I am very seriously thinking of separating from my husband. History long to sumarize. We both care for each other but live like brother and sister. We have two children (12 and 9). We have a very unbalanced financial situation (most assets under his name). He is extremely busy with work, so no time to waste on personal issues. Been together 20 years. Sex life quite miserable. We both know what fatal attraction love means (but we did not live it together - I mean, I was attracted to him, but him not to me). He has lots of qualities but, like anybody, not easy to live with. In his case: tensed, cold, rigid, "emotionally handicaped" (? :-) ).
If you were that guy, but also just being a man, what is it you want to hear, not hear, when your wife suggests separation is the best way forward?
(U need to know he suggested separation 4 months ago, but I refused, still hoping we can make this work. In the meanwhile his mid-life-crisis affair ended and he has not taken any clear line). IDs? Tks
2006-07-09
03:55:39
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Claire
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