Me and my boyfriend had been together ten months. We ended up getting into a huge fight that resulted in me hitting him in his arm. For whatever reason it becomes VERY difficult for me to control myself when I'm angry. I feel violent. Well we broke up because it scares him (understandable) but I've completely learned my lesson now. I'm not sure he believes me. He told me to call him in a week and to give him space...but will that even work? How do I get him to believe that I definately know what I have lost and I don't want to let it go.? Should I just move on or do you think he really wants to work things out if I stopped hitting when we argued?
2006-07-30 07:12:45 · 6 answers · asked by noriahchapman 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
send him a boxing glove filled with flowers and the card say i am sorry, it will never happen again and i give you my gloves...just a thought
2006-07-30 07:22:40 · answer #1 · answered by hotmaxus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's weird how the sexes work. If it was a guy hitting a girl everyone would be screaming CALL THE POLICE and DUMP THAT LOOSER!!! and yet the women are the ones calling for equality between the sexes. Go figure???
So in that sense you're lucky that he's to even willing speak to you. But he obviously knows you didn't mean it (why else would he want to meet up with you). The ball is in his court in terms of what he wants to do about the relationship and you have no choice but to accept t. I don't believe you should move on unless he wants to move on. But here's what I recommend you should do if you decide to stay together.
What you have to do is nip the problem in the bud. Go back to the argument and if you believe you're right say so. You shouldn't have to cave in when he says something, but at the same time you shouldn't hit him either. You have to be a mature adult and find other ways of expressing yourself and talk your differences through. You shouldn't even have to raise your voice. Just take it in turns and explain how you feel and why. Let him do the same and whatever the decision just feel comfortable in knowing you've done the best you can to be fair to him. Let him make is own mistakes and be there to catch him when he falls. He will love you that much more for it.
Hope this helps.
Take care.
2006-07-30 07:47:59 · answer #2 · answered by Ben R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i asked my son about this and he said that if the guy really likes you and you tell him that you really care for him and that you are very sorry and that you will control your temper..then the guys should give you another chance.. but he admits no guy wants to be around a woman that does hit on him or gets mad and bitches all the time,,,so you have to try and convince this guy you are serious about this...keep your cool and hope he does give you another chance.. but call him and tell him what my son has said...and if he really cares he will want to try and make it work..him and his wife get into but they love each other and they want to make it work..plus they have children...so give it a try ,,what can it hurt now...
2006-07-30 07:24:02 · answer #3 · answered by sanangel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait awhile, like a week, and then meet him in person, not over the phone. have an apology gift ready and take it from there.
2006-07-30 07:17:11 · answer #4 · answered by _ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow his directions and see what happens
2006-07-30 07:16:29 · answer #5 · answered by ccameronbeaty78 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should call him
TALK IS SOLUTION OF EVERY THING
2006-07-30 07:24:50 · answer #6 · answered by Helper 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋