fact that he feels he will be letting everybody down (his family, friends, etc) and that his wife, at first, will be unhappy. Any ideas on how this could be made less painful?
2007-06-05
09:43:41
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Marriage & Divorce