My 18 year old diabetic cat had to be put to sleep a week ago and I'm not telling anyone BECAUSE in the last month of his decline my friends and family have tried to help and cheer me up with...
*It's his time*He had a good life*He'll go to a better place*It's not your fault*Lots of talk of animal heaven and the rainbow bridge..
My human friend is also dying of liver cancer and I'm dreading the peptalks to come. Having never yet(knock on wood) dealt with the death of a close friend, family member, long-term pet(until a week ago) I'm curious..2 questions.
1. What is the worst thing, even trying to be helpful, that someone can say to a greiving person?
2. Not that's it's ever easy, but is death easier to accept after a long illness, because their suffering is over and you had a chance to begin to expect and accept it but you are left with the memory of their pain? Or is a quick and sudden death easier for the people left behind, because their memories are mostly happy?
2006-09-14
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