is it ok to snoop in your daughters diary if you feel she is hiding things..like drug abuse sex ect ect?

Answer 1

Yes. If your daughter is a minor then her well-being is in your hands.

I wouldn't suggest snooping in her diary at first. Instead, ask her. Put it all out there --- your concerns, fears, etc.

After the conversation if you feel that she hasn't been truthful or is still hiding things then go ahead and read the diary. If there is no evidence of her doing bad things then keep it to yourself. Now, you have to live with the fact that you didn't trust her.

If there is evidence then confront her. When she finds out you read her diary she'll be mad and try to turn the tables on you for not obeying her privacy. Remember, that's not the issue. Her lying and drug use or whatever is the ultimate concern. And in this case, she has to live with the fact that she's been untrustworthy.

Answer 2

Yes, if u feel this is going on u should know this. Your only being a concern parent who cares about her child or kids and better u know then to find out later to when it's too late. I know lots of people would say your wrong and u should trust ur kids, but thats not always the truth, sometimes u have to do what u need to know. And in the end your kids will come to see that ur were just making sure they were in line. Kids tend to allow peer pressure to over rule them and parents need to get involved and not let that happen.

So if something in u is telling to to read her diary then u might wnat to listen to it and do it,

Yes she may be mad but, HEY U THE PARENT SHE'S THE CHILD

But if ur gonna do this u may want to do it without her knowing too soon because she wil either hide it, get another and hid it at a friends house. So do ur work clean and don't let her know until u feel it's time.

Good Luck, I hope she's not doing anything but being a teen and nothing that will cause her or u pain and worry

Answer 3

If you are asking this question is because you already know the answer, If you snoop, then the other person has the right to snoop on you, how would you like your daughter snooping on your e-mails, your letters, yor phone calls, your friends, your sex life, if you have any, just because she suspect you are hiding something, if she has a diary and she knows you know where it is then she trust you won't open it, Remember when you were her age? DON'T DO IT!!!!

Answer 4

Well, it really depends. I believe in privacy. But in certain situations you may need to do some snooping. She may be into something that is really dangerous. Drugs, meeting people from the net, prostitution....to name a few of the dangers. I'm not saying that she is but pay attention to her behavior. Is she acting up? Is she withdrawn? Giving you a reason to think something is really wrong? Then it's your job as a parent to protect her from the dangers so if snooping helps....do it. Better to snoop and find out what you need to know so possibly you can save her from distruction.

Answer 5

My parents "snooped" my journal when I was in high school. It was a work of fiction so well done that my father, once I told him the truth, was so relieved because he thought I was growing up to be a total dweeb or a future Republican (redundant). I didn't tell him 10% of the things I really did during those years and somehow I turned out fine.

Answer 6

Don't snoop in her diary. There are other ways to find out if she is using drugs or having sex, etc.... You need to respect her by keeping her secrets....even from you. If you do look you will never be trusted again and you, personally won't like how you feel about yourself for "cheating". Your friendship and trust will last forever but if you look you will never trust yourself and she won't trust you. Good Luck

Answer 7

And do you think that she'd entrust such sensitive matters to her diary with the possibility of being snooped at by others like you? if you're suspecting anything then have a friendly talk with her and ask her (without sounding hysterical or patronizing) about the things that you fear she might have done and if so try to solve them amicably.

Answer 8

yes its ok when it comes to something like the thing you've mentioned, as long is you're not being paranoid and noisy, however if you do find something, don't blow up at her, try to talk with her about it, cause in my opinion if you push hard on a teenager ( which i assume she is a teenager ) she will push back, by wanting to do those things even more. And IF YOU DO IT DON"T TELL HER YOU DID IT.......................ok i'm sorry you got a really stupid answer from L-rad just understand you could be the best parent in the world and you children are still going to experment and get in a lillte trouble from time to time

Answer 9

She probably is hiding things from you. Most teens do. Our adult minds make things worse than they are. But unless you have true concerns that her life is in danger leave it alone. Set the example and trust your kid. Tell her you trust her. Make sure she knows about birth control without accusing her. You can do that without condoning sex at her age. Talk about unwed mothers that are struggling and missing proms etc, etc.
But you cannot be with her 24/7. Til she proves different you will have to trust her and pray for her and set the example. m

Answer 10

Hell no. It pisses me off when I come home from school to find my parents uprooting my room in search for sh!t. I usually never do anything to betray their trust, they just do it for the hell of it, but take it from me, the more they do it, the more I turn my back on them. If I did that stuff, i definitely wouldn't like that in my diary. Just ask your daughter straight to her face. A confrontation to a drug abuser 9 times out of 10 throws them off guard.