Social Science - 22 December 2007

When I first started my job a few months ago I was treated OK. Then abt 2 weeks into it, I was treated worse and worse, almost to the point where I had to leave. I was green & not with the program when I first started. I was anxious about my performance & of learning the ropes quickly. What made it worse were my supervisor/coworkers above me in rank. I don't know if it was because they were testing me or because they passed negative judgment about me too quickly b/c of the weaknesses I've shown, but I was berated, made fun of, talked down to & not treated in a respectful manner. My boss did nothing. Her boss did nothing. I wasn't given much help nor tasks to do either; it's like they didn't trust me. I initiated tasks that made me keep my job up until now, I guess

I didn't stand up for myself b/c it was a worried abt doing so to my superiors & at work, esp. not knowing how things worked there. I feel like I'm now thought of as dumb doormat who can't tackle problems. Can this be fixed?

2007-12-22 03:37:55 · 4 answers · asked by advice 1 in Psychology

Where is the place I should take her? And how do you call this exam of the brain?

2007-12-22 03:35:54 · 9 answers · asked by ILSE 5 in Psychology

there's so much i'd like to know, of course you read the books for that but i have just a few basic questions about things, like whether you need a degree to get a job in a particular field or what the career options are. do you think it's ok to email someone you find online and ask them. i think people who truly appreciate knowledge won't mind and here i mean the best of the best but i've also encountered some not-so-nice individuals. what are your thoughts, thanx

2007-12-22 03:19:43 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Psychology

The guitar center employee pissed me off?
yeah i've went in there the past few weeks to try the guitars,and i don't turn up loud,but why waould he freaking stare at me?I called to voice a comp-laint and they said that you can try the guitars for as long as you want(another guy also said that when i was in there before i called to get mad).I'm a good player(have good chops)so it's not like i sucked,but i'm wondering what his problem is?

2007-12-22 03:19:30 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Psychology

I was mentally abused for a period of time by a close friend. I cut him off after he sexually assaulted me.

People do not understand how I feel and my response. I am confused and unsettled.

1.when he insulted me in public, I only smiled and ignored. I am not sure how hurt I feel.

2.I did not leave right after the assault. Instead, after he comforted me, I hugged him really tight for some time and kept on saying that I was scared and questioned him for his intention. why?

3. I was crying throughtout the assault. he did not stop. he argued that crying was not enough of an objection as he induced me to say OK before the sexual activitiy. (i think it is still unlawfully,right?)

4.people do not understand that my self esteem has been chipped and do not hv the mental power to fight back , especially when he is a psychologist. Am i thinking too much?

anyway,thx

2007-12-22 02:53:53 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Psychology

Alright, what your point of view on this...


Do you think Erasing certain memories in peoples brains will help them? Say for example they have been hurt when younger, or they have been in a abusive relationship. Erasing the memories can eliminate the experience one has gained... but also allow them to trust and love someone else without feeling fear..

Or bad relationships some people seemed to get over attached, they could spend years talking about how tey love this person they haven't seen for a year...

What do you think is better to have the experience in mind? Or is better to erase them and have the chance to have a better experience?

2007-12-22 02:37:13 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Psychology

I work with a very lax boss, who is not organized or structured -- or at least does not extend herself to be so to others

I need structure and organization to work most efficiently. I otherwise have to work in a state of confusion, which leads me to not be productive or efficient. This increases my anxiety level, especially when thinking I may lose my job

I don't want to be a sucker and work late all the time or on weekends, but it's hard for me to concentrate at work. I think best after a good night's rest, and when I'm not commuting in a half-dead mode

This leads me to work on weekends and respond to emails or send emails over the weekend. I'm afraid to be seen as a doormat. I was one at my last job, and they got rid of me. I want to show my value and worth, and make up for times I've shown my anxieties and other weaknesses at work because of the environment

Aside from looking for other employment, how is it best to work to do your job well, but to not be perceived a doormat?

2007-12-22 02:34:39 · 8 answers · asked by advice 1 in Psychology

The story of discoveries in Africa

2007-12-22 02:32:53 · 7 answers · asked by mapambano m 1 in Anthropology

"Jerk the Golden Fleece Retirement Plan from under the Senators and Congressmen. Put them into the Social Security plan with the rest of us."

WE CAN MAKE THIS HAPPEN IN 2008

2007-12-22 02:20:47 · 3 answers · asked by picmybrain 3 in Sociology

2007-12-22 02:18:20 · 12 answers · asked by Dave H 1 in Psychology

2007-12-22 02:05:27 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Psychology

I'm in a long-distance relationship. Sometimes things are hard because we're both afraid to talk about how we feel sometimes. Anyway, we were talking last night and I guess I made him feel bad because I said I felt like leaving because he just wasn't talking. Then he signed off upset, I guess.

Afterwards, I had a dream that he confessed on a website about having sex with this older woman and then she posted naked pictures of herself. After that I never talked to him again, and that was the end of my dream.

So can anyone tell me what any of this means?

2007-12-22 02:01:44 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Dream Interpretation

Everybody hates me in the real world but on the internet,everybody is so kind and I often find myself talking to starngers so I don't feel depressed,and to eascape the real world.Is this normal?What can I do about it?

2007-12-22 01:54:37 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Psychology

2007-12-22 01:48:28 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Psychology

I have good ideas about how to work at my job and improve things, but I don't know if I should be the idea person as it may be threatening to my boss.

I always work to help, rather than be a one-upper, but I also need to be sensitive to others as well.

My boss doesn't seem to not like my ideas/suggestions, but if my gut tells me I should watch how to move, I try to listen (haven't done it in the past).

I don't know if this will affect my chances in my getting raises or bonuses. My boss's boss doesn't like me and I'm not sure who decides what. I don't work directly under my boss's boss (obviously), so unless she's told of my efforts, she won't know them.

I don't want to take more on and look like a doormat, and think it's good to come up with solutions and have initiative.

Please help me in what's best to do in the workforce.

2007-12-22 01:27:02 · 4 answers · asked by advice 1 in Psychology

negotiation skills and because he asks more often for a raise and not because he has more experience or a higher education he shouldnt get payed more ?

2007-12-22 01:19:56 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Gender Studies

2007-12-22 01:19:12 · 5 answers · asked by Chelsea 2 in Psychology

more envious and jealous by nature?

more cunning?

2007-12-22 01:08:51 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Gender Studies

2007-12-22 01:02:13 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Gender Studies

I know this is a common problem as with psychiatric medications that exist now many are still ill, but some are only able to function in a limited capacity in society - despite outwardly appearing normal despite severe mental illnesses. Do you have a mental illness - severe enough to be on medication - and family members especially or even friends don't understand?

2007-12-22 00:54:23 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Psychology

words ending with 'ity' were good but words ending with 'ism' were generally bad. Is optimism bad?

2007-12-22 00:24:32 · 1 answers · asked by cymry3jones 7 in Other - Social Science