Very confusing situation with ex girlfriend, wants to be friends for now, please help?

Question

Alright, this girl and i flirted with each other for like 4 months, we have class together and i see her alot everyday, i told her i liked her and all that and she said shes liked me since the first day of class, or for the 4 months weve known each other. So we dated and things were great, we were always with each other and we have a great time together, she seemed to be in love with me, but now shes telling me she doesnt like me like that now and that we should be friends for the time being and i was like what the hell, i was like how do you find me attractive for 4 months and tell me all this stuff about how were going to be a great couple and now you dont like me like that? Can anyone explain that to me. ive asked her 100 hundred times what did i do and she said its nothing ive done, she said id be the perfect bf for her but she wants to be friends, so im like well thats a crock a s-h-i-t. someone tell me whats up.

Answer 1

It's almost impossible to remain friends after a breakup, it's something that people say to feel better about breaking up. You will probably not be 'friends' but stay civil.

Chalk this one up as experience and realize you may never know why you were dumped by her. (She thinks she's being kind by telling you it's nothing). It's time to move on to the next fish in the sea.

For what it's worth, if you ever are in a position that you need to dump someone, the stand-up thing to do is to make it a clean break. Don't 'disengage' (stop calling, start standing her up, behave like an a$$hole) and hope she'll dump you - that's a puss thing to do. Do it in person and don't leave any hope that 'things might work out.' Leave off the 'let's stay friends' bit. I look at it like this, I'd rather have a guy hate me then spend umpteen months trying to get me back.

Hope this helps dude.