i went out on a blind date with a guy i had been talking to over the phone for a week. he knew a friend of mine. he saw my picture at her house and he said i was beautiful and she gave me his number. i seen a picture of him and he was attractive (he e-mailed it to me). he's was very nice and has his head on straight, but he had self esteem issues. so he tells me he is a little on the hefty side and says that he is insecure about his size (then i wondered how old that picture was). then he tells me about the bad break up with his girlfriend (pity party). so to rush this, we meet..he's very unattractive...i still give him a chance because i am not shallow..i flirt with him (hard, more than i needed to)..he starts talkin about how he doesn't want to be hurt and he thinks i'm the ONE(moving waaaaaaay too fast)..and he gets too touchy feely. so i wanna break it off without hurting his feelings or pissing him off. i gave him a chance and he still disgusted me. what should i do?
2006-12-21 10:43:20 · 14 answers · asked by Ordinary_Gal 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
his thinking i was the one on the first date scared me off by the way...i think that is reason to lose interest in somebody.
2006-12-21 10:48:08 · update #1
All you can say is "I don't think we're right for each other" and disengage.
2006-12-21 10:46:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him (in person) that you don't feel the same way toward him as he does toward you, and that by him telling you how he thinks you are THE ONE for him right off the bat makes you feel uneasy. You might ask him WHY he would think this, as there's NO WAY he could know enough about you to come to any kind of informed conclusion. If I were in your situation, I wouldn't meet for cokes or coffee either...just someplace public but quiet enough to get your point across. And don't feel badly for telling the truth, they say there's someone for everyone, you're just not the somebody for HIS body.
2006-12-21 18:59:29 · answer #2 · answered by rocksursox 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you are not going to like this but honesty is the best policy. Tell him exactly how you feel. Tell him that you are very sorry but you are just not comfortable with him. That you feel no chemistry and you are not at all interested in a committed relationship at this time in your life. There is just no way to keep from hurting someones feelings when you are delivering a message that they don't want to hear.
2006-12-21 18:50:50 · answer #3 · answered by sunny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him know honestly that you believe he is rushing and you are in no way interested in a relationship. Be honest, he thinks he has a chance, so change that thought. Do it on the phone, he sounds a little whiny and you don't want to have to look for an escape route.
2006-12-21 18:47:16 · answer #4 · answered by bridgette c 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That was SO nice of you to give him a chance, I can't say I would have even considered it! So wow. Anyway, tell him the truth and FAST. He told you that you were THE ONE??? CREEPY. Oh man. Okay just let him know there's no chemistry. Or he's going to annoy the crap out of you unitl you do.
2006-12-21 18:48:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try telling him that you're not interested in dating anyone right now, that you're happy being single at the moment. That you value him as a friend and would like to just be friends right now.
2006-12-21 18:47:36 · answer #6 · answered by sparrowbaby 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you enjoyed your phone talks, but that he just isn't the person you're looking for. Tell him that you'd like to start up a friendship...
2006-12-21 19:36:48 · answer #7 · answered by dramatic_miss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you are gay. If he asks for how long, say "since I met you". Just carefully explain that he is not the one you are looking for - and not just because he is ugly, fat and retarded but also because of his personality. A farewell root might soften the blow.
2006-12-21 18:51:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the best thing you can do is tell him no more, and don't worry about hurting his feelings. Tell him what you posted in here.
2006-12-21 18:47:56 · answer #9 · answered by g49joeybethl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that you are not interested. In the end lies hurt more.
2006-12-21 18:46:19 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ Emily ♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well tell up front , as alway it is going to hurt , but th truth and being up front is the was to go
2006-12-21 18:50:41 · answer #11 · answered by hm10s4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋