It is at the end of my relationship, and while I can realize the relationship is pretty much over, I need concrete answers as to the why it is over. (as a side here, It both is and is not a standard relationship in question, but it was meant to be a relationship in all aspects).
The other person throws out pretty generic answers:
“Because I just don’t feel it anymore,” (responses of that nature)
My response is “Why, what changed?” “Give me a list,” (I need the real meanings, hurtful or not).
“What did I do wrong?”
“You did nothing wrong.”
“If I didn’t do anything wrong, then what’s the issue?”
I don’t think he actually hears me when I say I am a failure.
He claims I am making it too logical and analytical.
I say that if (hypothetically that is) we were in counseling or talking to a third party, the same sort of in depth questions would be posed, he seemingly disagrees with that.
He feels that he doesn’t need to validate any of his responses, I disagree.
He thinks that by saying he is really sorry, and he didn’t mean to hurt me, et al, that somehow I should just readily accept it. I don’t.
So now I come to y’all…and let me say this: While sympathy is nice and much appreciated, I do also need the “brute” honesty of your answers.
Am I in the wrong for needing more explanation? Should I just accept his basic answers, or should I keep probing?
Is he wrong to get flustered when I do probe for more, or since he is the one who wants to end, should he buck up and lay it all out?
2007-02-08
20:57:31
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Just Cub
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