2006-07-09 04:00:33 · 36 answers · asked by chris 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It depends
although they cheated on you, they might regret it terribly.
You need to look into it more
ask yourself questions
do you really like this person enough to do something about it?
how many times has he/she cheated on you?
do you know any of her/his feelings about it?
Is there any way to talk to her/him about it? (always try to be open)
Define trust
It really depends on your situation and each persons feelings about each other
i cant really give you a direct answer
good luck
2006-07-09 04:09:18 · answer #1 · answered by skatergal01 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It don't have much to do with if you trust or not.
The question is do you have enough love for this person to forgive. I don't think the trust will ever come back.
If it bothers you that bad that they had some fun and put you as number one in their lifes and came back to you then you must remove this person from your life. Does this really make a person so bad because of such a simple act?
Some people will set there with a can of beer in their hand half drunk and say that they found out their other was smoking pot so they dumped them because they will not put up with a dope smoker. Well they are drunks and drunks are way below a pot smoker. Pot smokers will not beat you to death and a drunk will. How did that one get so backwards?
Then there is the Gay / Lezy thing. A guy thinks it is ok if his woman has a woman freind that they have sex with and it is not called cheating. So why is is cheating if she has sex with a male?
It is all in how you were raised. You was programmed to not allow this and is how you are. You do need to leave this person alone and go on your way. It is not their fault that you do not understand and they should not have to put up with your controlling ways.
Remember it is your life and you have to live it the way you think best. If this is best for you then so be it. Get away from this person and leave them alone. Do not go around telling people bad things about them to make you feel like you are on the top. A lot of people would be happy to see you two break up so they can step in. They think how nice it would be to be with her / him even if it is just for a few months. Love the life you had with someone for the good parts and don't look back on the bad times in your life. Remember them and learn from them but don't be down on someone because you don't understand or can't asept it
2006-07-09 04:20:29 · answer #2 · answered by Don K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be practically impossible to trust them again.
Also I have live a low risk lifestyle. Married faithful, husband faithful.
If a spouse is cheating in their marriage, they are putting you at risk for disease. You can end up with aids or any number of diseases. If you have children, an unfaithful spouse could leave your children orphans. In other words they are hurting your children.
In fact they have already cheated on the children. Parents should be together and supporting each other. It gives a feeling of security to the children.
With all this new fang-led stuff like same sex parents; The thing that really works is 1 Man & 1 Women, Sex only after marriage & only with each other. Have and raise children and don't spend more than you make. And Go to Church at least 1x a week. Pray at home.
It is better to leave the cheating spouse and then at least your children will still have you to parent and love them.
God Bless You, ;-)
2006-07-09 04:22:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so, because if I trusted him b 4 and it turns out he was cheating then all the trust would not be there anymore. He would have to win back the trust, and the sad thing about that is u still in the back of your mind have feeling he may still be doing it or will again. But NO I wouldn't trust him again
2006-07-09 04:22:34 · answer #4 · answered by itspink22@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The trust has been broken even if you stayed together and really tried hard to forget the cheating i dont think you would be able too. It would come up in arguments, also imagine if you went away on your own for a few days you would worry that the cheating would be happening again. good luck go with your heart and your head x
2006-07-09 05:12:54 · answer #5 · answered by princess tinkle UK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reasons for cheating vary between guys and girls. If a guy cheats he can be trusted again because guys have difficulty in controlling the animal nature God installed in us. Girls that cheat usually need to have some type of deeper thing going with the person she cheated with. If a girl cheated she is probably looking for someone else, if a guy cheated he is probably just looking for a 10 minute miracle. Good Luck
2006-07-09 04:09:52 · answer #6 · answered by marks3kids 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not easily. You will need to be able to talk this through together and find out why he cheated, and whether the reasons for his behaviour can be dealt with. You will need to find out whether you really do have deep feelings for each other and whether you think you can recreate a bond between the two of you. Even then, it could be some years before you begin to relax about his whereabouts and what he's up to. Is he important enough for you to go through all that?
2006-07-09 05:51:13 · answer #7 · answered by pretty face 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how you found out and how she came to be cheating. If he came clean and said 'I kissed somone last night' I would have to take a break from them to see what they do in this break (test them) then I would way it all up.
If my mate had to tell me and everyone knew before me, Id feel humiliated and couldnt trust anyone who is so willing to openly cheat on me like that.
Also, if the relly was amazing at the time he was cheating, I couldnt trust them. Id never know whether I was coming or going!
2006-07-09 08:53:23 · answer #8 · answered by Wicked Top. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From my own personal experience, once the cheat they will again and do. It's your life, however, think about it, a sexual bond between two people in love is a special one, once it is broken it can't really ever be repaired, as even years down the line, you still can't get the pictures and anger out of your head of the one you love with someone else. Save yourself more heartache, find someone that is loyal and honest to you. GL X
2006-07-09 04:31:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortuneately, this situation sounds familiar. I was the unfaithful one though just not as long. We really did try to get back on track after i admitted i cheated, but we ended up going our separate ways.
I feel that hurting that man was one of the biggest mistakes i've ever made, but i know it would be furthering the mistake to hinder this man from his true love. and ..... it wasn't me
Someone doesn't love you if they can't choose between you and another.
A wise member of this message board told me, "If they really love you, you'll always be the first choice"
Good Luck, Live Happy, Let go...
2006-07-09 04:07:53 · answer #10 · answered by Bianca 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my partner cheated on my 2 months into the relationship now 2 years later i do trust him but he had to earn it back...it was very tough and i think you can only do that if they totally know what they did was very wrong and hurt you a lot....good luck hope things work out either way
2006-07-09 04:38:32 · answer #11 · answered by sanders_sammy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋