but my wife still doesn't want me back. I don't know what she is looking for. She says I have to pay her back all of her money that I spent on the girls and that I have to prove that I'm ready to be a good father to our baby. How do I do that?
2007-01-18 12:37:53 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My wife isn't selfish. I did a lot of bad stuff. I spent about $65,000 trying to help my 21 and 25 year old daughters this past year. I bought them cars, paid all of their bills and I neglected paying the bills at home. We are broke now and it's my fault because I was spending money carelessly on the girls. Most of the money spent is money made by my wife-- her money from working and saving. Now she doesn't have the money to keep up the house for herself and our baby. I was terrible to her. She didn't do anything wrong. She was patient with me until she found out that I spent all of her money. The girls aren't nice to my wife at all. They are actually very mean to her and tell her that she's a whore and other names like that, so of course she doesn't like that I spent her money on them. We had to borrow money just to pay our January bills. She's mad about it and she kicked me out.
2007-01-18 12:47:48 · update #1
Tessa--- don't be mad. I realized that I didn't fully explain myself and fixed that. I'm sorry that your first impression was that she was selfish. She isn't really selfish at all. She's hurt and really ticked off with me. I gues I would have thought she was selfish if all I read was the first part of the question. Sorry.
2007-01-18 12:56:42 · update #2
Dude you gotta give her some time. You have really messed up. The girls are mean (I'VE READ YOUR OTHER POSTS) and don't deserve her money to be spent on them. You need to find a really good job and get that $65K back in your bank accounts. If she is having trouble paying her bills right now, you need to hop in there and pay them for her. It's your fault that things are so bad. You can't expect her to believe that you're going to change in such a short time. Back off, pay the bills, replace the money and give her some time. You didn't say whether she is letting you see the baby. If not, don't push her. You haven't exactly proven loyalty to her and the baby.
Good luck.
2007-01-18 12:51:38 · answer #1 · answered by CyndiDrum 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your wife is just looking for a sign that you are ready to accept responsibility. Hitting you in the money belt is a good place to start. I am a little confused?? Are you spending money on your older girls? and not the baby? Are the girls from another relationship? Thats the only way any of this makes sense. Anyway step up and be a good dad to all of your children. Mentally, emotionally, and monetaraly
2007-01-18 12:51:14 · answer #2 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What money you spent on WHAT girls? Are you talking about money you took from your wife and baby to spend on your WHORES???? I don't blame her for wanting it back. How you prove to her you are ready to be taken back is by proving it. If she cheated on you what would it take to make you really BELIEVE she was sorry? Would she have to come DIRECTLY home from work every night and not stop off at the bar on the way home for a beer? Would she tell her friends not to call the house because she won't be going out with them on the weekends any more? Would she be attentive to you, hug you and kiss you and tell you she loved you? Its gonna take a lotta TIME for you to get back in her trust. Just dont do anything that could be misconstrued. Dont have cell phone calls from strange women, don't hang out with yru frioends running the street while she is home alone with a crying baby. Maybe let her sleep in some weekends and YOU take the baby out for a while so she can relax and de stress, maybe you make her a romantic dinner once in a while instead of her always cooking for your ***. Think about what it would take for YOU to trust her again if she was sleeping around on YOU!
2007-01-18 12:47:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you really dug yourself a deep deep hole! Your daughters are old enough not to behave like that to your new wife. They are also old enough not to need their daddy come and bail them out when they get into trouble. You need to be sincere to your wife and try to do things to let her know that you are truly sorry. You also need to have a talk with your daughters and explain to them that you love your wife and that you were totally wrong to bail them out. You are in some sort of way telling them that it's okay to treat her that way by helping them out like you have. Taking money from your wife and small child to give to "grown" women is pretty bad. With some time to heal her heart maybe she will see that you have changed and give you a second chance. Good luck.
2007-01-18 12:58:08 · answer #4 · answered by 4.my.4.boys 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow! It's going to take her a long time to forgive you. The only way to get back into her good graces is to put her and the baby first in your life. Do everything you can to help her pay her bills.
2007-01-18 12:51:58 · answer #5 · answered by janetrmi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-12 14:53:01 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then you may beed to let your wife go and move on with your life... You can be a good father by being a good dad and providing for your new baby.... I wish you the best.
2007-01-18 12:52:04 · answer #7 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your wife sounds selfish to me.
You failed to give all this info. the first time around!
Lots of luck!!...That's why I said your wife is selfish.
Next time give all the info. So someone can give you the "answer" you want for YOUR problems!
When I answered, All you posted was the first part of the question. Like I said before, Lots of luck to you all...
2007-01-18 12:42:28 · answer #8 · answered by ~*~Tessa~*~ 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2014-08-20 04:40:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont give up. You are gentleman. Pray for reconciliation. God loves marriage not divorce.
2007-01-18 12:50:38 · answer #10 · answered by lou 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋