I found the question on People Pleasing very interested.
I am married to a people pleaser. I myself, have been guilty of this as well but my husband "beats the cake" so to speak.
I know it does have some advantages but with my dh. it has really affected our relationship because he puts others "needs before mine". People take advantage of his generosity and are always asking for help(help with moving, or getting him to drive them somewhere - it is ALWAYS something. Family are the worst.
I have been quite ill and we were at the drs. the other day and the dr.was going through my blood tests and dh said, "Don't you think we better go - there are people waiting!"
I know why dh is like this because he lost a friend (killed on road) when he was 12 - his friend asked him to come with him to watch his g/friend play netball and he said "no," and he made up some story and his friend got killed on the road - he felt guilty and had a breakdown.
He is ok now but still feels guilty. any ideas?
2006-06-12
05:29:17
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