My finance and I are having problems with regards to sex. He is never in the mood for it when I am and he attributes much of it to his youth; apparently he used sex in the past as a means to feel "needed". He is from an adopted home where he says that he never felt love and never received hugs. Now that we are together, sex seems more of a task for him. He knows that I love him and cherish him, but as he has pretty much stated, sex is not all that important to him. He loves to hug and cuddle, but now that he knows that he's with someone who loves him, he doesn't feel a need for sex. I on the other hand feel and know the importance of the intimate bond and closeness that sex brings. I have brought it to his attention that he as probably developed a warp sense of what sex really means since he never place much importance on it since he has used it in the past to complete a feeling of being needed.
I think would could both benefit from sex counseling at least. Any other suggestions?
2006-07-30
07:12:00
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Kip T
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Marriage & Divorce