i want to try counselling because i don't know where else to get those skills & without them i'm sure we'll get divorced soon (i'm very upset about this as this is my second marriage & we've only been married a VERY short while) but my husband REFUSES counselling, even though i've told him where i think we're heading without it. i don't know what else to do. i've read books on communication (in the past) but he hasn't ever & whenever we have an issue he tends to use statements like "you always" etc. and it eventually puts me on the defensive no matter how hard i try, & then it almosts gets to the shouting stage. i really try, but i don't know what else to do to try & stop it from getting out of hand so that we start disrepecting each other during an argument. and i also don't know how to mend things well, it seems i always have to swallow my pride and apologize & it doesn't occur to him to do so. it's getting more than frustrating. please help!
2006-12-21
10:44:11
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Marriage & Divorce