Family & Relationships - 18 January 2007

we have been married for 26 yrs and we are childhood sweethearts but at times he shows a side of himself that is such a complete and utter jerk. he can be selfish,( eg. makes his own lunch but doesnt offer anyone else something to eat) irresponsible (doesnt care what the kids get up to when i am out) and critical and cynical (of everyone and everything around him). but then he also has a warm loving gentle side that only i see. sometimes i question why i stay married to such a jerk. but then he comes good for awhile. I like my life with him most of the time but we just dont seem to have the same values and decency as each other.
leaving him is not an option to me, i am still deeply in love with him, but it saddens me greatly that i am married to such a jekyll and hyde. We only have one child left living at home but give him any responsibility or expectations (his word) and he rebels.
i am really sick of being the only adult in this relationship .

2007-01-18 12:43:15 · 14 answers · asked by elly 1 in Marriage & Divorce

i think my BF likes this girl named MARISA and he always flirts with her and she TOTALLY likes him and he know and they flirt all the time they sit by eachother every time they get a chance and he said he does though! :99

2007-01-18 12:42:42 · 3 answers · asked by Applebomb 1 in Singles & Dating

i got my boyfriend about 2 months and at skool he doesnt even pay attention 2 me like when we r alone but if we are with someone than he will act totally different people say he nervous but i dont know what to do cuz i think he is embaressed to be with my me but the only thing is...is that he asked me out and now i have no clue what to do so what should i do?

2007-01-18 12:42:16 · 18 answers · asked by Courtney 2 in Singles & Dating

What Do You Consider A Date? I Hang Out With Guys, But I Never Know If Its A Date, Or If We're Just Hanging Out. Some People Say " If Its Just You Two, Its A Date" Or "If They Pay" But What If They're Just Paying Because They're Nice? I Need Help.

Also What Are Good "Potential Date" Ideas? Im Hanging Out With A Guy Friend Soon But I Dont Know If Its A Date Or Not, And I Need Ideas.

2007-01-18 12:41:43 · 6 answers · asked by *Feel That Fire* 2 in Singles & Dating

i really like the ring and i dont wanna give it back to him
what do i do? how do i keep it without my mom or dad knowing?

2007-01-18 12:41:33 · 11 answers · asked by Carly 1 in Singles & Dating

so i went on this cruise, and met this guy. he was really nice and we hung out a lot, but i never really had an interest in him, until the 4th night. that night we just hung out me and him the entire night laying down and talking. he was really sweet, and i knew that i'd prob start liking him. we were talking about everything, and the topic of me being a virgin came up. i told him i was a virgin, and he didn't believe me. he wasn't a virgin, but he told me i should really wait for someone i like, and then he said "and it's not going to be me." by the end of the night we ended up making out, and he slept over my room, and he even asked me if the next night we were gonna hang out. the next night he was in the casino, so my friend went to go get him from the casino to hang out. sure enough, he wanted to and came within 10 minutes(meanwhile he had been winning a lot of money), and he came to hang out. we went to his room, and we were hooking up and everything led to sex happening naturally, he didn't ask me flat out, and it happened the way i wanted it to, in the moment. when he was putting the condom on however, i asked him what he was doing, and he said "nothing"..i made sure he had a condom on, and he was really gentle, but he didn't talk much. at one point i asked him if he still had the condom on, and he let me feel to make sure it was still on. after we had sex, we went to the casino, and then i left to go to my room to lay down. he said he'd come back to hang out, but i didn't expect him to really. sure enough, he came knocking on my door to spend the night. the next night he had been looking for me, and he thought i was with another guy,so he got upset, and didn't hang out with me for two nights. by the 8th night we met up eventually..and i explained to him that i wasn't with another guy, and we ended up hanging out the whole entire night, me, my friend, and him. he kept saying how i was his girlfriend on the cruise, and that i would be his girlfriend if we lived in the same place. it just so happened i was going to college where he lived in about a year, and he knew that. that night we were hooking up again, and everything led to sex, and this time was even better. he said to me "you said you were a virgin right"..so i said "you remember what happened the other night right?"..and he was like "yeah, we had sex"..so i guess he was asking to be reassured that i was a virgin before him? then we were doing it for a long time, and he was talking a lot more, and physically helping me out, and he constantly asked me if i was alright, and that i need to tell him when to stop or when it hurts. i was in a lot of pain, so he suggested taking the condom off to see if it felt any better, it felt a lot better and it was only for 2 seconds, but he did say to me "the only thing is..if we take the condom off you might have to give me head"..well..i didn't end up giving him head, because i didn't want to. that night he slept over again, and we had plans to hang out the whole entire day the next day. the last night, we hung out the whole night..and then he kissed me on the lips goodbye. we exchanged myspaces and aim screen names, and after the cruise he commented me right away. we had talked back and forth for awhile..and at one point i thought he was avoiding me..so i wrote him a letter saying if you don't write back then i know you don't want anything to do with me, but he did write back, so that showed me that he cared. i ended up surprising him and visiting him one day, and he was really happy to see me. he told me i need to call next time so we can hang out..and he wanted to make sure i was definitely still coming to college near him. we talked for awhile, and then i had to leave..so he kissed me on the lips goodbye, and wrote to me about a week later asking me how my trip was, and telling me to call him next time.

1.does it sound like he liked me a lot?
2.why would he ask me if i was a virgin when he knew i was already?
3.why did i need to give head if he didn't have a condom on?

2007-01-18 12:41:26 · 8 answers · asked by ashley r 1 in Singles & Dating

I'm going to a school dance tomorrow and I really wanna dance with a guy or two!! How do I get a guy to dance with me?

2007-01-18 12:41:22 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Just by looking at them?

2007-01-18 12:41:00 · 3 answers · asked by Greg S 3 in Singles & Dating

my son which i looked for years finally found me after 46yrs the reason i kept running into dead ends was his mom changed his name telling my son that his new father adopted him can this be done thank you in advance

2007-01-18 12:40:56 · 4 answers · asked by exx_oregon_logger 2 in Family

i ask serious ?'s and all they do is be mean!!!!!! it's really mean whoever does it to mean i am doing it back to them! >:/

2007-01-18 12:40:35 · 16 answers · asked by Applebomb 1 in Singles & Dating

The reason is because he's attracted to her because she's cute but that's it.. is that really okay? I'm struggling with this thing now

2007-01-18 12:40:34 · 17 answers · asked by Nadia Miller 2 in Singles & Dating

ok.. i remeber my first time ever haveing sex it was about 5 months agao and it was hottttt, what was ur first time like??

2007-01-18 12:39:57 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-01-18 12:39:42 · 1 answers · asked by les s 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-01-18 12:39:14 · 1 answers · asked by sm177y 5 in Singles & Dating

I know it can be dangerous. We'r not dating right now, but we flirt a lot. My job is really important to me, so I really tried hard to retain myself not to flirt with him. not too close with him, not be alone with him....

but it's painful, I want to be with him, talk to him, know him more... maybe I can get over him if I find a boyfriend?

ps. he has a girlfriend who has just moved into his place, what he means by flirting with me?

2007-01-18 12:39:07 · 36 answers · asked by janet 1 in Singles & Dating

im very outgoing and love to meet new people all the time i just have a minor problem in starting conversation with women i meet which maskes it hard for me to get myself to attract them to me. basically i need some tips on how to talk or get women to notice me in such ways

2007-01-18 12:38:37 · 3 answers · asked by e3lm03o5 1 in Singles & Dating

There's this guy that I think that I would like if I got to know him but I don't know how to start a conversation. He's a grade behind me, I'm in 8th grade and he's in 7th, and I don't even know what his name is. He's in two of my classes, gym and health. I see him look at me some. Anyway, I'm kind of shy and want to know a way to start a conversation with him that doesn't sound dorky. If I talk to him it would be in gym. Thanks!

2007-01-18 12:38:21 · 1 answers · asked by shortie 3 in Singles & Dating

but my wife still doesn't want me back. I don't know what she is looking for. She says I have to pay her back all of her money that I spent on the girls and that I have to prove that I'm ready to be a good father to our baby. How do I do that?

2007-01-18 12:37:53 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I like this girl rite but i cant view her profile on myspace because it is set to private but i dont wont to add her.

2007-01-18 12:37:21 · 9 answers · asked by Joe C 1 in Singles & Dating

i got mad at my mom and talked back she said im like this evertime i get my period !!!!!! she said i better nock it off ~~~~~ is it my falt ? she also took away my cell for 2 days how retarded

2007-01-18 12:37:03 · 22 answers · asked by Mrs. Edward Cullen...Twilight 2 in Family

Being the first year student, i'm not too sure about how girls pick up guys in their classes, but these things have happened to me before:

1. In a lecture this girl from one of my classes sat next to me after saying 'dam there's no more seats left'.... in a 300 seat lecture hall which was half full

2. Another girl came and sat next to me, says she needed help on the computer, but most of what she asked was about me, then got my mobile number afterwards. (i'm still friends with her)

3. This girl chased me after class and talked about my presentation, so i talked to her and she asked about some personal stuff later, then invited me to a christmas party with her friends.

Are these signs that women are interested in you?

2007-01-18 12:36:20 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

if someone asked you, "can i trust you"?

what would say?

if some one asked you, to just tell you the truth, would you be able to speak the truth?


would you tell the truth or would you tell them, what you think they want to hear?

or

would you tell them what would benefit you or would you let your fear of losing a friend or loved one of any sort dictate what you would say?

do you live by the words of others?

or do you live by what you believe and have learned?

would you do what you wanted despite how it effect others in you life and outside of your circle?

2007-01-18 12:36:07 · 9 answers · asked by concrete water 3 in Friends

I respect all human beings. But I respect woman even more. Woman are the most beautiful souls ever created. Without woman I wouldnt have been here writing this. Without woman a man is not complete. A man is half a soul until he meets the right woman. Woman should be treasured and respected more than man. And by the way I am a man, but I have more respect for woman because [woman is the world.]

2007-01-18 12:36:07 · 23 answers · asked by mhshhaduw 2 in Singles & Dating

i go out 5 times a week untill 2am my wife dont like going out so i leave her indoors with my son he is 2 months old she does all the housework as i get up at about 1pm and am hung over why does she want to leave ,who will cook for me ?

2007-01-18 12:36:06 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Hi All,

I am getting married in the Summer and my fiance and I are up to our necks planning the big event. One of things we are organising at the moment is the flowers.

My fiance wants a nice boquet, along with smaller ones for the 2 bridesmaids, then there is table decorations for 8 tables at the afternoon reception.

After visiting a florist, she has come back to us with a quote of around £350 - does this sound reasonable ?

Any opinions appreciated.

2007-01-18 12:35:56 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

2007-01-18 12:35:04 · 3 answers · asked by sm177y 5 in Marriage & Divorce

Well, I have a big question: Should I live my bf?

I love him, it's gonna be real hard forgetting me. But he always acuses me of doing mistakes - and almost always he is overreacting the situations, we always argue, he's always sourrounded by other chicks and does mention that proudly to me...It makes me so upsat..
Sometimes I have the feeling that instead of loving me, he's against me.
He speaks so easily about breaking up with me and he says also that he's gonna be with another girl right after our break-up..He was so bd with me..
After a really small period of time of loving me, he hasn't showed me these feelings. And he wnated to beat me once or twice and I forgave him because I loved /love (I don't know what to say) every time.
But I don't know how I'm gonna manage my life without him, either.
So.... what do you think I should do? Thanks, everybody who had read this blue story.

2007-01-18 12:34:20 · 6 answers · asked by another_angel 2 in Singles & Dating

^___^

2007-01-18 12:34:17 · 5 answers · asked by Gainy 4 in Singles & Dating

Why is it your husband can have all the backstabbing looser friends in the world, but you make up with a friend and you are an idiot? I dont understand it.

2007-01-18 12:34:15 · 10 answers · asked by themom95 3 in Marriage & Divorce

Alright, this girl and i flirted with each other for like 4 months, we have class together and i see her alot everyday, i told her i liked her and all that and she said shes liked me since the first day of class, or for the 4 months weve known each other. So we dated and things were great, we were always with each other and we have a great time together, she seemed to be in love with me, but now shes telling me she doesnt like me like that now and that we should be friends for the time being and i was like what the hell, i was like how do you find me attractive for 4 months and tell me all this stuff about how were going to be a great couple and now you dont like me like that? Can anyone explain that to me. ive asked her 100 hundred times what did i do and she said its nothing ive done, she said id be the perfect bf for her but she wants to be friends, so im like well thats a crock a s-h-i-t. someone tell me whats up.

2007-01-18 12:33:53 · 1 answers · asked by me 2 in Singles & Dating