What is the behavior of a cheating spouse?

Answer 1

* At the beginning of an affair the mate that is cheating is more attentive to his spouse. This is due to guilt that the cheater may be feeling at the time.

* After the affair has been going on for a while the person cheating seems to find fault with the person he/she may be living with to try to justify the affair in their mind.

* Cheating spouses may lose attention in the activities in the home. They don't show interest in the livelihood of you or the children that live in the home. Nor do they have any desires to do any fix-ups to the home (i.e. lawn care, house repairs, etc.....)

* Intuition (gut feeling) that something is not right usually is a sign you may have a cheating problem "when in doubt check them out".

* Cheaters may have a change in sex life (i.e. more sex, less sex) as well as unexplained sexual requests.

* The cheater has a definite change in attitude towards everyone in the home, especially the mate (i.e. if he/she didn't act the way they do, well then maybe I wouldn't be doing the things I do).

* Another sign is "Finances". "If someone wants to play they have to pay" therefore keeping an eye on their monies (i.e. check stubs, bank account balances, credit card bills, etc...) would tell you whether their spending more money than usual.

* Grooming habits will change. Cheaters will be more attentive to their person (e.i. the way they dress, frequent bathing, physical fitness, grooming of their hair, switching of colognes, etc...).

* Physical signs to look for to determine whether or not someone is having an affair is lipstick on the collar, odors of cologne/perfume on a shirt/blouse, checking underwear for secretion stains. You can also check their wallets and/or the glove compartments of their car to see if they left receipts, pieces of paper with phone numbers, addresses, condoms, etc.

* You may want to monitor your spouse for two weeks. During this time keep track of the mileage on their car. Monitor the time they leave for work and the time they come home. Keep a calendar and note the times, this should help you establish a pattern. If your mate claims to be working late, check paycheck stubs to verify this overtime.

* Be tuned in to home telephone calls when your mate has a tendency to whisper or gives a quick answer and immediately hangs up or when you answer the telephone and get an abrupt hang up.

* Many cheaters use cellular telephones to communicate with their lovers. Should your mate have a cellular telephone you may want to get a detailed billing of the calls made from the cellular phone to determine whether a certain number has been frequently called. A good area to start looking is for the first number called when your mate first leaves for work and the same number called again right before they return home.

* Female cheaters are more discreet in the selection of a lover . This is most likely because of their concern of Sexually Transmitted Disease's (STD's). Most females are looking for a longer lasting relationship rather than a "one night stand". In past years men were the aggressors, in society today, with the increase of women in the work force, women have become equally aggressive.

* When a female is having an affair she tends to have more of a "glow" about her.

Answer 2

Coming home & showering immediately. Buying new underwear,
buying new socks, clothes shopping if it's not something they do often. Wearing cologne or perfume on a more frequent basis.
Looking in the mirror more often than usual probably in disbelief that anyone else in the world would find them attractive. Secret phone calls. Excessive late night meetings. Working weekends,
Working through the dinner hour only to come home shower then go to sleep. Hiding money. Smelling like someone else's perfume or cologne. Hiding their cell phone & the cell phone bills.
Avoiding quiet time alone with their spouse.

Answer 3

Some of these signs of cheating are "tongue in cheek" while others are tell-tale signs that commonly appear with a cheating husband or cheating wife.

1) You find birth-control pills in her medicine cabinet, and you've had a
vasectomy.

2) Mutual friends start acting strangely toward you. (They either know
about the cheating or have been told stories about what a horrible wife
or girlfriend you are.)

3) Your cheating husband or wife stops confiding in you and seeking advice from you.

4) Sets up a new e-mail account and doesn't tell you about it.

5) He leaves the house in the morning smelling like Irish Spring and
returns in the evening smelling like Safeguard.

6) She joins the gym and begins a rigorous workout program.

7) She buys a cell phone and doesn't let you know.

8) He sets up a separate cell phone account that is billed to his office.

9) The cheating husband carries condoms, and you are on the pill.

10) Begins to delete all incoming phone calls from the caller ID.

11) Deletes all incoming e-mails when they used to accumulate.

12) He becomes "accusatory," asking if you are being true to him, usually out of guilt.

13) Raises hypothetical questions such as, "Do you think it's possible
to love more than one person at a time?"

14) He buys himself new underwear.

15) He insists the child seat, toys, etc., are kept out of his car.

16) The cheating wife stops wearing her wedding ring.

17) Has a sudden desire to be helpful with the laundry.

18) Has unexplained scratches or bruises on his or her neck or back.

19) Suddenly wants to try new love techniques.

20) He/she fairly suddenly stops having sex with you.

21) He/she suddenly wants more sex, more often.

22) Supposedly works a lot of overtime, but it never shows up on the
pay stub.

23) Picks fights in order to stomp out of the house.

24) You find out by accident he or she took vacation day or personal
time off from work - but supposedly worked on those days.

25) Shows a sudden interest in a different type of music.

26) Spouse's co-workers are uncomfortable in your presence.

27) Has a sudden preoccupation with his or her appearance.

28) Spends an excessive amount of time on the computer, especially
after you have gone to bed.

29) He throws up a lot because he just ate at his mistress's house and
had to eat the dinner you prepared when he got home.

30) Your spouse is away from home, either nights or on trips, more
than previously.

31) His/her clothes smell of an unfamiliar perfume or after-shave. You
see lipstick on your husband's shirt.

32) The amount of money being deposited into your checking account
drops off.

33) You find items of intimate apparel or other small gift-type items that you did not give your spouse.

34) Your spouse seems less comfortable around you and is "touchy"
and easily moved to anger.

35) You get calls where the caller hangs up when he or she hears your
voice.

36) He/she loses attention in the activities in the home.

37) Your intuition (gut feeling) tells you that something is not right.

38) He/she has a definite change in attitude towards everyone in the
home.

39) She uses a low voice or whisper on the phone or hangs up quickly.

40) She has a "glow" about her.

41) Atypical erratic behavior.

42) He sneaks out of the house.

43) She sleeps with her purse by the bed

44) She goes to the store for groceries and comes home 5 hours later.

45) He tells you can get hold of him at a different telephone number.

46) The telltale signs of a cheating spouse? Having to ask that question
in the first place.

Answer 4

a million) He/She exhibits a unexpected interest in a distinctive style of track. 2) better half's co-workers are uncomfortable on your presence. 3) He/She has a unexpected preoccupation together with his or her visual charm. 4) Spends too much time on the pc once you're asleep. 5) the quantity of funds being deposited into your checking account drops off. 6) you hit upon products of intimate garb which you probably did no longer provide your better half. 7) Your better half looks much less delicate around you and is "delicate" 8) You get calls the place the caller hangs up whilst he or she hears your voice. 9) He/she has a different exchange in strategies-set in direction of anybody interior the abode. 10) He/She makes use of a low voice or whisper on the telephone or hangs up straight away. 11) starts to delete all incoming telephone calls from the caller id. 12) Deletes all incoming e-mails whilst they used to acquire. 13) alternatives fights as a manner to stomp out of the abode.

Answer 5

Well, when my EX-husband cheated on me I was suspicious because his once a month- out of town meeting -eventually turned into every weekend not to mention during that time he was distant, didn't want to make love, opened his own bank account, and what really got me the most the entire time he kept accusing ME of cheating. OH WELL ALLS WELL THAT ENDS WELL. He's someone else's problem now.

Answer 6

Being secretive, leaving the house for a gallon of milk and taking an hour, hiding a telephone, not wanting sex, going out with the boys/girls because we all of a sudden need this free time. Some obvious things.

Answer 7

They aren't as romantic anymore. Some of the things they say or do come off as being robotic in nature like so much old habit. Doesnt seem to be as interested in sex anymore, or when you do have sex it isnt as good as it used to be. Listen for very vague answers to questions that should have specific answers. Perhaps they are keeping odd hours as compared to what they used to be. Are they running more "errands" then they used to? I could go on, but you get the idea.

Answer 8

Most of them will acuse you of fooling around.. then there are those that will ignore you when they are home.. they don't have anything to talk to you about.. they leave the house late at night with out reason..
don't ask you to go along with them when they have somewhere to go..
there are all kinds of sutle little things that they do that will give away there cheating and lying.

Answer 9

1.) Walking away to answer the phone
2.) Not having their cell phone bill sent to the house
3.) Paying more attention to their personal appearance
4.) Time unaccounted for
5.) Less money because being spent on someone else

I could go on...but the list would be too long

Answer 10

Gone more than usual, accusing you of cheating, the smell of fresh soap (when they have been gone all day), hang-up phone calls , less desire to have sex, condoms in their wallet or phone numbers without a name.Old female buddy suddenly coming around (happened to me) I guess that's all I can think of right now.