Family & Relationships - 13 February 2007

He thinks it is my job alone to take care of the housework. He tells me that none of the kids he knows do as much or are expected to do as much as he is. I just basically want him to make his bed before he goes to school, toss his laundry in the hamper, help load the dishwasher after dinner. I really don't think it's asking a lot. There was a 3 day discussion over my 'Chores' list, not with me, but between my husband and stepson. I don't believe my husband ever had to do anything around the house when he was a kid, so it's all pretty foreign to him too. He does think he should help out more, but he thinks I should be the 'enforcer'. He just doesn't have time for it. Anyway I was just wondering if I'm expecting too much from my stepson, is there some kind of reward system I should try? Does anyone have any ideas? I'm a first time stepmom, I have no kids of my own, and I really don't want to be too hard on him. I don't want him to grow up and look back on his youth with anger.

2007-02-13 03:10:20 · 6 answers · asked by softhearttoo 1 in Family

I'm a college freshman. There is a girl I'm really interested in, but my concern is that we don't know each other very well. In fact, I've talked to her only twice. Valentine's Day is coming up soon, and I am worried if someone will try to "snatch her up" on that day. That would be more painful than rejection. I feel like giving her something on Wednesday, but the time just doesn't seem right. I need to get to know her more, and she should feel more comfortable with me. So I'm in a dilemma. I really don't want to lose her to some other dude because it took me great balls to break the ice, but simultaneously I don't wanna scare her off. Is it okay to give her a small V Day card? If yes, is it okay to write something like "you seem like a great person, and I would love to get to know you better. Happy V Day?" Or do you suggest I write something else? I need y'all's suggestions because I can't make a decision right now. I wanna make her day, but I don't wanna be 2 obvious that i like her.

2007-02-13 03:10:11 · 2 answers · asked by What Wtasdcvg 1 in Singles & Dating

I have a boyfriend who graduated already and I'm not there yet. He blew off school and so I'm left trying to go where my heart desires.... New York. I've always had the desire to go to somewhere far away from louisiana.. He is not even doing anything with his life... he works at the dollar store..... What should I do?

2007-02-13 03:09:05 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Guys what is really going on????
This is a crazy story and I guess I just want the opinions of others....So there’s this guy (we will call him B) (I know same song and dance) Well I'll sum up the story. I got in a fight with the guy( we will call him A) (guy A and I stopped seeing each other because he would get fired if we did) I was seeing and well one of his friends (B) stayed with me to talk things out. I guess he(B) liked me, that’s what he said. We hung out and talked on the phone. We were supposed to do something like two weeks later he couldn't meet up. Well we got in a crazy little fight do to his friend (GUY A)...I told him (B) I think we shouldn't talk anymore. Well 2 weeks later he (B) text me "I saw your look a like tonight" Well we ended up hanging out the next day. I went on vacation and we haven't really met up since then. It's been three weeks. We text, but I think he (B) is playing the game with me. I'm not sure if he is blowing me off or not. Opinions please.....

2007-02-13 03:08:39 · 14 answers · asked by lovinglife!! 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-02-13 03:08:18 · 19 answers · asked by Alina 2 in Singles & Dating

A friend of mine thinks he's a real ladies man, but his teeth are rotten, black, and missing.

2007-02-13 03:08:14 · 17 answers · asked by ♪♪♫ DINO ♪♫♪ 4 in Singles & Dating

so theres this gilr that i LIKE so much but i dont know how to ask her out PLEASE HELP ME

2007-02-13 03:07:41 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i know that sounds ridiculous, but it's true.
she's not even sick or anything but i always wonder what would happen to me if she died, how i'd never get over it, and how much i love her, and all that.
i hate it when i fight with her and i try to help her out around the house and i try to get a good grade to keep her happy, but sometimes i just get tired of all of it. like sometimes, i just want to go out and have fun and not feel guilty (like i always do).
i hate leaving my mom alone at my house and since my brother left for college already, i usually stay home with her, not because she's lonely or anything but i figure she'd like the company.

and.... i don't know, it's just... i feel guilty if i get the slightest bad grade, or do something even remotely bad, and sometimes i feel as if that ties me up...

2007-02-13 03:07:38 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

I feel like my husband's father looks at my chest just a little too much. And he tells me I look sexy and I don't like it. I can't tell my husband cuz he'll probably think I'm being paranoid but it's true! Has this happened to anyone else?

2007-02-13 03:07:09 · 7 answers · asked by Smiles 4 in Family

tell me ,is it with ur friends or parents...?

2007-02-13 03:06:53 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

2007-02-13 03:06:40 · 11 answers · asked by IKB 3 in Singles & Dating

We are just getting to the point of real seriousness. I do not know what to get him. He isn't into sports, clothes or any typical things. I want to get him something that means more than the typical gift, ie chocolate, teddy bears ect. Help please!

2007-02-13 03:06:35 · 12 answers · asked by GeckoLynn 1 in Singles & Dating

im dating a guy, he is very nice to me and takes care of me in many ways, like hold the door for me.. do the grocery with me..

but last week i had to finish marking for my lab(i'm a Teaching Assistant), and it's so much that i can't do it before deadline. he and me were in the library..and he was doing his job..and i asked if he could help me marking(cos it's just mechanically checking multiple choices), he said: oh..i see, that's why you ask me here.. though he said it was just a joke..and he answered that when he finished his job, he could help me..

but until we left, he was doing his own stuff and never really helped me. but he said he wished he would help me when i told him that i have exams and a lot of things...

so i feel like he is just saying that and when it comes to the real things, he doesnt really offer help.. i dont know if it's my problem..that everyone should take care of their own business and dont give your partner any burden..or couple should help and suppo

2007-02-13 03:06:12 · 2 answers · asked by milk 1 in Singles & Dating

I just met a girl and apparently she really likes me, we've only met once and we hardly talked. My friends are preasuring me to buy her a valentines card for tommorrow but im not sure if i like her enough for that. She seems really nice but as i hardly no her i cant make any judgements, and so if i did buy a card and then when i got to know her i decided i wasn't that interested, the card would of sent the message that i am and she might take it the wrong way PLEASE HELP!

2007-02-13 03:06:10 · 9 answers · asked by lee p 1 in Singles & Dating

I know that u guys have somethnig to write. Holla back at Tyra.

2007-02-13 03:05:38 · 22 answers · asked by tyra 1 in Singles & Dating

i've planned a little surprise.......me in just a bow, with candles in the room and some champs with strawberries..... after we've ben out for a few drink tomorrow night....

you think i'll like it.....or is it too much

2007-02-13 03:04:57 · 15 answers · asked by stressed 3 in Singles & Dating

Does interracial relationships bug you like they do me?
I recently went to Haulover beach which is a clothing optional beach in Miami, Florida. I was walking the shore and saw this 6ft 4 black guy with this short pretty slim blonde. This guy was extremely hung. He was naked and she was in her bikini. Are beautiful white women attracted to black men cause of theie penises. It made me sick that they were holding hands and he was kissing her on the lips. It didnt look natural at all. Why do white women go to black men? I know why black men go to white women and thats cause they are hot as fire!!!!

2007-02-13 03:04:26 · 2 answers · asked by huerster101 1 in Singles & Dating

I have this friend which is a boy, and i like him alot but im in a commited relationship and dont want to leave him for him, nor do i want to hurt him in any kinda way. if u were in that situation what would u do?

2007-02-13 03:04:10 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

2007-02-13 03:03:46 · 3 answers · asked by shay06 1 in Singles & Dating

I love this gurl and she is in a realtionship with my friend, but the boy is not treating her right, and besides he is in another country. I keep telling her that he not doing right for her. I mean this gurl is like my ying to my yang. I really like this gurl, and she said she like me to, but the whole thing is that she say she loves the guy. I mean i am not thr type to go around and hit on my friends chics, but i cant stand to see this gurl cry. One major way i know that we are right for each other is that one night when i was said, she became sad with me, and we both began to cry. I mean dont get me wrong, i handle mines. But i need you guys help. How do i convince her?

2007-02-13 03:03:01 · 17 answers · asked by ziggy 1 in Singles & Dating

I think its true...........
WOMEN'S ENGLISH
TERM > TRUE MEANING
1. Yes > No
2. No > Yes
3. Maybe > No
4. We need > I want
5. I am sorry > &nb sp; You'll be sorry
6. We need to talk > You're in trouble
7. Sure, go ahead > You better not
8. Do what you want > You will pay for this later
9. I am not upset > Of course I am upset, you moron!
10. You're very attentive tonight > Is sex all you ever think about?

2007-02-13 03:02:59 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

He drive a nice car, two.

2007-02-13 03:02:42 · 16 answers · asked by Nice Real Nice 2 in Singles & Dating

asked you to tickle her would you???

2007-02-13 03:02:16 · 11 answers · asked by JANE 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-02-13 03:02:15 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I work with my family. My boss is generally great person. Very generous but when he is angry, he cannot hold it. There will be strong wordings that make people around him feel inferior or stupid. We love working with him but resenting him at the same time. I confront him many times, and he always apologizes and them do it again. I will change job for sure. But for now, how should I handle my distorting emotion?

2007-02-13 03:02:15 · 3 answers · asked by noclue 1 in Family

My hubby and I are separated and decided to get divorced, And yet today is our 8th Anniversary and it hurts an awful lot! I feel like we should try again but It will be wasted time. He cannot keep a job, always sleep and always pushes all problems away and piles them up on top of more issues. We have 3 kids together.I have to jobs and the last 1 1/2 years we lived together I paid for mostly everything. I know he loves me and I love him too, but I cannot raise an adult. Why does it hurt sooo bad today?! In all we were together since 1996, high school sweethearts. I need help.

2007-02-13 03:02:05 · 18 answers · asked by RR77 2 in Marriage & Divorce

how many people do you think would notice and how long would it take them to realize you're gone?

2007-02-13 03:01:58 · 19 answers · asked by dianabarff 3 in Singles & Dating

My wife of 10 years and I celebrate Valentines Day each year, however, I have always been of the mind that once you get married, you celebarate your anniversary and not Valentine's Day.
Don't get me wrong I love doing things that makes her happy, it just ticks me off when I hear another married women (sisters, friends wives, etc.) saying what they'll do to their husbands if he doesn't get them the right present or do something special or make the day romantic or you fill in the blank.
If you celebrate Valentine's Day, as my wife and I do fine, but I'm not sure that after marriage its an entitlement.
What the correct protocol on this one. By the way, I am not looking for the a man should... answer . I'm looking for the intended purpose of Valentines Day and it 's intended audience (unmarried couple, married couples or both).

2007-02-13 03:01:42 · 12 answers · asked by Sssnake 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

i`m not.
i have 2 brothers
and 2 sisters

my 2 bro's are Matthew and John.
My sister's are Lindsey And Nicole.
Nicole is my identical twin sis.

do you get along w/ your sibs?

2007-02-13 03:01:18 · 21 answers · asked by sara-lynn h 1 in Family

2007-02-13 03:01:10 · 17 answers · asked by clare d 1 in Family