i know that sounds ridiculous, but it's true.
she's not even sick or anything but i always wonder what would happen to me if she died, how i'd never get over it, and how much i love her, and all that.
i hate it when i fight with her and i try to help her out around the house and i try to get a good grade to keep her happy, but sometimes i just get tired of all of it. like sometimes, i just want to go out and have fun and not feel guilty (like i always do).
i hate leaving my mom alone at my house and since my brother left for college already, i usually stay home with her, not because she's lonely or anything but i figure she'd like the company.
and.... i don't know, it's just... i feel guilty if i get the slightest bad grade, or do something even remotely bad, and sometimes i feel as if that ties me up...
2007-02-13 03:07:38 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think everyone would hate it if their mother died and do have thoughts about it. You sound normal to me.
2007-02-13 03:10:29 · answer #1 · answered by Smiles 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can never love too much. My daughter did the same as you.You should not feel guilty at all. You need to get out and put things into perspective.You need to be with your friends and having fun. Your mum would want this. If she knew how you felt she would be the one to feel guilty. She is lucky that you are so caring. Stop feeling bad you are perfectly normal.
2007-02-13 03:16:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no such thing as loving your mother too much. You do need to go out though, and not feel guilty about leaving her home alone. Your mother would probably appreciate some alone time, we all do! It's great that you want to do well in school, it probably adds to your mother's pride in you. You're on the right track, but do start to enjoy a social life!
2007-02-13 03:20:02 · answer #3 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are putting too much responsibility on yourself... That is great you love your mother, but stop feeling guilty about having your own life...it's natural.. unless she is in some way making you feel guilty and needs constant entertaining from you, go out and have some fun, do the BEST, YOU,,,can do in school, and don't worry about your mother, she's a big girl!!!
2007-02-13 03:36:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are fine. But you need to become who you are and you can't do that sitting around keeping Mom company all the time. She will be fine and most of all she wants you to be happy and have friends. If you continue to hang out with her, she will begin to worry about you not having friends and going out like a normal teenager. Give her some space and enjoy your teen years as this is what she probably really wants for you.
2007-02-13 03:12:49 · answer #5 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You sound very empathetic. That's a good quality to have, just make sure others don't take advantage of it. Does your mother know you have these guilty feelings? I can't imagine she would be happy about that, I hope she wants you to be happy too. It just doesn't sound right to me that loving your mother so much should bring on feelings of guilt. It's really sweet that you care so much, but you should be happy too.
2007-02-13 03:17:44 · answer #6 · answered by softhearttoo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost my father when I was 15 and then it was just my mother, brother and me. My mother became my best friend. She was there for everything I did..good and bad. I was very protective with her. I lost her 08/05, and thought my world would fall apart, (I'm 48) but with the love of my husband and daughters I'll be ok. Once you get a family of your own, (I'm assuing you don't yet) I think you'll feel a little different. Maybe not so protective of her. I'm proud of you for loving her so much.
2007-02-13 04:15:21 · answer #7 · answered by K.W. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have an overactive guilt complex!! It sounds like you are a very caring person and that you and your mom have a good relationship. Talk to her!! I am sure she just wants you to be happy. Maybe between the two of you a strategy can be developed. (Who know, maybe she wishes you would do more things so she can have the house to herself!! )
It is very important to take time for yourself!! Good luck!!
2007-02-13 03:12:47 · answer #8 · answered by memahizer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you know what you are causing stress for yourself. We can not worry about something you don't have control over. Let your mom know how much you will miss her and love her, and tell her know matter what happens, you are gonna try and be strong for her if she ever dies. Be strong for yourself while you are alive. You never know who will die first. Age, Health means nothing when it is your time to go. Pray to the lord and give thanks for the days you both can wake up alive.
2007-02-13 03:18:46 · answer #9 · answered by ressie re 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im really close with my mom and i feel the same way in a sense. but ya know my mom encourages me to go out and do things and if i do get a bad grade she understands. im sure ure mom will too. if u and ure mom are close u should go out and do stuff together
2007-02-13 03:13:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r a good kid with some real insight
about your life
until u started asking strangers on line bout what 2 do
sound like u r too mature for your age
live free (not in a stupid way) cause youth fades fast
2007-02-13 03:13:03 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋