Family & Relationships - 21 June 2006

I asked a question a few days ago (which most people attacked me personally just for asking) asking whether or not you thought blacks deserve reparations. Surprising, a lot of you were against reparations for blacks. Many sited that there are no longer any "living" slaves, your ancestors were not slave owners (probably becuase they could not afford slaves),others stated that the Africans were the ones that sold their own into slavery and are more responsible.

What about the remaining psychological damage that has been passed down from generation to generation. What about the "Willie Lynch" theory that was use to control slaves. Those traits are still manifest in African Americans today. What about when slavery was "finally" abolished and we had to deal with the angry whites who did not want us to have our freedom and to a certain extent the racism is still alive today making it hard for blacks to succeed (poor education, poor housing,broken homes, unfair judicial systems). Well?

2006-06-21 09:12:26 · 8 answers · asked by Oracle 3 in Friends

This 15 year old girl is trying to be my friend. She really seems to want to be friends. Is it strange for me to be friends with her when i'm 18?

2006-06-21 09:12:14 · 8 answers · asked by mountaingirl88 3 in Friends

2006-06-21 09:12:03 · 3 answers · asked by Jewel 2 in Singles & Dating

What is it that makes you know shes the one, The one thats completly different from the others?

2006-06-21 09:11:27 · 14 answers · asked by menice 2 in Singles & Dating

what do you consider the sexiest pair of underwear (like style, fabric, etc.)???

2006-06-21 09:10:56 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I have a 11 month old baby Prince who just LOVES his gammy's puppies. He is just learning how to walk, among other things, and I thought maybe I should start thinking about getting him his own puppy... Advice anyone?

2006-06-21 09:10:54 · 38 answers · asked by T O 1 in Family

we juss tried it in there and he told me he finished and he said nothin will happen...is it true?

2006-06-21 09:09:27 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

but she asked if he wanted to go to the bar he said ya she gave him a drink that had some drug in it he got drunk she took him home they had sex last night and he called me at 6:00am to tell me he apoligized should i forgive him or not?

2006-06-21 09:09:18 · 11 answers · asked by niki c 1 in Singles & Dating

when you're married,living together for financial reasons,and love is no longer there, what do you do?i know as far as love is concern i'll never love another man , i feel like i'm incapable of love.this is my 2nd marriage same bulls**t , i'm tired of being the woman and the man of the house.my husband and i rarely have sex, maybe if we're f***ed up,we will .sex is not a factor but should i feel guilty if from time to time i go elsewhere for satisfaction?

2006-06-21 09:08:47 · 28 answers · asked by babyblues 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2006-06-21 09:08:25 · 50 answers · asked by limeallure 3 in Other - Family & Relationships

hey. well, my relationship ended on the lose basis of my dependancy freaking out my girlfriend. i never meant it to get that way but it was long distance for the last part and i was going through a real rough patch and i was pretty down and lay burden on her i guess. i dont believe she has stopped loving me but im worried that by the fact that we are still living long distance there isnt much i can do. i dont want to ring too much because that might freak her? but at the same time, what can i do to remind her of the good old me who is back and wants her, we were great together.....any advice please

2006-06-21 09:07:42 · 10 answers · asked by confused 2 in Singles & Dating

2006-06-21 09:06:24 · 10 answers · asked by benikouachifa 1 in Singles & Dating

MY HUSBAND ONLY GETS DESIRE FOR SEX WHEN WE ARE TALKING ABOUT HOW IT WOULD BE IF I WAS HAVING SEX WITH SOMEONE ELSE. WHAT IS GOING ON HERE? AT TIMES HE IS SURE HE WANTS ME TO SLEEP AROUND BUT THEN LATER HES NOT SURE. I WOULD REALLY LIKE TO KNOW IF HES THE ONLY PERSON ON EARTH WITH A PROBLEM LIKE THIS.

2006-06-21 09:06:15 · 19 answers · asked by NEED HELP 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

How can I find a man who i can date and marry be years end? What are some signs when I meet a guy that he is a keeper or a waste of my time. I am tired of wasting my time on relationships that go nowhere.

2006-06-21 09:05:53 · 4 answers · asked by reallyfedup 5 in Singles & Dating

some people told me that my boyfriend is gay and he knows me for some social stuff how i can know if he is a gay or not by examing his body ?

2006-06-21 09:05:30 · 20 answers · asked by i love you all 1 in Singles & Dating

in sacramento california

2006-06-21 09:05:15 · 10 answers · asked by falisia 1 in Weddings

donnoway@yahoo.com would love to hear from you. And yes, all the rude obnoxious things you are about to say about me are probably all true. Thanks for noticing.

2006-06-21 09:05:09 · 14 answers · asked by Dave D 2 in Singles & Dating

My boyfriend (of two years) told his mother that he wants to marry me. Although him and I have talked about the marriage issue (more than he'd like to lol) and have agreed that one day, yea, we're gonna jump the broom. A few days ago his mom accidentally told me that he talked to her about marrying me... He even showed her the ring (online) that we picked out... What does that mean? (lol) Like if we've been talking about it for a while now, what does it mean that he's just now telling his mom??

2006-06-21 09:03:22 · 16 answers · asked by Chelly 2 in Singles & Dating

I know how to get my way by being sneaky & I know it's wrong but I don't mean to hurt anyone. I have a good heart & soul.

2006-06-21 09:03:10 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

2006-06-21 09:02:57 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

2006-06-21 09:02:28 · 14 answers · asked by MAMA 1 in Singles & Dating

I just sometimes feel that way. And I don't know which category to put this in.

2006-06-21 09:02:01 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

Help! My fiance has 5 kids. I love them dearly, as I have none besides them. However both moms are drugged out, abusive, money hungry, vengeful women! The courts are no help with us. One mama owes over $3k, the other wiped us clean of over $40k in a divorce settlement her infidelity caused! They cause me and the kids so much stress, yet the kids still love them as their moms. Meanwhile I feel like the one doing all the raising, getting no credit and losing my shirt! I love my kids, but sometimes it feels like all I do is in vain. Should I marry my man? Or is this just too much to deal with for the rest of my life? We've been together for 3 years and the Mama Drama still upsets me.

2006-06-21 09:00:52 · 16 answers · asked by Lani 2 in Marriage & Divorce

My ex-husband agreed to and signed our divorce decree. In that decree, it specifically states what I'm entitled to. I didn't ask for much. Just my personal belongings and my share of the house (he bought me out). Our divorce was final on December 16, 2005. I've contacted him multiple times and in different ways (phone, email, and family messengers). He will not respond and I'm still trying to get my things. We're talking pictures, my son's childhood drawings and toys, etc. He says he threw them away. My next step is to have the police department escort me to the property to retrieve my belongings. I live in a completely different state and hate to make the plans just to find out that he HAS thrown them away. Any thoughts, suggestions or past experiences? As a sidebar, our divorce was uncontested and we used the same attorney just to process the paperwork. It was completely amicable until he found out I met someone else (way after our divorce started).

2006-06-21 09:00:11 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

When and where is the best time to give somebody a love note?

2006-06-21 08:59:48 · 9 answers · asked by Grace 1 in Singles & Dating

My family and my fiancé's family and our friends are religiously diverse. My mother's side is Baptist and Catholic, and my father's is Methodist. His family is Episcopalian and Baptist. We have friends that are Jewish, Muslim, and Hindu. We are not particularly attached to any religion ourselves. What kind of service would satisfy all of our families, but not be too heavy-duty religious or offensive to our various guests?

2006-06-21 08:59:10 · 15 answers · asked by BabyBear 4 in Weddings

You still think of her fondly, although you haven't spoken to her for years.
What would you love to hear her say to you?

Be specific.

2006-06-21 08:58:49 · 18 answers · asked by fortressmystique 1 in Singles & Dating

I would NEVER cheat on my girlfriend. And I never do anything outside of: smiles, compliments, and ambiguous checking out.
But, would you consider what I'm doing “bad”?

2006-06-21 08:57:58 · 41 answers · asked by Flight&Fight 2 in Singles & Dating

My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over a year now. He's claims to be very religious (when he wants to be), and occasionally will say his conscious is bothering him and we should stop having sex. So we won't have sex for about 6 weeks, then he will decide he wants to have sex. Being celibate is not my choice and I never know when he will decide that we have to become celibate again. Is it wrong of me to want to have a "backup plan"? Meaning, I would like to have a friend I can call when my boyfriend decides we aren't going to have sex. I am getting tired of this roller coaster relationship, but I really do love him, however I have my needs as well.

2006-06-21 08:57:49 · 15 answers · asked by Slice 2 in Singles & Dating

girlz!

2006-06-21 08:57:26 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends